My Mom keeps going back to her ex-husband, who's a bad person.?
One of the saddest phenomenoms of our race is exhibited when mothers do not protect their children. =/ OF course some DO!!! But yours did not protect you. She is choosing this. She's already in his trap hook, line, and sinker, and something about that crappy relationship works for her and it's hers to make (sadly). I think your sister is taking a brave tough love course and perhaps you should consider it. If this man works, perhaps you can meet her for lunch when he cannot be there...but I would not allow any of your off spring (you don't mention having any...but in the future....) near someone who is proven to be mentally abusive and cruel. Be the strong woman you wish your mom had been and don't waiver or apologize for being strong! It's sad that the parent child relationship was messed up for you but you can do soo much to insure that your parent child relationship of the future is SOOO much better by making sure you marry a good man. Just let her know that you love her and that you'll miss her. She is making this choice again. VALUE yourself enough to stay away from the insanity. Bouy and strengthen your siblings and lean on their strength and make good memories with them. Keep a distant eye on her...but know that this really is her choice. YOu should get strong so you can give a happy life to the future generation. In the meantime support your sister and do all you can to build up your niece (and any other nieces and nephews). Spend your life energy in good ways. Keep your mom in your prayers and perhaps check in once a month via email or something...but don't get sucked into the whirlwind of abuse...YOU DESERVE BETTER and at 21 you have every right to choose it!
I keep running back to him?! PLEASE HELP...?
My boyfriend of now 6 months, and my relationship is on and off, and It's like one day i love him, the next day i don't. he makes me run back to him, he's also short-tempered, he swears a lot, and sweared behind my back, at me, and It didn't hurt me AT ALL;It's really hurtful, and I have no one to talk to. My best friend isn't even acting normal, and she acts as if she likes him, I'm really sad right now, i was crying for nights, and I can't get through this. My boyfriend's made so many mistakes, and I told him, that we weren't meant to be together, if we broke up so many times. He's asking me back, and he smiles at me the first day, the next he curses me. He told my other best friend, that He's sorry, and he got annoyed with me, WHEN I DIDN'T EVEN DO ANYTHING TO HURT HIM?! i don't want to be with him, he's always making me come back to him for me? Please help, I want things to be normal, I do still love him, but we have different tastes, he's dirty-minded, like sex and stuff, I hate that stuff, we have got similar tastes, but not a lot, i thought he was my true love? He's awesome at times, and i know a guy isn't worth my tears. Pleasssee help! I don't want lectures, im not in the freakin' mood for them.
Why do peopl keep on running back to the person who hurt them?
I would notice this a lot as well and there are many different reasons for different people.They think this person will change.They think they can change this person.They can’t live without this person.They are REALLY good in bed lol. jkThese are a few of the reasons I found. Honestly though if someone is wasting your time, don’t put yourself through that. There are so many great people in the world who will treat you 100 times better than someone like this. Their a waste of time and honestly a waste of love.
How do you stop loving a person who has hurt you and broken your heart so many times?
I had a mentor in High School, Carl Manna, who gave me the most sage advice on love and heartache when I was 27. My wife had just left me and he told me this:“The pain never goes away. It only gets different.”I sat on his couch, tears in my eyes, a beer in my hands, and a hole in my heart. I didn’t really understand what he meant. He tried to explain it better, but he also let me know that I would understand it much later.After much pondering on it I came to my own analysis: That I wouldn’t just stop loving her. That the pain of her betrayal would never cease to hurt. That memory can not not be painful. Instead, I had to learn to deal with it. You absorb the pain piece by piece, until one day, it no longer pangs on your heart strings (unless you willfully let it). When I look back on those memories of our time together, they’ll be tainted by the memories of our separation, but I also still cherish them.It took me months to get around to understanding this and coming to my own definition of it.Every time someone I know goes through the terrible times of love lost, I let them in on his secret. I won’t give them the regular platitudes of “It gets better with time” or “Just live today, not yesterday” or “Keep keeping on”. I know they want to punch whoever says it in the face.I too, know what looking down the barrel of that gun loaded with dispair feels like. Instead, I just let them know that I can understand some of their pain and give them the same advice.
Can you fall back in love with the same person again?
I agree. I felt like I didn't love my husband, but I realize now on the other end of the hump, that I did love him, I was just upset with how things were going and those feelings took over any love. I had to kind of harden myself against him so he couldn't hurt me. I do beleive however there is a thin line between love and hate..the more you love someone, the easier it is for them to hurt you and make you "hate them"
How to hurt someone back...?
When someone hurt you so bad, hurting him back won't help you at all. On the contrary, hurting him may even bring you more pain. Why? Because you know he still matters to you and seeing him in pain will only want you to comfort him. Revenge may be sweet but it is short-lived. Also, it is self-destructive that you end up hurting yourself in the process. Think of this: In unrequited love or in a relationship that just ended, isn't it ironic that the person who causes you tears is the same person who you want to wipe them all away? That the person who hurt you is also the same person who can take away your pain? Instead of wallowing in feelings of bitterness and pain, why don't you start moving on? Other people are there to help you out but they cannot do it alone. You also have to help your self. So cheer up and start your healing process by keeping yourself busy and gradually forgetting your past while learning from it. ***Hugs***
Why do people insist on going back to the people that hurt them over and over again?
There comes a point in time when we sometimes create expectations for those we love, such as thinking that they are meant to stay in our life forever. That being said, when the ones we care about begin hurting us (emotionally, physically, psychologically) several times and continue to ignore our feelings, our state of mind go back to the moments they made us happy, loved and special. We ignore their bad behaviours/red flags, and hope that they change to the person they were before.Thank you for the A2A Isaac Andrew Ebona.
How come my shin splints always come back during running?
It could be a variety of things that could be causing your shin splints. Rest will always take away the pain of shin splints but in most cases they will always come back as soon as a person starts running again. After running work outs you should ice your shins for 15 minutes and keep them elevated to decrease swelling within your shins. Taking an anti inflammatory such as aspirin will also decrease the swelling in your shins. For the cause of your shin splints it could be many things. It could be that you don't have the proper footwear on when your running. It may be time to buy some new shoes. Orthodics are another option that you may want to consider. I have flat feet so I need arch support to prevent me from getting shin splints. Another thing that could cause shin splints in improper running mechanics. Running on multi surfaces can also cause shin splints. I would say rest, ice, then when your ready to run check up on some new shoes or orthodics, and do some ankle strengthening techniques to strengthen all the muscles in your calves so there is no muscle imbalance. Hopefully this should help to take away you shin splint pain. If pain becomes to great you may need to see a physician and it looks like your trainer may need to hit the books again. Good Luck