Why am I not feeling any emotions about my mother having surgery?
Hmm hi.. I find your question thought-invoking. I don't have the full picture here, I can only make guesses. It's obvious your relationship with your mum is good (if not great, with you calling her best Mum :). I don't really buy the distance-disconnect thing that many people here has mentioned (maybe a little), agreeing with you it's strange not to jump when told of the situation. Is there any remote chance that at the back of your head, there is something you eh.. hate about her? (Oh no.. I said that!) Or have your priorities changed? Got a boyfriend/girlfriend that you are very madly in love with? Sad but true, when you have your own family, you don't place so much emphasis on your parents.. But there is hope, cause you are feeling guilty of not feeling anything :P To know if I am correct, picture your boyfriend/girlfriend is the one going through the op instead. Do you feel any differently? Parents are one of the most under-appreciated group in the world. To raise a child is a thankless, messy, not to mention costly affair. The reason we came into this world is the love and goodwill offered by our parents. An abortion is so simple these days. Or they could've put us in a basket in front of an orphanage. Think of the memory/images/events where you have the strongest emotions of your Mum. Then try answering your question again.
Mother having Heart Bypass Surgery tommorrow, should I drop everything and fly home regardless of the cost?
well as a nurse who treats terminally ill cancer patients daily I would say absolutely. she gave birth to you she raised you. went to your school things and birthday parties and prom she was there for it all. Go make ammends for things that happened in the past that brought you farther apart. things that somehow pushed you away let her know you love her deep down and forgive each other. any surgery is risky heart surgery is especially so. think to yourself what is more important the money I can re earn at work or the mother who could possibly not make it through surgery or have serious complications and died thinking I did not care love or forgive her for past hurts. you could save on rental car by asking sibling who lives there to pick you up and you can try saving tickets money by checking flight availability often or cheap tickets.com there are also flight you can name your price and an airline will accept it or refuse it to try to get a cheaper ticket. try a travel agent explain circumstances they can often help with a reduced rate. good luck I will pray for your mom to be in the hands of an amazing surgeon who is guided by God to heal your mom andlet her recover quickly.
My mom is forcing me to get plastic surgery?
Septoplasty is usually not considered plastic surgery and rarely changes external appearances. I had it done with a turbinate reduction. It did not hurt but was extremely annoying for the first 24 hours until they removed the packing from one nostril. After that everything was fine. The purpose of the surgery is to allow sufficient air to pass through the nasal passages. My guess is that you, like I was, are a mouth breather. Breathing through the nose offers a number of advantages over mouth breathing, the least of which is appearance (it often makes one appear less intelligent and desirable). Other benefits include the filtering of pollutants, pollen, and other airborne debris, as well as warming cold air before it reaches the lungs. Most surgeons will not operate on a patient, even a minor, unless they medically need the surgery or they and their parents/guardians agree together on it. If you say no, most likely the surgeon will advise your parents to delay until such time as you also want it. I had the surgery when I was 22, and at 46 am very happy I did. As for the chin, just tell the doctor no to any changes to it. Tell him it is not medically neccessary and you do not want it changed.
Child support and cosmetic surgery question?
If its states he is to be made aware, and he wasn't... then this was a purely vindictive act! He needs to talk to his lawyer ASAP. Yes, he has to split medical bills, BUT if he wasn't made aware and this wasn't needed... like an emergency (which would be a valid reason for not letting him know ahead of time), then I think he shouldn't have to pay. Besides, whats wrong with the mother that allowed her daugther to get cosmetic surgery when she isn't fully developed? My face has changed from the time when I was a child, up until I was about 20... So, IMHO... cosmetic surgery shouldn't be done, let alone on a FOURTEEN year old. Thats just crazy!
Lets say your mom is having surgery are you going go to the surgery?
Heres my problem, my mom is having surgery I don't even know when yet but the council with the surgeon is this thrusday. I was planning to go to the surgery but now my brother decided that I shouldn't go, because im in college and I can't afford to miss 1 day of school which i don't agree with im doing perfectly fine in all my classes. Me and my mother are VERY close we are each others back bones and she really wants me there. She has a torn rotator cuff and a cracked a/c joint thats what shes having suregery on what would you do? Would you go to the surgery and support your mother or would you go to class?
How do I convince my mom not to get plastic surgery?
38 is definitely young to have a face lift. If she's not happy with how her face looks now, imagine how upset she'll be when she's 48, 58, or 68. I think it's absolutely fine for people to get plastic surgery out of pure vanity, but your mother sounds like the type who might take it too far and end up looking like Joan Rivers or Janice Dickinson in 20 years. The worst part of that is that those women probably truly think they look *better* with all of their horribly obvious work. The ego has a tremendous ability to preserve itself so they are literally incapable of seeing the mutilation they've inflicted on their own bodies. It's scary, but there are more and more women walking around like that and obviously you don't want your mother to be one of them. I think you should tell your mother how you feel: that you're worried she's too young to undertake a vain quest for eternal youth and it kills you that she's taking enormous risks for something that's pretty much in her head. Maybe you can bargain with her and have her put off the surgery until she's, say, 45. But something tells me that she isn't going to listen to you. I doubt she'd listen to anyone, even your father if he spoke out against her idea. All you can do is let her know how you feel and hope she makes the best decisions for herself. If she doesn't, you just have to accept that her self-image and priorities are a little flawed. Part of loving someone unconditionally means you still have to love them even when you don't love all of their choices. :(
Parent going into surgery!!! Nervous!!!?
I'm so sorry about this :( I think your best bet is to try and see the good in what's happening. Remember that this surgery is helping her for the better so whatever problem she's having will be fixed! After the surgery you won't have to worry when spending time with your mom and you'll be able to enjoy yourself...so remember.. it'll be over soon! Also remember that doctors are great at what they're doing and your mom has qualified doctors that specialize in whatever surgery she is having and are PROs at it! It depends how serious the surgery is... but the majority of surgeries aren't life threatening. If you're feeling scared don't be afraid to talk to your mom about it... I'm assuming she's nervous as well so you can help calm each other down... there's no reason why you should be hiding your feelings from her, especially cause you're so close! The fact that she knows you're there with her, caring and loving should help her feel better about everything. hope everything goes well:)