My best friend thinks shes ugly? Any advice?
She tells me she feel like no guy likes her, and that she feels ugly. When I hang out with her, guys check her out, but she never believes me, i guess she just has low self-esteem. Im her best friend and i want her to feel better, any advice? Your opinion on her looks? Her pictures- http://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash4/314819_478654655524495_1979752963_n.jpg http://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn1/64950_478651572191470_1413043902_n.jpg http://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-snc7/393113_463946976995263_465046184_n.jpg (shes the one with black hair i'm the blonde one)
My husband isn't attractive.... any advice?
My husband is not an attractive man - at all. I knew that when we started dating, and at the time I thought I could overlook it. Quite a few people mentioned his looks to me and it was quite embarrassing. I would consider myself a decent looking woman (I've been told such, at least!) and my husband was attractive to me because of his intelligence, stability and generally positive personality traits. He is a good husband! He works hard, is supportive and kind, and is an amazing stepfather to my children. For those reasons I decided to marry him. I'm still struggling. I've mentioned things to him over the years (we've been together four) about some of his physical qualities - acne scarring (I understand that he cannot do much about), skin tags everywhere, obesity. He even picks at his acne all of the time. He's tried to work on that habit and has improved somewhat. It's just gross and a total sexual turnoff. Yes, I knew all of this when we got married, I know that. I figured that I'd just get used to it all and the lack of physical attraction would be overcome by the emotional attraction (at least we have that on some level or I'd never be able to be physically intimate). When we were first together and got married I was also overweight and didn't take care of myself terribly well. I believe that a part of me thought I couldn't get a "sexy" husband anyhow, so looks shouldn't matter. That was my insecurity. We discussed getting in shape together and I held up my end of the bargain and lost 50 lbs. He has gained more weight. So here I am, married to a very nice and stable guy who is also a good friend - but who I'm not even slightly physically attracted to. I'm wondering if anyone out there would have any constructive advice, because I'm struggling here. I don't *want* it to be this way, but I wonder how great our marriage could be if I could just somehow feel that physical desire.
My self esteem is so low. What is your advice for unattractive teenagers like me?
I possess some manly features: square jaws, monolids and hairy arms. These traits have some serious negative connotation among Asians. In school, only girls with double eyelids were considered pretty. Oval faces were highly favored. Milky complexion buys your way into popularity.I went from being a ballerina who pirouetted in tutu to a short haired girl in basketball pants training during the sunniest hour. I researched profusely on hair removal. I secretly bought pumice stones and waxing strips. I was only 12.The negativity and self hatred within ended abruptly during a conversation I had when I was 16.My trick?I made fun of myself.-Boy 1: Cal, omg, I didn't realize your arm was so hairy.Boy 2: What? Where?! Let me see. WHOA.Boy 3: Lololol.*ugh, calming myself down*Me: Yeah... When I apply lotion it gets so messy and tangled. I even have a special comb for it.-The moment I turned my insecurity into a lighthearted joke was the second I learned to take things lightly.I found solace in knowing people often forget what they say anyway. They probably didn't realize how painful words could be. However, if I allowed their meaningless words to hurt me, that's on me.When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.What are your favorite features?Focus on those, flaunt them, make them happen.At the same time, do what others suggested: grow yourself intellectually and be a better person than you were yesterday.When you focus on the good, the good gets better.You’re so much more than just your features.You got this.-More on how I got out of it here.
Should I get a nose job to improve dating, confidence, etc?
As a guy, I hope to God you love your mom because that is a f*****d up thing to say to her daughter. Do what makes you happy.
My ex girlfriend is too attractive?
I've been single for 2 months now. It was a 3 year relationship and her reason for breaking up was that she lost feelings for me and she found me sexually unattractive. She's moving on with a guy who looks like a taller upgraded version of me who has been a problem in our relationship since the first day we started dating. I spend so much time looking around for women to possibly help me take my mind off of her, but everywhere I look, no one is as attractive as she is. She's short, thin with assets, and has a beautiful face. Although the person that she is now repels me, I can't stop thinking about how great we were as a couple and how much love we had for each other. To top it off, I was always the envy of the room because everyone wanted her, but only I could have her. I've dated girls before based on their personalities but couldn't stay with them because the attraction wasn't there. I know it's very shallow of me, but I honestly can't help it. Now that I've had such a beautiful girlfriend, I feel the only way to go from here is to upgrade, but women who look like her, or better, have no interest in guys like me. Advice? When we first got together, she said she cared about personality first, looks second. She would always say I had a great personality and that she always thought I was "a beautiful man." But after her actions, I feel more insecure then I ever have. I know confidence is key, but how can you have confidence when your ex leaves you for a person who looks like you?
My boyfriend is fat, advice?
The question you need to ask yourself is does his weight truly bother you or is the comments that other people make. If it truly annoys you that he doesn't take better care of himself maybe tell him about the comments people make to you about him then ask him why he doesn't take better care of himself. But only do this if you are truly a concerned for him. If he doesn't change and you can't deal with it then end the relationship because you two aren't a good match for each other.
What is it like to date an extremely attractive woman?
It’s great, but definitely has its issues. Here are some of the pros and cons based on looks alone.Pros:Sex life can be really greatLots of extra attentionPeople/businesses treat you betterSocial proof (if you date one hot girl, other hot girls will be more interested in you).Boosts confidenceCons:Lots of extra attention. Guys literally flock to her ALL OF THE TIME, doesn’t even matter where. Almost every day I’m told of some random guy that approached her at work or at the store or anywhere really. When I’m with her I literally need to work to keep them off of her.Ex boyfriends tend to linger around forever. The single ones still try to get back with her even though it’s been years and she isn’t interested at all.Incredible amount of attention on social media. Even if she isn’t active, she gets a ton of likes / comments / messages every day. We’ll be sitting there hanging out with each other and be interrupted by a notification that some random guy is liking her pictures from 2 months ago or sent her a ridiculous message.You know that there are literally hundreds of guys patiently waiting for you to have a fight so they can try to squeeze their way into the mix.They can expect a lot of you. They can be difficult at times to test you. An attractive women is likely an experienced dater and looking for a man who can handle her. If you can’t, you aren’t enough of a man for her. It’s okay, though because you’ll be better prepared for the next woman.You are replaceable. Logically speaking, it’s very easy for a beautiful woman to leave you and go get another boyfriend. You need to be comfortable with this. Here’s the thing though, she is dating you now for a reason. You are likely attractive as well for whatever reasons. Know that you can also replace her. It’s not a reflection of either of your worth though so don’t think you’re better or worse than one another if it doesn’t work out. It just didn’t work out.These are just some of the pros and cons but hopefully it paints a pretty good picture for you. Dating a beautiful woman is an incredible experience. I believe it’s one of, if not the greatest reward life can offer and I wouldn’t have it any other way. It definitely has its challenges, though, and can be really stressful at times.
What makes someone attractive personality wise?
I think you need to work on YOUR personality. You are re-enforcing your girlfriends negative opinion of herself. Her personality will probably improve automatically when you quit arguing with her, and agreeing that she isn't physically attractive. If she thinks she needs to work on her personality, SHE should be the one asking the questions and getting advice, not you. You can't argue her into a better sense of herself. Her confidence would improve if you told her that you love her EXACTLY the way she is...that YOU find her attractive.. etc. *** with your added details, you start by being a good example. Don't protect her from the results of her behavior when she is rude and selfish. Just remember that you can't change her, she has to want to. If I wasted space, it might have been because you didn't give the right info...I responded to what YOU said.