Mother-in-law invited herself on our honeymoon...?
She is crazy, I know this even her son, my fiance, knows this because she has been acting nutty our entire relationship and it just gets worse each year. We decided to get married next summer and told his parent's about it. Since the day she was told she has been questioning me about what we're going to do and telling me what we SHOULD do. When I told her we were thinking of going to NOLA she claimed she always wanted to go and how that will be a great trip for "us" meaning my husband her and my son. And she will be the babysitter. I know for a fact thats not true about her always wanting to go because a year ago we mentioned going and she was all "why would you want to go there it's too muggy". Well, my fiance and I decided to not go because our wedding will coincide with our house closing and we'd like to do some immediate remodeling so we want to put off the trip. She emailed to tell me how crushed she was that we can't go, that I really dashed her dream. I haven't even responded because I'm just dying to say "NO ONE WANTS YOU TO GO! YOU WERE NOT INVITED!" but I won't say that I will just bite my tongue and get some more gray hairs from that woman. Seriously, who invites themselves on someone else's honeymoon. I'm curious if anyone else has had that experience, a clingy mother/MiL who wants to go on your honeymoon and if you've been able to confront them about it. it might make me feel better to live vicariously through another person in that situation who was able to say what they want to lol :D
My mother in law wants to come on our honeymoon with us?! What do I do?
My future MIL is a wonderful lady and I really do like her a lot, but she seems to be going too far this time. My fiance won a cruise package that included 3 free cruises and a resort stay, redeem-able at any time (lifetime warranty kind of thing). But he won it when he was 17 so it had to go to his mothers account until he turned 18. He is past that age now but the package is still in her name and they have only used one cruise so far. MIL graciously offered to give us one of the cruises as a wedding gift of sorts, to which we were extremely grateful. When we started to discuss out plans with her she immediately decided in her head that she "doesn't want to miss out on one of her cruises" and wants to make plans to come with us!? We decided to go on a Disney cruise and she's telling us that "oh you'll never even see me! We don't even have to have dinner together or go to shows together!" but I know that the ship is only SO big, we're BOUND to see her eventually and then comes the awkwardness of deciding "Do we say hi?, Do we just act like we never saw her?" and plus, this adventure is supposed to be for me and my new husband, not me and my new mother in law, I don't want to have to worry about seeing my MIL the entire time we are on our honeymoon, as well as having to talk to her about how great the trip was when we get back. I think this adventure should be special and shared between only my husband. My fiance says he will talk to her but we don't want to hurt her feelings.
Would you rather have the perfect wedding or the perfect honeymoon?
Hi,I would, without a doubt, much rather have a perfect honeymoon. In my eyes, this question poses another within it, Public opinion vs my own happiness. Sure, the perfect wedding is a tempting dangle of a deal, but a wedding, while it is thrown for legal purposes, serves to showcase your love to the public, to awe them with your outfits, venues, synchronization, planning, and glowing image. You invite people to your wedding, you want everything to be perfect, the term “bride-zilla” was coined, and it all sums down to the intense pressure to have a beautiful and elaborate ceremony more for anyone else than you. This is not to be a discredit to weddings, I myself have planned my own more times that it’s probably healthy to do so, but I think the real weight comes in with the honeymoon.Your honeymoon is a special time. You and your significant other are taking those first steps. You’re married for the first time, perhaps one of you with a new name, and you’re embarking on a new path, a new journey with them. The honeymoon is private and romantic and loving. This is something you do for you, for you and your partner, for your relationship.When it comes down to it, the relationship is between you and your partner. There are plenty of outside influences, but when you strip away everything; money, family, addictions, sex, it’s a you and them situation. It doesn’t matter how elaborate your wedding was if your marriage doesn’t last. That’s why the honeymoon, an escape with the person who you’re starting this journey with, the partner you’ve chosen to embark down the scary path called life, is a way to know someone, a way to indicate the path your two-person, just-us relationship will follow.I hope this helps!~Lea
Mother in law is planning honeymoon what do I do?
Heres a little background on why i'm even asking this question in the first place. I've been dating my fiance for 5 years now he was my high school sweetheart and i'm his. He finally popped the question last year and i've been planning ever since. Our date is June 22nd 2014 i'm pretty stoked? There is one problem his mother, now she used to love me then one day she just flipped on me one day when my guy stepped out of the room. She went on how i'm a princess controlling my wedding. WOw how dare i plan my own wedding the groom told me to do whatever i want. I'm not doing much at all i'm trying to make a beautiful cheap wedding. Anyways more drama went down. Now why would i have her plan my trip.. haha So she's planning our trip i think i let her control something in it i guess well she didn't do anything I asked for her to do. Its gonna end up costing us a lot more money in the long run. We are flying from denver to california to go to Disneyland and our hotel doesn't offer any shuttle service. I'm 21 and so is he so renting a car just becomes super expensive. Our hotel is already reserved and paid for no cancellation we are staying in Garden Grove the airline tickets have been paid for but thats it. I planned on driving and making a cheap vacation then we decided to just stay in denver cause we really dont have the money but everything was paid for without our knowledge and so much more.. she is honestly a monster in law. I have more to say but im out of time.
Planning to elope and told my mother...now she's upset?
so, my fiance and i have plans to elope (plane/hotel booked already). my mother kept bringing up my wedding over and over and over again. she started saying my fiance is a good man (duh, that's why i'm marrying him) and i should marry him, why am i waiting..blah blah blah. we got engaged on 2/15/08. and we're scheduled to get married on 3/21 (3-2-1...easy to remember). so i finally told my mom about our plans to marry in las vegas because she was all annoying. and well..she's upset and "crying inside" and sending me annoying emails. but we cant afford a weddign WEDDING and i dont want a backyard wedding; i rather have a backyard party when we get back. but she's all upset and now i'm confused. my fiance hasnt told his parents yet, but i think they'll be okay because this is his 2nd marriage; whearas this is my first marriage. i'm 27 and my fiance is 28. and we have an 7 (almost 8) month old baby together--only child for both of us.
What is a honeymoon and what do people do?
WTF, r u 4 real????????????????/
Who should pay for the honeymoon?
I'm not sure what the technical rules are for this, but I always thought it made sense for the groom's family (or the groom himself) to take care of the honeymoon, since the bride's family generally takes care of the wedding. For me personally, I wouldn't say no to anyone who wanted to pay for my honeymoon!
Is it weird to bring your family on your honeymoon? My family was poor our entire life. I want to go somewhere like Bora Bora & I want to take my family with me so that they can experience it. We could meet up on & off (not be together all the time).
YEEEESSS!!! It would be the most facepalm thing most people have seen lately. Like a big Italian family on vacation in a 1930''s movie. It wouldn't be a honeymoon, it would be a comedy. Someone would write a news article about you and embarass you in front of the whole world. Your fiancee would lose any respect she had for you until that moment.Grow up and let your fiancee know that you are now a man and not still a little boy who wants to satisfy his parents, by taking her to a beatiful place and being only you and her together. Your family will be happy for you. In addition, ask them politely not to call you or anything while you are there and of course you don't call them to report how you are doing. That would be another facepalm thing if it happened. Just enjoy your time man, and then later you can always bring your parents where ever you want.Also, you can always visit a shrink to see why you have these guilt issues and try get rid of them. I believe you have been always helpful to your family, and now there is also a woman whom you can make happy. There is a life in front of you to try and fix things, it doesn't all have to fit in a single month. Savour it. Begin with a big enjoyable moment for your bride and your self, because you too deserve it.