How can I set the default "Conversations" view to "slim" rather than the apparent default of "relaxed"?
Prior to the NEO upgrade that took place the web view of any group could be set and it would be remembered during subsequent sessions. This feature is apparently broken at this time and needs to be set each day for every group. The setting is "forgotten" immediately upon leaving a group to read another. Any thoughts on making the "view" preference of "slim" persistent? Thanks
Why do people get married? Why is marriage important?
Sure, people can commit to each other without marriage. It's pretty common. I've been married for 19 years, but I have non-married friends who have been together for just as long and longer, and they are clearly just as committed to their partners as I am. People get married for a variety or reasons: religious, financial, traditional, etc. Here's why I did it: 1. I wanted the legal protection of marriage. If you're young, this may seem unimportant to you. I turn 50 this year, and it's becoming ever more important. My dad has dementia and, if left to his own devices, he would be homeless and ranting on the street. Luckily, my mom was able to get him full-time care. To do this, she had to get Power of Attorney over him, and she was only able to do that because they were married. 2. Promises are really important to me, and I find public promises more effective than private ones. I stood up in front of a room full of people and pledged my love to my wife. I promised to stay with her and care for her--and she made the same promise to me. It feels important and binding. I take it very seriously. 3. Many people (including employers) take marriage more seriously than other sorts of relationships. I get more leeway when I say "I have to leave early to pick up my wife at the airport" than I would if I'd said, "I have to leave early to pick up my girlfriend at the airport." It's unfair but true.4. I was raised with a romantic idea of marriage. Intellectually, I don't think there's any difference between being in a non-married committed relationship and being in a married one, but emotionally, for me, there's a difference. Like many people, I respond to ritual. Irrational as it may be, I wouldn't want to have a birthday party 47 days after my birthday. And when I turn 50, I intend to celebrate. I know that it's arbitrary. Why 50 and not 51? For the same arbitrary but potent reasons, I respond to the ritual of marriage.