What does want to date but nothing serious really mean?
It means you take on all the risks of a relationship with none of the benefits.You get intimate, do romantic or cutesy things together, do activities together, maybe even meet each other’s friends, you emotionally bond. But there is NO commitment, no chance for commitment, there is no stability. The person will not be there for you, they will not have your back, and all of the intimacy and bonding you experienced, is just superficial. Like children playing a game where they pretend to be pirates or cowboys or whatever. Even if the “date but nothing serious” relationship accidentally turns a tad more serious, the people participating in it usually don’t have the mindset, maturity, etc to make a real relationship work.I personally am extremely turned off by men who “want to date but nothing serious”. To me it indicates that they wouldn’t know how to be serious, even if they tried to be. I have gone on dates before with men who just wanted to take a pretty, interesting woman out, they weren’t desperate for sex or expecting intimacy either. They didn’t propose “let’s date but nothing serious” because they respected me enough to know I had other opportunities, and wouldn’t waste my time or risk hurting me. I am okay with this. I don’t go on dates expecting every date to be my future husband. I am okay with men telling me upfront that “you’re a lovely woman, but not what I’m looking for” or telling me/showing me, that they just want a lovely date but are not looking to commit to anyone/to me, at the moment.These friends with benefits, want to date but nothing serious relationships, should have been left behind in college, for most people. They are immature, stupid and indulgent. A great way to waste your time, miss your other opportunities for a real relationship, and a fantastic way to get hurt.
All the Guys out there. Tell us girls what you really look for and want?
I have just been ispired to ask this question, As I have just answered see a similar one asked by BOPPY http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;... Do guys REALLY find the fake girls more attractive than classy ones? Big headed girls really get on my nerves and almost 100% of the time they are revolting! Completly fake or looking like a complete stut? Sorry for bad taste in language but is this really what the world is coming to or is it just girls think they have to look like that to get noticed? I know it comes from the idea that guys find FHM and NUTS and MAXPOWER girls sexy and therefore there are too many "ladys" out there who thinks this is what we have to become to be attractive? Is this what you men want? just out of curiostiy i want to know? Personally i think its horrible! And how dare a girl look at me like something she stepped in just because she is now in debt thanks to her GG boobs!! I am a firm beliver in a bit of self respect and class. I worked in a bar and was horrifyed when a girl was bragging to me that she used to be a lapdancer and glamour model! I was thinking "poor you" i know its choice and i dont want to judge and im a huge jordan fan. But do we all have to conform to this?? Do you see what im saying?? I dont mean to offend anyone at all and dont have a problem with modeling and lapdancing but why is it such an achievment and is this really what guys want when dating?? fill me in guys!! My mate was well impressed when pulling a stripper, like its hard?? Would you not be more impressed with pulling a posh girl?? I don't know?? Im asking??
The guy I love said he doesn't want anything serious with me but still wants to hang out occasionally. Am I stupid if I stay with him?
You’re most likely going to be in for a world of hurt.While it’s possible to develop more feelings in a FWB relationship, it’s much less likely for that to happen in this case.First off, men are much better at separating their feelings from sex. While you’re having sex, feeling love, and becoming more bonded every time you are intimate with him, he’s fucking.As you’re spending more time with him, you’ll become more frustrated. You know he doesn’t want what you want. You’ll find yourself becoming a person you don’t like, an unhappy, trapped sort of person. Maybe you start to manipulate him, to try to trap him. At any rate, it will be more and more apparent how unequal this relationship is, and how little your needs are being metWhile you’re spending hours waiting for him, being with him, mourning when you’re not with him, wondering who he’s with because you’re not with him? You’re wasting time that could be spent developing yourself, meeting new people, and recognizing and meeting a man that is interested in you in an equal and reciprocal relationship.Many men will know almost immediately when they meet a woman they want as a long term partner. Men need that immediate attraction to want to develop a relationship. Women are much more likely to need time to develop love. This is so common, it’s the staple of fiction. And we all recognize the truth of this situation on some level.He has told you his truth - he isn’t interested in forming a relationship with you. He’s fine with having sex with you occasionally, when he can’t find anybody else. Ever wonder what he’s doing on the nights he’s not with you? He’s auditioning other women for the role of beloved gf/wife. As soon as he finds this gal, he’ll dump you. If he doesn’t dump you, you’ll continue to be the side chick.Really think this through. Do some reading on relationships and how to have viable love on a long term basis. You deserve a man who truly wants you, not just someone who at best is passing time with you. Love is never enough to base a long term successful relationship upon. This is particularly true when there’s only one in love.
This guy wants a serious relationship with me after one date?
I met a guy at work a month ago. We see each other every day at work, multiple times a day and have talked frequently. He got my number, asked me out and we went on a date. After 1 date (11 hours long, we stayed up all night talking) he now desperately wants a serious relationship with me. This is so strange, most men I've dated were so non committal, this guy is the opposite. He wants a full on relationship, with commitment, sex, everything. He wants to plan a trip for the two of us for new years which is months away. He doesn't want me dating anyone else and gave me an ultimatum-all or nothing, he said he can't have it any other way. He said he doesn't want to hold/kiss me if I'm going out with other guys at all. After two dates he said he could see himself falling in love with me in the near future. I really want someone that I can trust and that is wiling to commit, but I question his sincerity only because it's so quick. and I also worry about how intense he has been. could he possibly be sincere after such a short amount of time?
In a serious love relationship would you rather be needed or wanted and why?
I've been married for just over 10 years and I feel that in my marriage I'm both needed and wanted by my wife. So I can say I'd want to be both needed and wanted. Because my wife needs me for support and help with the kids. And I like to be wanted like when she wants to spend time with me, and wants to be with me. So I would prefer both honestly.
What does she mean when she says she isn't looking for something serious? We makeout, cuddle and have intimate encounters . She bought me a gift too.
She’s looking for something fun, a fling. Not a serious, long-lasting relationship—the kind that ends in marriage.Ever seen (500) Days of Summer? Okay, well, she’s Summer, and you’re Tom.At the beginning of their relationship, Summer says to Tom, “Just so you know, I’m not looking for anything serious.”And Tom is like, “Yeah, okay, whatever. Let’s make out.”And what does he do? He lets himself fall in love with her. He thinks she’s “the one”, and that they’re soul mates and going to be together forever. But Summer doesn’t feel the same way…she just wants a fling. She was even up front with Tom about this, but Tom doesn’t really care and still ends up resenting her—all because they have very different ideas about what their relationship should be.Your girlfriend doesn’t really want “love”. She isn’t looking for a life partner. She just kind of wants to date without all the serious strings attached.Don’t keep trying to take your relationship to the next level. This is the kind of relationship that has a “next level”—it’s just a fun time and that’s it. Don’t waste your time thinking this girl is “the one” or your “soul mate” or whatever. Just have a good time with her while it last. Treat it like dating in high school, I guess (if you’re not in high school anymore).If you really like this girl, I’d recommend staying with her, and enjoying this relationship. Allow yourself to relax a little, and just sort of float by. Put love, marriage, the next level, etc. off your mind, and just have fun with this girl! That’s what she wants is a relaxing, fun relationship. Maybe this more relaxing environment will eventually turn to love, but you don’t need to think about that right now.If you aren’t really into this, and are looking for a life partner right now, I’d suggest you talk to your girlfriend about this. Just be prepared that she entered this relationship expecting it to not be serious.
How do you know if the guy is just a player or looking for a serious relationship?
By what you just said, how could you be looking for a "serious" relationship if the first thing you say about him is he's "cute"? Anyway.....The first three answers are wrong. I mean, they're the typical OBVIOUS ways to tell if a guy is a player.. if he's an obvious "player" and is stupid enough to leave a trail. However, guys could jump from one girl to another without the notion of sex in the picture. Even though sexual, perhaps, in jest.. a player could still be one without pressuring you into anything at all. Some guys collect girls simply to have admirers. How do you know? Typically they use condescending terms.. not insulting.. but still.. condescending.. pet-like names. Baby, sweetheart, honey, etc. Don't let a guy call you those until you've been dating him for quite some time. He'll probably be fickle about a TON of things besides relationships. If he often doesn't finish what he starts, doesn't seem to have a direction in his life, can't decide the status between you two.. etc. Being an ***-kisser. If he's constantly complimenting, being overly "sweet". If, after only once meeting someone.. they designate your name as "beautiful".. as in for "Hello, beautiful." He's probably a player/ says that to everyone.
My boyfriend wants me to prove I love him? HELP?
You're right, of course. You shouldn't have to prove love. On the other hand, while I disagree with his asking you to "prove" it, I can certainly agree with him about it being nice to be shown it. Do something unexpected. Sit down and write a list of the things you really like or admire about him, then give it to him. If he really loves you, then *he* will prove it by being thankful for the effort you made. If he doesn't like what you did, then maybe it's not *you* that needs to prove something in this relationship...