My 16 year old son got suspended from school for beating up the principal. What should I do?
Well, you will need to talk to him in a loving way. if you charge at him, he will think the world is against him and he will rebel the more
My Son was suspended from school (Details inside)?
Schools have ridiculous policies on fighting nowadays. I know that at my high school, you would get suspended for any sort of fighting even if it was purely self defense. I am 19, and not a father, but I believe you did the right thing by not punishing your son. He has every right to stand up for himself and to teach that kid a lesson, especially since the school didn't give him any disciplining. You should probably talk to the principal again, but more calmly. By now they aren't going to change their decision unless that kid admits to calling your son the N word, but it will make YOU feel better and I bet it will make your son feel better knowing that his dad is behind him 100%, which seems to be the case. Also, it would be good to make sure that his absence doesn't make him fall way behind in school, so maybe you could get his assignments from his teachers? It sucks things have to work out like that. You seem like a great guy and I think your son absolutely did the right thing. Side note: Is it just me, or is it weird that having a zippo is a MUCH more severe sentence than fighting? 2nd side note: Looking at everyone else's answers, I am amazed at how insensitive they are. Of course that kid deserved to get his *** kicked!
What's the craziest reason a kid got suspended at your school?
Once a couple of sixth graders were vaping during class. They asked to use the bathroom, and vaped there before returning and pretending everything was normal.They got so arrogant they showed a girl that one of them liked. She told a friend of hers who we’ll call J, who told me and one of my best friends. The first thing we decided to do was to ask the girl to take photos so we could report them.She got the photos and gave them to us. We were only a couple days away from telling the administrators when this happened.“Oh, did you hear? So-and-so told the principal that sixth graders were vaping!”Darn. He beat us. I asked J about it and she angrily told us the consequences everyone had received:Of the three boys caught vaping, one was the principal’s son and the other his best friend. So naturally they weren’t even reprimanded. The other boy was suspended for two days.Annnnnnd drumroll….The boy that told the principal was suspended for three days.He was suspended for telling the principal his son was breaking the rules. He was suspended for doing the right thing.And we were only a couple of days away from telling them. We could’ve gotten suspended for telling them instead of that poor boy.I guess they really don’t like tattletales.
My 14 year old son was suspended from school for hitting a girl. Can I sue the school?
What do I think? I think you and your son are both stupid. This is probably a troll anyway, but I'm guessing there's some f*cked up people who this would actually happen to. The school overreacted? Really? You don't think your son overreacted for punching a girl into a coma? It shouldn't matter if she said a mean comment on not, hitting someone is an assult. It doesn't matter if it was a girl or a boy this happened to, if you beat someone to where they're in a coma you're in deep sh*t. "He was having a bad day." Okay sweetie, make excuses for him. Maybe the girl was being mean because she was having a bad day? Ever think of that? Don't wanna hear that do you? You don't deserve an apology, you have no reason to get an apology. Put yourself in that girls position, or in the girls families position. If I were you I wouldn't even walk into that hospital room because if I were the girls parents I'd beat you into a coma too. You go ahead and take this to court. The judge will look at you and laugh in your face. I'm not even a judge, but I do study a lot of law situations and I can already tell you what this judge will say. "Your son assulted someone, correct?" Duh. "The young lady she assulted, she's now in a coma in the hospital, correct?" DUUUURRR. "Say this young lady dies because of this coma, a fatal wound inside the brain of some sort, are you aware that your son could be charged with murder?" Sure can. "Your son has already been suspended from two other school districts, this obviously isn't the first time he's caused trouble, correct? You realize this can and will be held against you while making a decision, right?" I'd hope so. Think about things before you act, tell your son this too. This is the stupidest question I've ever seen.
If your 17 yr old son got beat up in school (minor cuts and bruises) for talking to a girl who has a boyfriend and the school does nothing, would you call the police or do you think the child would be labelled as a snitch?
This is a very unfortunate situation that exists in many of our schools today. No one will do much of anything about a “bully”. At best the Dean may “have a talk” with one such. Calling the police will usually do little good as the bully will deny it and there is usually no witnesses.When I was in High School “bullies” were dealt with by the student body itself. A trip behind the gym with 4 or 5 of the biggest and toughest boys in the school usually did the trick without having to resort to actual physical violence, the threat of such was enough as most “bullies” are cowards at heart.Of course this can no longer be done as the boys would be suspended or expelled if reported.The best bet here would be for the girl herself to let the guy know that she considers him a wimp or whatever slang they use today for beating up your son. If she is his girlfriend I don’t see than happening either.Tell your son to avoid this girl like the plague.
My 8 year old son has been getting bullied by a group of kids at school since he got his glasses. Now, he won't wear his glasses, now the group still picks on him because he is overweight. What should I do?
Honestly? I’d get him in karate and work on getting his weight down. It’s awful to be a fat kid. And kids don’t need a lot of junk food. Maybe revise his diet, get him more active.But I’d also tell him the truth. And the truth is never nice. People will not stop bullying you until you fight back. He should go to school and beat the crap out of whichever one he thinks he can take down. That will stop the bullying in its tracks.Strength is respected and weakness isn’t. For mental health, it’s vastly better to fight, and feel like you have control over your own destiny, even if you get beat up, than it is to have to suck it up every day and eat shit from a bunch of jerks. I truly believe THAT is what causes suicide in bullied kids, not the bullying but the hopelessness. The schools never do anything and tattletaling doesn’t do anything but make it worse. The “zero tolerance” policy for fighting just allows the bullies to get away with tormenting others. Nothing is ever done to them. Sometimes it takes a beat down, to civilize people.i know my position on this is “old fashioned”, but it works. I’d rather my kid get suspended or even expelled, and have a sense of pride and the ability to know that fighting isn’t the end of the world, that standing up for yourself and handling your business, is far more important and valuable to building character, than “following the rules” and continuing to be bullied.This crap continues because nobody makes them face consequences. I tell my kids that they better never start a fight but if someone starts something with them, they better finish it. My kids will and do stand up for themselves. I swear it builds confidence more than ANYTHING else. Which is why they ban it. Can’t let children learn that they have any power and autonomy in their lives! Teach them to always “tattletale to authority” and let others handle their problems. Which only makes them miserable.So this is unorthodox but I believe it works. At least in my experience it does. Best of luck to you both.
A kid keeps smashing my 12 year old son’s glasses at school and he won't to tell me who it is. What should I do?
I am a parent who raised 4 kids. I had one kid who was bullied, but he was the oldest, and he didn’t want mom or dad getting involved.In retrospect, the bullies 15 or more years ago are probably the parents of the bullies today…Talking to other parents, and reading about life in today’s schools, when parents try to actively intervene, by going to administration, etc. then the kids are left to the mercy of the bullies revenge. If the parents do not intervene by going to administration, then the bullies continue. If the parents try to deal with the parents of the bullies, often the parents deny their sweet little Suzie or Billy would ever be a bully… and the next day, your kid gets clobbered.If you encourage your child to fight back… guess who will get detention or sent home for a few days… that happened to us when our son was tired of the bullies knocking the books out of his hands and punched the bully… and of course, the bully did not get disciplined.If your child does tell the teacher, and other students learn that happened, then your child gets labeled a snitch and is harassed more.Eventually, my son make friends with enough others that the bullies grew tired of hassling him.You have the additional burden of having to replace expensive glasses repeatedly. If you had evidence of who did it, you could go to small claims court to request the other parent pay for the out of pocket expenses… but guess what happens to your child next?I am sorry this is so discouraging. I honestly don’t know what to tell you. In our area, kids have brought guns, knives, etc. to school to deal with the bullies themselves. Sometimes the bully gets hurt. Sometimes the kid gets hurt. And sometimes the kid gets caught and tossed out of school.And that leads to the one alternative I haven’t talked about yet. Moving your child out of public school and getting them involved with an online alternative school. Many times, these provide the resources the child will need to get online. Some of these schools also provide some group activities so that there is socialization that can take place.Perhaps this is the ultimate solution for you.
Son was suspended for defending himself..should we accept it or fight back?
Both my kids are good kids who are more on the introverted side and don't like confrontation.Both have been in martial arts since they were 5, since my brother is a mixed martial arts instructor.My son knows how to handle his own if anything came up, like today.Since my son is somewhat of a ''shy nerd'' he tends to be a target at his school. Well, a group of kids came up to my son and his friend during lunch.They were taunting and teasing.They called them ''*******'' and such, my kid and his friend ignored them, as he was taught to.Since they weren't satisfied from the non reaction, they started getting physical.Again, the boys were trying to keep cool and not give in and decided to try and leave.The group of boys of 4 boys were circling around and wouldn't let them by.My son finally told them to get the F out of his face and leave him alone...provoked the ''leader'' and the ''leader' pushed my son.Then, another came around and kicked him in his side when he was down. Needless to say, my kid took both of those bullies down.Just then, a teacher came by and took my son to the principals office and was writing the suspension up before getting the story.The other boys admitted to starting trouble after the resource officer talked to them yet the boy who pushed colton down and the one who kicked colton only got a detention! I'm shocked because it doesn't seem logical or fair at all. My son is upset that he was forced to defend himself and got into trouble for it as well as getting suspended since his record is spotless. I just don't know what to do.I just had a baby and recovery is tough, so I cannot go down to the school.The principal is going to call.
My 15 year old son has 198/115 blood pressure, he is 5'9" and 140 lbs. Could this be hereditary?
My son was diagnosed with high blood pressure. His dad had high blood pressure and his grandfather died of a stroke at 33. His blood pressure was 198/115. His doctor put him on lisconipren. Is this drug harmful? Did he get this from his dad or grandfather? He eats good and exercises regularly.