Do cobedders worry about SIDS and smothering?
- There is no additional risk, Mozz you've been reading leftovers Co-sleeping reduces the risk of SIDS. I co-slept in part *because* I was concerned about it. If my daughter was going to stop breathing in the middle of the night, I wanted her right there next to me where I could notice and do something about, rather than in a crib down the hall alone where I wouldn't know anything was wrong until it was too late. Nursing mothers generally sleep more lightly and are very aware of their babies at night. Smothering isn't an issue unless there is some other factor involved (illness, drug/alcohol use, etc.). I always woke a few seconds before my daughter started rooting to nurse at night, and I'd wake whenever she began to scoot anywhere. There were a few occasions when she was a toddler that I'd wake up (from a seemingly deep sleep) just in time to catch her as she was about to roll off the far edge of the bed.
Why do people invite the whole class to a birthday party?
I'm just curious about this because I doubt most children are friends with every child in the class. I know growing up there were always a few "trouble makers" that my children just didn't hang around with or just kids they didn't click with. When we have had parties we have always had them just invite their friends and people they play with at school or outside of school. I wouldn't invite the whole class because they aren't friends with everyone. Whenever my child is invited to a party for someone in their class who I don't know, I ask them about the child and if they play together or hang out together and what that child is like and if they are friends. I personally don't like it when my child is invited to a party where the whole class was invited. It just seems so impersonal to me, as if my child were only invited because he happens to be in the same class and the more presents the better. I prefer my child to get invited to parties where he was invited because the birthday child likes him and they are friends, that is more personal. So I just wonder what is the meaning behind inviting the whole class, is it just not to leave anyone out because children have to learn at some point they won't be invited to every party. Is it to get more gifts? Is it to have a bigger party? I am not trying to be negative about it, I really just want to understand the reasoning behind it and maybe then I won't view it the way I do? My son's 10th birthday is next week and he picked 10 kids in his class to come. It's $18.95 per child and there are 19 children in his class so that would be about $360 for the party if we invited everyone, plus his cake and his gift and tokens for the arcade room at the bowling alley. That would be way too much for us for one birthday party. Even if we could afford the whole class, I wouldn't want to invite that many kids to a bowling party it would be chaos and not to mention my son isn't friends with the whole class. There are a couple of boys in his class who are simply trouble. We don't send the invites to school, I use the school directory and send them in the mail so it's not like invites are being passed out in front of those not invited. So what possess someone to invite the whole class? Thanks for all who answer without being rude as I am just trying to understand.
Should minors be allowed to drink with Adult supervision?
I would rather my daughter drink around me as a minor than out in the streets with her friends. I'm not talking about her friends. Just her. I'm not saying I would pick up a 6-pack for her at the store but I have told her that when she is ready to try the things that teenagers try, come to me first. That is how the line of communication stays open between you and your children.
What happens when two narcissists are in a relationship?
To be fair, everyone is narcissistic to some degree. It more of a sliding scale than a toggle. We all have varying degrees of needing admiration and not feeling empathy. With that out of the way, when someone is characterized has having narcissistic personality disorder then hit several bullet points on the list:believing they are more special than othersneed for constant attentionlacking empathysuccess fantasiesexpects to be treated better than othersThere are quite a few more indicators, but you get the gist. People with NPD can be very charming - they want others to like them, after all. They need the attention and reassurance that they are amazing. So if you put two very charming people bent on charming others in a room together it will probably be all hearts and flowers for a while.However, the lack of empathy is going to cause issues. The first time one of them gets the flu it is going to be a coin toss if the other one cares, or does anything for them. And it will be the same for every situation where one of them needs help and the other one thinks that it takes away from their personal time, or is boring, or whatever.There is also a situation that occurs in relationships where each half of the couple remembers *more* of what they do for the other person, and *less* of what is done for them. I will remember very well that I took you to dinner and listened to you gripe about work for an hour. I might forget that you filled up my gas tank and walked my dog. So most normal people in a relationship already feel like they are doing more than their partner. For people with NPD this is a much worse situation - they always need to feel great, like they are the best, like they do the most. If two people with NPD start cataloging what they do for each other it’s only going to escalate.I also suspect that people with NPD are good at picking out other people with NPD, and are generally not interested in them. They really do want a partner who thinks they are amazing, not someone who is trying to BS them.
Should you spank your child for throwing a temper tantrum, regardless of the reason?
First, let me say that if you don't believe in spanking then this question is not for you. My 5 year old step daughter just had the mother of all temper tantrums. My wife was in the backyard and told her to go to bed and with me being in the house I was left to enforce the punishment. The problem is my wife and I have been separated for longer than we were married. We have a 2 1/2 year old son together who we share custody 50/50. My stepdaughter has a father she sees less than 3 times a year. When my stepdaughter saw that I was staying the night which I do once or twice a week, she threw her tantrum. The problem is this: my wife and I both believe in spanking, but I am more consistent with it. Certain major offenses get a spanking...EVERYTIME it happens. My wife is more random. I have more experience raising children as I have a 13 and 9 year old as well as our 2 1/2 year old son. However, my wife is a special education teacher working mainly with severly handicapped and emotionally disturbed kids...yet my wife will admit that her education is in teaching children...not parenting. After my stepdaughter threw her tantrum I pulled my wife to the side and told her that if our son had thrown the same tantrum, even at his age he would have gotten a spanking. My wife's response was that her daughter was throwing the tantrum because she is upset that her brother has a father that spends time with him and she doesn't have a father. She also says that she feels guilty for putting her child in that situation & that we should let her daugther express herself. I deferred to my wife as that is her child and she deals with emotionally disturbed children. However, this does expose a difference in how the children are treated because had my children been here they would feel that their step sister is getting special treatment. Not to mention that our 2 1/2 year old absolutely knows better than to act like that.
Have you met in person distant cousins after doing family history work? How did it go?
I have met two half second cousins in Scotland. I knew my maternal great grandmother growing up and I am named after her. She was quite a revered family matriarch, mother of 9. What none of us knew was her backstory before she emigrated to Canada with my grandmother in arms in 1908, to join my great grandfather who had come before in 1906.She told a lot of fibs to hide her past, that I untangled during my research. The truth was she was born out of wedlock into the worst kind of grinding poverty in the slums of Greenock Scotland. She was a live in servant by age 12. Her mother, grandparents and brother (also illegitimate) all died before she was 20 and she had no one, literally no one (her mother was an only child). She got pregnant by her employer in 1900 and got thrown out. She had the baby in the Greenock workhouse and left him there. She got pregnant again in 1904 by a married man, and left the baby girl on his doorstep. These two were my grandmother’s siblings - I grew up very close to all of the ones we knew about in Canada. Great granny never told anyone about these lost babies. We don’t judge. She did what she had to do to survive in a world with no safety net.I found the children and grandchildren of the girl 20 years ago still living in Greenock and there has been visiting back and forth and we are great friends. A year ago, DNA turned up the granddaughter of the boy.Here we are in Glasgow last summer.Three women who all have the same great grandmother. I am the one with short grey hair. The granddaughter of the boy has long silver hair and the granddaughter of the girl is the ginger. We're second cousins. It was fun to meet and share pictures and stories.
Who is your favorite comic book side kick?
I have two main favorite side kicks. Or atleast they use to be side kicks.The first one is none other than the deadliest tween superhero:Hit-GirlWho was Big Daddy's (Her father) Side Kick once upon a timeMy second one is none other than the bastard daughter of The TerminatorThe Ravager Aka Rose Wilson/Worth.Who was Deathstroke's (Her Father) Side Kick once upon a time