Need Opinions On Moving To Colorado Springs?
So in about a month i ll be moving to colorado springs from my hometown in Joplin MO. I have a ton of mixed feelings. My family moved up there last year and wants me to move up there as well. The place is beautiful but i m afraid to move as well. I ve heard it s more expensive to live there and that apartments tend to cost more. I m a single guy with a high school diploma and am afraid of not being able to make it. The move it self is going to be expensive and i want to make sure i m making a good choice.
Im having mixed emotions about my dad (not love emotions btw))?
(Im 14 almost 15 in June) My mom and dad split up almost 2 years ago. Now I live with my mom and sister in Virginia and my dad lives in Texas. When I came to visit him he moved out our old house and got a townhome and got a roommate (who is his best friend. A guy btw). Every since then he's been living like he's a 24 year old. When we were there he would say he was going to his cousins or sisters house but really he would go to some girls house or he would talk on the phone to some girl in front of us. I know him and my mom separated and he can do whatever he wants but its like I just left from my family being together and stuff and now they just up and separated. But back to the main thing. I'm trying to get to Texas to get my mind clear from everything and see if I want to stay with my dad or mom next year) my dad was suppose to come to Virginia for my sisters graduation but all of a sudden he changes his mind. When I was talking to him I told him I needed clothes and he asked me did I ask my mom and I said yea and he said what she say and I said nothing (that's what my mom said.. ) then he got all mad and he started cussing and calling my mom out her name and saying stuff about the child support (which my mom filed against him some months ago). My sister was gonna go with me to Texas but I know she's goin to change her Mind because he's not coming. And I don't want to go to Texas alone because its not gonna be the same without her and its gonna be boring as hell. And lately my dad hasn't contacted me in like 5 days, I'm the one who's always calling him and its really irritating. Its like he's more concentrated on something else other than his own daughter. He's has other children but there's one that he never contacts because of the mom, the other he contacts like... every 3 months and then theres me. The one he lived with and been around his whole life, a now I'm starting to feel like his other children. WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!!
I have mixed feelings about the US. Should I move because of these if they are not all positive?
I had mixed feelings about the US and still moved there years ago. I still live here, and still have mixed feelings about it.I also have mixed feelings about every other country I have lived in, and most countries I know to reasonable extent.If there is a country that you only have positive feelings about, you should probably try to get to know it better. It would be a miracle if there is a country that you completely adore … and even if that was true, what if that country passes new laws and things change?Instead of moving away, you can see whether you can try to change things. Find out who your representatives are, and contact them on matters where you have a strong opinion. Start a petition. Heck, if you feel very strongly about something, run for office! If that is not possible, try to provide assistance to those who you think need it most.There are a lot of things you can do to make your country better. Moving away is not going to solve your problems.
Mixed feelings about my ex?
I'm kinda in the same situation, but last night something that he said to me made me realize that he was a complete and total asshole and i needed to stop going back to him whenever he needed me. The best thing would be to try to move on, you guys broke up for a reason.
Mixed emotions over moving out of parents house, PLEASE PLEASE HELP?
Okay, so I'm 19 years old, have a decent paying job, and am in nursing school. I have a boyfriend who I love and have been with for 3 years now. I LOVE my family very much, but they are very controlling, like to nitpick over little things, still treat me like a child, tell me I disrespect them (even though i have always been a great kid in my opinion, made a's and b;s in school, never did drugs/ alchohol, come home on time, dont cuss, nothing bad) I am constantly being yelled at over something or someone giving me attitude when ive done nothing wrong. However, even with these arguments I am veryyy close to my family and am having very mixed emotions. I have been thinking about moving in with my boyfriend for a while. He has a job , is going to nursing school with me, and has a house which is FULLY paid for. Only bills he has is utilities and he has roomates that basically pay for that, so living there really would never be a financial problem at all. I'd just be added income. However, I really really want to move out, but at the same time i am deeply saddened and don't know what to do. I am sad to leave my family, my little brother, my home, but his house is literally only 5 mins away tops. I am just so used to having my family around all the time and am not sure if i am making the right decision. I dont want to make this decision, and miss my family so badly and regret it. I need some SERIOUS advice because i am so torn on the subject. Please help with any advice you have. Thank you.
How do you feel when living far from your hometown?
Living away from home town is a mix of all kinds of feelings.Initial stage is definitely the most difficult phase. It's as if you were under some protective bower in a small city and suddenly, you are let free in a large hustle- bustle of a metropolitan. You struggle to live away from the family you've seen day and night for more than 18 years.For me, there was a constant worry of how I am going to manage everything on my own.As time passes, the reality starts sinking in. You eventually realize that this is how it is suppose to work and you get used to living alone. The grim room becomes your second home.Eventually, things become a lot better. You start realizing that you are becoming a lot independent. From smallest to the biggest chores, you find yourself doing everything on your own at ease.But.On some days when I am in college, I terribly miss those school friends who made even the most boring classes interesting.On some days when I am travelling to some place, I really miss how my father would make sure that he drops me off.When I am skipping food because it's terrible, I really miss how my mother won't let me go hungry.When I feel terribly lonely, I miss home.Thus, living away from home is something you get used to over time but on certain days, you just wish to pack everything up and go back and rest your head on your mother's lap.
How do parents feel about grown up kids moving out?
I think this is probably as different as the differences in people. I know when mine moved out I had mixed emotions. One happy that he felt he was ready to handle being an adult, fear that he may not be and did I teach him well enough, and the other relief that the days of my being responsible for all his decisions and actions was behind me. Scared a bit about the future and an empty feeling of no longer being the parent who would be involved in his life and all his decisions as we are when they are living with us.I failed in raising mine is ways as being too young and lacking the wisdom I needed to do it well. Though I knew I did my best and yet when they hurt or made mistakes I felt some regret that perhaps had I done things differently they may not be hurting now or making choices I knew would result in pain for them.The empty nest however is a time for parents to once again if married to focus on their relationship and once again enjoy things together that had to be put off in some cases so they could devote the time and money to their children.If single when your children leave home there is for awhile a more empty feeling as you adjust now to being alone and deciding how to develop your life beyond being a full time parent involved in every aspect of your children’s lives. This can be a wonderful time however to rediscover yourself and things that you can now focus on doing and find the passion in who you are as an adult and a parent of an adult child or children.One thing my Mother in law told me many years ago and it is true. When they are little and in your home they step on your feet, once grow they often will step on your heart. And you never stop being a parent however to parent adult children is a learning process as well and we all make mistakes along the way. Hopefully despite the different feelings both sides will come to embrace and love and enjoy the new roles for both.My prayer for all parent’s navigating this is that we come to the place of friendship and love in a different role with our adult children. Sometimes this can take time and patience and some hurt feelings in getting there but in the end we want our adult children to develop healthy happy lives for themselves and still want and need our presence in their life.Bless Your Grown Children
How did you feel when you first moved out?
First few days.Yay!! I am free! I can stare at the ceiling forever without being interrupted by my mother. I can go home at 2am without my dad yelling at me. I can sleep with my mouth open without my mom shutting it close.And then, reality hits me like a truck.Who the bloody hell will clean my toilet?? ( Had to use office toilet for few days before it flashed to me that I should buy toilet cleaners and clean it on my own)And of course food. My stomach has become a garbage can. I stuff it with anything that I can afford to buy. Half baked potatoes, cold chapati, dal with no salt. :(I realized that monthly groceries don't fall out of sky. I had to pay for it. I had unrealistically decided to spend only 100rs per day, but with each passing day I had to scrape through all my jeans pants for that one miraculous 100rs that I might have buried in my pocket and had forgotten about.After few more days..Clean and sparkly bathroom, thanks to harpic.Food- replaced a lot of junk with healthy fruits and fruit juices which were cheaper as well.Still learning the art of money management, but it is better than it was.I grew up and I learned to live on my own. I have my own failings, but now I can get up and walk the mile on my own. With each passing day, I become more responsible. I wash my own clothes, make my own food, clean my bathroom and take care of myself. I have also realized how dependent we are on our parents that we struggle to survive on our own. That we struggle to take care of one individual that is ourselves. That a large amount of resources is required for survival and maintenance of just one individual. I am enjoying this freedom and this phase of my life. Yes, I do feel homesick, but that is what makes our home a special place in our hearts, otherwise we will never learn to truly value home and our parents.
Should I move out, leaving behind my single mom?
There’s no right or wrong answer here. When you say “help buy a home”, you’re not really being clear as to what you mean. Are you going to buy the home yourself, and pay for it, or let her pay you to stay in the home? Do you mean you’re going to give her the down payment that she needs? Are you going to apply for the loan along with her, because she doesn’t have the necessary credit? Is the issue her income alone won’t qualify her, so you need to include your income as a co-applicant? It’s hard to answer with any certainty when you haven’t provided any pertinent details. If your mom hasn’t been able to save on her own to buy a house, how do you know she can afford to pay the mortgage, taxes, insurance, and maintenance once you’ve helped her buy the house? I would say if you are sure she could afford the house by herself if she only had the down payment, first see if there are any programs that she can take advantage of to assist with the down payment, so that you can keep saving your money for your own home. If the issue is her credit, and it’s because she is terrible at managing finances and paying bills on time, having a long term commitment such as a house is only going to make things worse, especially if you’re a co-applicant on the mortgage, in the event she can’t pay her portion and you’re stuck carrying the full burden on your own. If this is the situation, and she finds herself not able to make the payments at one point, are you going to be able to step in and help out, so she doesn’t lose the house (and your hard-earned money along with it)? It sounds like you make a promise to your mom that you didn’t fully think through, and now you’re on the hook and don’t want to feel bad about going back on your word. If it means that much to you, find a way to make it happen without keeping yourself stuck living at home, without jeopardizing your own credit, and without emptying your bank account. Again, it’s hard to answer when you haven’t really explained much. Helping her buy a home can mean many things to many people, and nobody can know exactly what it means to you unless you say it.
Mixed Emotions about this guy?
Honestly, the only relationships that last are the ones that you approach with timing. If you really like him and he really likes you, then i'm sure you guys don't need to rush into a relationship. Building a friendship is always good because then if things don't work out you have something to fall back on. If you don't want to wait and you just want to jump into the relationship, go ahead there's not harm at all in that. Although, if you build a friendship, you would get to know him way better and you guys would be more comfortable around each other and things would run more smoothly when you get into a relationship.