What does "Chilvary is dead" mean?
It means that respect and courtesy among people no longer exists. However, this is not true. There are, but very few chivalrous people exist. If you happen to come across such a person, make friends and value your friendship with him or her. Chivalry does not only apply to men, but to women too. If you greet your colleagues every morning, or let your seat to an elderly person or pregnant lady on the bus, this is also considered chivalry.
Is romance DEAD? Are most men just not clued in?
Is romance dead? Yeah, just about, but was it ever alive? Are you sure things were better before? I suspect they're better now than ever before--more thoughtful men, more respect for women, more women's rights, more freedom to change partners . . . all of this leads to greater value and importance for romance. Are most men just not clued in? I'd say about 95% of men are totally unclued. I'm horrified by the behavior I see in a lot of men, especially around the opposite sex. Clearly the stone age is not far behind us. The trick is to find a man in that last 5%--one who hasn't already been found.
What do feminists think about chivalry?
Different feminists have different opinions on it, but this is mine.Some of chivalry is just plain courtesy. Like opening and holding doors for people. I do that too, especially if someone else looks like they need it. Offering to help with lifting my luggage when I can't pick it up myself is also very gracious, and I am very grateful when someone does so. I just don't have the upper body strength for that sometimes, and I always pick up half the luggage (I insist we both hold one handle each). I have also offered to help people with their luggage, so the same thing stands.Letting me get on a bus first because I might get left behind (this happened to me :( ) otherwise, is sweet, but somewhat annoying if I don't want it, and the guy starts to insist "Ladies first". I think we should let the ladies decide if they really want to go first.Pulling out my chair for me is nice if it is done as a sweet gesture, and nothing else. I'd do it for my mom, because she needs it. I don't need it, but it certainly feels special. I am neutral about this, since hardly anyone does it nowadays, and I don't want to stop the few who are doing it.I think it's pretty dumb for a guy to give his warm coat to a girl who is wearing only a sleeveless top in December because she thought she looked hot in it. She should probably deal with it herself, and not deprive her boyfriend of a warm coat. If there's a genuine problem (stuck in rain), then both can share the coat.I don't think guys need to get up and offer their seats in buses to girls. It's rude for girls to assume that guys need seats less than they do, because it's not true. I wholeheartedly support anyone leaving their seat for an elderly person or pregnant woman - they need it. I would accept and appreciate it if someone left their seat for me on their own. (this does not mean I am against reservation of seats/coaches for females, because I can't ignore the reality of molestation etc and the need of such seats. I just mean that if some guy needs the seat, just give it to him, don't make him get up even if the bus is empty).
Why should a man give up his seat for a woman?
I don't get this. If a man is sitting down, he should never have to get up for a woman without a seat, just because she's a woman. That is pure sexism. First come, first serve. How can one justify this as anything but sexism? Please don't give me a vague answer like "It's manners/respectful". Why isn't i manners for women to do the same for men?