If a friend of mine didn't invite me to her birthday party but she invited everyone else in the friend group, what should I do?
It depends on the friendship that you have with that person, and on what you want to do.You can end the friendship or you can keep it - it’s entirely your choice.If you are fairly close and you perhaps have gotten that person a present, you can still continue on being friends with them.If this one instance - you not being invited to the party - is a deal-breaker (as the wording of the question makes it sound), then perhaps the friendship is not as strong as you have believed it to be.Reasons for that are numerous, such as you already sensing that it’s falling apart (and your mind is yet to catch on to it), or this friend being more of an acquaintance than a true friend, or not being friends at all with this person (and now asking strangers to provide an insight to the person whom you allegedly know).There are also purely human factors - such as forgetfulness (you not being in top 50 list of friends) or perhaps this person was assuming that you are a good friend, so you don’t need an official invitation (yes, it means you have proven to be an unreliable friend and prone to assumptions).Until you stop asking others for advice and either ask that person about it (perhaps it was a true oversight) or end this friendship because you didn’t get some cake, you won’t realize that the choice in it is yours.As you have already assumed the worst about this person, you can simply disappear from their life - you have many other friends on whom to spend your time.In terms of your comment, withholding friendship has been proven as a bullying technique in kids as young as 2 years old.When you are older, and you’re looking for a life partner or when you look for a job, absolutely no one will ask you about the number of friends you’ve had in school and what kind of quarrels you got into with them. It’s yesterday’s news.For now, if you don’t want to be with this kindergarten-level crowd, let them be: they want to leave, well, hold the door open for them; if they expect you to beg to be in that circle again, ask if you want to be with these people (by associating yourself with them, you become one of them).Being on your own and adjusting to the new environment is not easy, but this is how you build character. Since you now have some free time on your hands, you should spend it on personal development - as you need a pick-me-up, I personally recommend “The Art of War”
What do you do when your boyfriend chooses his friends over you?
Find another boyfriend. Leave this guy immediately because he is showing you with his actions that you are not important to him, his friends are.Don’t make a scene, don’t give him ultimatums, no drama just leave him. If he calls you do not answer, do not respond to his text messages. Ignore him.More importantly do not respond to his promises to change. Men who hang out with their friends value their friendships more than your relationship.You don’t want him to see you emotional about it, though I doubt he will care. Just get away from him.You deserve better. You need someone who treats you like a queen not like some insignificant annoyance in their life. You’re worth more than that.Stay strong.
So I introduced my sister and my friend and we've hung out, but now they've been talking and are planning to hang out without me. I told them each I feel hurt and that it seems shady to me. They disagree. Am I wrong?
Do you really want to be part of a romantic, sexual relationship between your friend and your sister? Truly?If your sister and your friend have fallen in love with each other then it’s normal and natural for them to want to have some time alone with each other, without you.You need your own romantic/sexual partner.What I hope for you is that you will find a partner of your own, so that you and your sister and your friend and your romantic partner can go out as a foursome sometimes, AND have individual couple-time as well.That is the healthiest resolution.Best of luck to you.
How would you react if you found out that your best friend was bisexual, gay or a lesbian?
Honestly, I used to turn my nose to homossexual people, in the past. I used to be negatively prejudiced about them until when at school I met two good colleagues who were lesbians. It took some time to me to feel comfortable around them, and after observing them for a very long time I realized that they weren't harmful. They also never had made any move on me. However, I couldn't have a sight of them getting frisky, intimate, kissing and all, I'd mostly hide my eyes even.Once also I had a good internet friend who later confessed me she was Lesbian and she was “crazy” to meet me. I used to treat her normal as a straight friend of mine but at any time she would indicate anything which would sounded weird for me, I'd simply disconnect and not talk to her for a few days. I didn't want to be harsh or rude with her because she was indeed a good friend, however I'd never accept any underlying intention she'd have with me.There was one occasion though that I really felt like to say some harsh words straightaway to a Lesbian woman who was “devoring" me with her eyes. She made me so so so uncomfortable that I felt like going to her to say: “ Look. Stop looking at me like this. I LOVE DICK!. Let me spell to you: D.I.C.K. Did you hear me well? I F***ing love DICK, and even if you'd have expertise in whatever you think you're good at, still, you wouldn't be able to get to the iceberg point of providing me what only a FULL MAN would be able to give me! So, stop it, please!!!!!!”Luckily, I quick left the place and this line remained in my mind only, but I'd really say so if I'd be longer there.Lesbian women tend to be polite and all, but that one pissed me off so much.Now, regarding gay guys, I have always best experiences with them. Except by their “sometimes” pejorative use of words, they are fun to be with, they are reliable and very loyal. I'd be really happy in having a gay guy friend. In Brazil, we even say they tend to be more trustworthy than the straight girl friends themselves.So, my reaction today is of total respect, although their choice is not natural in my eyes, but I wouldn't never look down on them because of it. As long boundaries are not crossed, they'd respected as any other straight friend of mine.
What are the best things to do for a male friend who has just been broken up with by his girlfriend of 4 years? My friend is really depressed and spending a lot of time by himself in his room.
I’d say the following:“It sucks losing something you have been used to.Relationships hit harder.But it can’t be helped, either you lose them in death or at anytime when they quit.Having a relationship is a miracle in itself.But the thing is, it’s never over when one says goodbye.Another one comes along and will take the journey in life with you.I cannot promise anything, but I do know, now, more than ever, I want to be the person who would make you smile again.So whenever you’re ready and able, I’ll be right here, holding your hand.Close to my heart.Just take your time.You are not alone.”I hope it helps.
What are some crazy, reckless and wild things I can do as a teenager?
I'll give you the key to all the adventurous and crazy things you could ever want. Heck I'm 28 and I live by this rule. The only stipulation to this rule is: "Only use it so long as you are always respectful to people's feelings. If feelings are not hurt then it's fair game." Here's the rule: Remove the words "Should" and "Shouldn't" from your vocabulary.Now every time you or some one else says either of those words, you'll remember this message and you'll remember that neither of those words exist. Have fun ;)