Should I move away from girlfriend for grad school?
I recently graduated college and am in the process of looking at masters programs. My girlfriend has a full time job so she is locked down to her home city. My hopes is that I can get accepted to a school in the same city but this may not actually happen. It's a huge and necessary move for my future career. However, I don't know what would become of us if I was to move to another state for 2 years. The thought of it makes me sick but I also know that school is most important. What are my options here?
Brother won't leave house or get job. (Warning: LONG)?
I'm not completely sure, but it might be possible that your brother has agoraphobia, which is a fear of leaving the house, among other things. It's common for people with this problem to have panic attacks when they leave their house, which would explain why he started shaking and throwing up when your dad went job hunting with him, and why he doesn't even want to think about moving out. It'd be best if you could get him to see a doctor to make sure, as there are ways to treat this. If he absolutely refuses to go, then there are ways he can make money from the house. There are lots of jobs that he can get online. My mom has one herself (one of my brothers is handicapped and needs constant care, so she can't get a job outside of the house). Here's a link to some of the jobs that are available: http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/TakeControlOfY... There are many different things that he could try, so see if he's interested in any of them. It depends on the job, too, on how much he'll make, but he could probably do a few at a time. At least it's something, anyway. If he doesn't want to do any of these, don't spend your whole life trying to help him. You have a life too, don't forget that. Oh, and as to your first question, it's perfectly alright to feel bitter sometimes towards your brother and father. I completely understand what it feels like, trust me. I wish you and your family the best of luck, and I hope everything works out for you.
Should I quit my boring grad school to travel the world?
It depends on your attitude.I have a personal policy to always finish what I start. I started college and I also graduated. When I started grad school, I knew that if I start, I also had to end it. It was painful and boring, in fact, I had such a hard time finishing writing my final thesis, I didn’t technically graduate months after I walked at the graduation ceremony. All I had to do was finish my paper which should have been at least 50 pages long and when I could have finished half a year earlier, I took much longer. Not to say that I wasn’t having fun hanging out with friends too.If you are quitting only because it was “boring,” you are setting a precedent to quit when things get boring. Lots of things in life are boring. Doing taxes is boring, getting my wife’s green card was boring, getting her citizenship was boring, getting her mother’s green card was boring. If I quit when things got “boring,” I probably wouldn’t have much of a life. Are you going to just run away to do something fun whenever what you’re doing is boring?But again, it depends on your attitude. Are you making this decision with the purpose to establish a stronger foundation for your future, or are you just running away from responsibility for fun?Given the little amount of details about your situation, I would still give you a solid “No” as an answer to your question. I say power through grad school and make the best of what you have with your time there, then move on to whatever you want. Just don’t leave things unfinished.After I finished grad school, I went on to live in Japan for 2 and half years because I knew I wouldn’t be able to do that once I started my career. In a way, I made a similar decision, but I did it without leaving things unfinished.Life tip: Call one of your parents or someone that matters to you a lot and tell them that you are losing motivation to get through with grad school. I did the same and hearing my dad’s words of support boosted me to start grad school. I was hesitant to go because I was anxious about not working and not paying off in student loans sooner than later.
Why do people go to grad school?
Because it made me happy.I went to Penn for undergrad and was studying both Finance and Materials Science. In my junior year after I got back from Christmas break, it was time to apply to summer internships. Too many of my Wharton peers were aggressively pursuing investment banking or trading internships for me not to even bother. So I bought a suit that winter, and decided to apply as well. I was very successful at interviewing for these jobs, and ended up choosing a Project Finance desk at a large Bank to work at over summer. Now, the summer of 2008 was....hmmm... a 'challenging' time for banking. For those who didn't follow as closely, a pretty large bank called Bear Stearns stopped existing before the start of that summer, and Lehman Brothers went bankrupt by the end of the summer. I guess I was 'lucky' that I didn't have plans at one of these two firms. Nevertheless, I remember vividly that summer of Project Finance. The first 2 weeks were great, I learned a lot, then I had training for a week, and then...shit started to suck. I went to get a drink literally every day after work to combat the nasty atmosphere at work. Considering how easy it is for people to figure out where I worked, I'll leave out details, and simply say that I was having such a bad time that even my boss for the summer said it was obvious I didn't want to be there. After 8 weeks that felt like forever and over $15,000 later (quite a bit for 8 weeks right?), I was happy and relieved to be going back to my lab at Penn and dive back into science! So when my senior year started, I didn't even bother with looking for a job. It was kind of funny, several firms aggressively tried to recruit me (consulting + finance) by doing the whole invite to dinner and talk about firm shindig. I knew what I wanted though, the $$$ signs made no difference to me. I had learned that money wouldn't make me happy, but doing research did. So the decision was easy - and I applied to grad school! I couldn't be happier with the decision I made btw. I now have the benefit of retrospect - and it was the right move. I spent 6 years in grad school, all of which was enjoyable and productive. More importantly I have never once regretted that decision, despite the order of magnitude difference in income. That's jut my anecdote on why I went to grad school. Maybe another way of saying it is I blame the financial crisis for my low income ;).
Leaving after 4th year?
Hi I'm 14,nearly 15 im going into 3rd year at the end of the summer and when I leave school(end of 4th year) I want to apply for the visa lottery so I can move to America.but if I want to Apply I have to have done my leaving cert and 12 years of school.12 years will be at the end of 4th year,so if I was leaving at the end of 4th year would they let me do my Leaving cert then? Or are u only allowed to do it after 5th year?thanks.
Can I drop out of NIGHT SCHOOL at 16?
I don't believe you can drop evening classes. It is the law that your parents are responsible for you and if you drop out of school and leave your parents could be fined because you left school. Don't take this wrong, but you are too young to be thinking about leaving school and going to another state to live with your boyfriend. You have not said anything about if your boyfriend has a job so he can support you. You do realize if you don't get at least a high school diploma you will not be able to get a decent job other than janitor work or picking up garbage or working at McDonald's for less than minimum wage. You need to get your education and finish high school. Getting an education is NEVER a waste of time. It is investing in your future. If you don't finish or at least get a GED and you and your boyfriend happen to break up you won't be able to support yourself and that could happen to you. Don't assume because you and your bf are happy being together now that it will last forever. Because nowadays it is more common to see couples splitting up, getting divorces, or just living together as they branch out to find someone else to be in their lives. Stay in school and get our diploma but if you insist on moving to Texas finish school there. An education is important to everyone, not just to you but to your family, friends, future, and job opportunities. All the best to you.
Should i quit my full-time job to go to school full-time?
I'm 24 years old, live in San Jose, CA and I work full-time during the day and go to school part-time at night. I still live with my family but I pay $500 rent and pay my own bills (phone, insurance, gas, etc). I pay for pretty much everything except food and utilities. Half of my wages go to bills, the other half is spending money. I've been working at this sheet metal place for 2.5 years now. I've worked assembling parts and also in the shipping department making $14.50. (Minimum wage here is $10) Recently, they asked me if I wanted to learn how to weld. This is a great opportunity for me to learn a new skill and get a raise. The welders at my job make $20/hour and up. Most people have to learn how to weld on their own time, but my company is willing to train me during normal work hours. Everybody at work tells me I'm lucky because of this opportunity. But after doing it for a month and a half, I've realized I hate it. It's a 9-5 job where I feel like a robot/slave, mass producing parts and not doing anything anything meaningful with my life. Plus we don't socialize much because we're too busy working. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes, doing the same thing over and over and over without being able to interact with people to pass the time. I wake up every morning dreading work. I'm going to school part-time and I want to study electrical engineering. I love electricity/electronics, plus I would feel like I'm contributing to society by working in a field that uses the latest science to create new technologies that will change the world and stuff like that. I'm only school part-time though, so to get this degree will take forever. My question is, should I quit my job in order to attend school full-time and achieve my goals faster? I would definitely have to find a part-time job and wouldn't have as much money. I'd most likely be a broke college student who is barely getting by, but later it would be worth it. With the full-time job, I'm able to support myself and I even plan on moving out. I can afford my own place. I'd have to budget a little better but I'd still have extra money for myself. But I hate the job. I just don't want to quit and regret later giving up a good paying job and the opportunity to learn welding. advice/help??? what should i do???
Having an Engineering Degree as a Military Spouse?
I am 18 and a senior in high school in New Jersey.. my boyfriend of two years is 20. He is currently living in North Carolina with his parents because his dad retired from the Coast Guard and wanted to move down there. We have been long distance for about 10 months now. He is leaving for BMT for the Air Force in April. I am planning on pursuing a degree in Engineering after I graduate. I am either going to NC State or McDaniel College in Maryland, depending on where I get the most money. As of now I definitely plan on going for four years. My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage, and he really wants it as soon as possible. However, my education is incredibly important to me and I do not want to risk anything by not going to school. He isn't too happy about having to wait an additional four years to be with me but he understands. I am just concerned that when I graduate and have an Engineering degree I will not be able to find a steady job if he is still in the Air Force and we are moving around. He does not know yet how long he will stay in so I can't really plan anything. I know that easily transferrable jobs are nurses, childcare, education, etc. but I definitely want to be an engineer. I'm just looking to get some input from other military wives or maybe even engineers. I want to have my own career and make money too.. not just depend on him. Thanks to everyone that answers!
What do parents feel when their child leaves for college?
Let me tell you about my case.My daughter got married, after emancipating herself at 17. EMPTY NEST!Well, so much for college. I freaked out and sold my home because “nobody answered when I called their name”. I literally mourned. It was awful.Her marriage blew up right away. Within three weeks matter of fact. In the end, her husband of 21 was messing around on her, she got pregnant and he asked for a divorce and moved his newest honey into “their” home one weekend while she was visiting me and her Grandmother.Long story short? She still wanted her independence so her being broke, I moved her into an apartment, in and out while she was pregnant. Then her totally in with me the last trimester. Saddest mess I ever witnessed in my life but she was holding onto her independence and viciously.Grandson born, no future, so I took her kicking and screaming and literally crying to the local college and enrolled her. There was no white picket fence she had dreamed of in her near future and the reality of it was she had to be able to make a living for her and her child. I hated it, hated it hated it. I was terrified, watchful, supportive and so sorrowful. My heart broke minute by minute.Today, she is a very very awesome nurse and I am so proud of her. She’s still mad at me but until she makes the choice to reconnect, I have to honor her choices whether I like it or not. Sad or not. So I am. Yes I’m heartbroken.
How hard is it to find a job after quitting PhD?
Not so hard. Actually, all the people that I know who quit or got kicked out have nice lives. Some went to finance. Others to consulting or large firms. They all get paid reasonably well. They have nice smiles because now they recovered their weekend back. Also, they are realize that they are quite smart after all.So do not worry~Just make sure that you are a hard worker who is quite brilliant. Also, that you are a nice person. You will do fine.Good luck!