Major Fear Of Parents Dying In Car Accident

How do I get over the fear of my parents dying?

Thanks for the A2A!I can totally relate to this as I've spent a lot of time crying over this as a kid - it used to freak me out to think I'll be all alone in this world one day as I don't have siblings.Like most of the answers have already mentioned, there is nothing much that we can do about it other than accepting the fact. Remember that you are not alone, we all will lose our parents some day. I've seen my parents losing theirs - it hurts a lot but they did cope up with the loss. One has to move on in life, there are other responsibilities to be fulfilled as there are others dependent on your existence. Here are some things you can do when your mind is flooded with such thoughts:Value their presence at the moment. Avoid thinking of the future, nobody has seen it. Give them lots of love today so that you have no regrets tomorrow. Listen to what they have to say, give them a hug!Try meditation or reading some of the ancient scriptures - most of the religions talk about detachment. It is definitely easier to preach than to practice but reading such things brings (temporary) solace to mind. Take care of their health - see to it that they are leading a healthy lifestyle. Help them in getting rid of bad habits, if they have any. That way, you'll get to keep them with you a little longer.Resolve conflicts with them as soon as possible. There will be differences of opinion but wasting time sulking over them or not resolving them due to ego-related issues is foolishness. Our time is limited, you don't want to waste it by indulging in meaningless activities. Remember that wonderful vacation you had with them or the perfect birthday party they threw on your first birthday and try to recreate the magic now so that you can hang on to these lovely memories later on.As a child, remain empathetic towards the changes going on in your parents’ lives as they age. As hard as it is for us to face the realities of aging, it’s a process our parents are living with every day.Life events such as illness, death of friends and loved ones can take a heavy toll on a person’s well-being. Make sure they’re feeling okay.Be positive and strong - they taught you that, don't let it go down the drain!" Goodbyes make you think. They make you realize what you've had, what you lost and what you took for granted. So appreciate what you have before it becomes what you had. "

I'm so scared of driving. I'm scared of getting in an accident and dying. I read that you have a 1 in 11 million chance of dying from an airplane crash and a 1 in 5000 chance of dying from a car accident. What should I do?

Your fear is not of driving, but of death. First, you must accept the inevitability of death. It is going to happen at some point no matter what you do.  That's not a bad thing, it is just a part of the natural order.  Nothing is going to change it, but spending your time worrying about it isn't the most enjoyable use of that time. Then, start making cost-benefit analyses.  Work out when the risk of driving is outweighed by the benefit of driving, and only drive when the benefit is greater than the risk. For a dramatic example, if you cannot easily food to your home without driving, then never driving may result in you starving to death.  At some point, not driving is going to become higher risk than driving is. Also remember that not driving isn't risk-free.  If you need to get from A to B, you need to get there somehow, and there are risks associated with walking and public transport too.  Once you start noticing that there is a risk of death at all times, from freak accidents as well as natural causes, the relative risk of death from one particular activity doesn't come across as so overpowering.  Still afraid?  Now it gets harder. Realise your fear of driving is not rational.   Rational fears are healthy, they keep us from doing high-risk things, but irrational fears stop us from doing things that benefit us overall.  They also cause so much unrelated anxiety that your quality of life is affected. It can be very difficult to overcome irrational fears, or phobias, on your own.  You should speak to a doctor, as there are some tried and tested therapies that can help you overcome your fear.  They may also recommend medication to help you feel less anxious, though some of that medication may make you drowsy, in which case you are best advised not to drive a motor vehicle.  Kind of a catch 22 there, so therapy is probably the best option.

How is the family notified after a person dies in a car accident?

Unfortunately, my 18 year old son died in a car accident last year. I found on social media that there had been an accident near our home, and since our son was out driving and the car description matched his, we went to the scene.Although the police officer who came later - who would normally handle notifying the family members - was quite kind, the police at the scene were not. When we first walked up to the scene, they were laughing. Our sonʻs car had rebounded across the street and since we are on a dark rural road, we couldnʻt see it clearly. We asked for the license plate number of the vehicle and were told incorrect information, leading us to believe it was not our son. When my husband noticed that there was a piece of the bumper at our feet, he leaned down to look at it. The officer at the scene yelled at him (twice) that this was a crime scene and “to put that down!” My husband recognized that it was from our sonʻs car and while I was screaming, he, in shock, went to check, just in case, and was yelled at again.The superiors of the officers apologized for the behaviors a few days later, but it was an entirely difficult situation made more difficult by very young men who couldnʻt shift gears from “crime scene” to devastated parents.