My mom put me up for adoption when i was born... i have parents now that adopted me... but my mom want me back
i have a really nice family now!!! but i lllloooovvvveeee my mom to death!!! ive been seeing my mom for 4 hours on the weekends for my life since i was 3!!! shes a really cool mom but i love my foster mom and dad!!! in my adoption papers it says that it was an open adoption...meaning if my mom want me back all she has to do is go to court sign some papers and pick me up...but it also states that i have a choice to stay with my adoptive parents or go with my biological mother(my real mom)... my mom went to court last tuesday and signed the papers... i dont know if i should go with her and move to kentucky with her away from all of my friends and graduate with a different class... or should i stay in new york and stay at my school and graduate with my friends??? i dont know what to do i lllooovvveee my new family and my mom...
Is trans-racial adoption positive?
Yahoo News recently had an article saying that black children adopted into white families have a "higher rate of problems" than those adopted into same-race families. Upon reading the report summary, the problems are defined as struggling with appearing different, and "racial pride". It makes sense that these will be additional challenges in a trans-racial adoption. However I think the report glosses over the biggest benefits of trans-racial adoptions. Namely that the children are in a family that *wants* and loves them, and also usually has both parents living with the child. Don't these kinds of benefits far outweigh the costs? Is anyone aware of studies showing the long-term benefits black children receive when they are adopted (trans-racially) vs. those raised in foster-care or in single-parent homes? My wife and I have adopted trans-racially after hearing pleas from young black adults (who were raised in foster-care and never adopted) that they just wanted a family.
20 years later, my mom wants to meet me?
I'm 20 years old and I was adopted when I was very young. When I was 12 my adoptive parents told me that my birth mother gave me up for adoption because she was 13 when she got pregnant. I'm 20 now and up until two days ago I've NEVER heard from my mom. She found me and emailed me, and my adoptive mom confirmed that it was my real mom. I AM curious about my "real"mom, but I dont want my adoptive parents to think I care more about her than them. Should I meet my mom? Any opinions, etc would be REALLY appreciated! Thank you.
How can the adoptive parents be considered "fake" parents?
Someone answered my earlier Q and said "in an open adoption the birth mom is "supposed" to get letters and information on how her child is doing in the hands of its fake parents. I'm sorry but just because you adopt doesn't mean the child is yours as you didn't give birth to it. does anyone agree with this statement? how can the adoptive parents be "fake" parents? i feel the adoptive parents are the child's real/true parents, the child is theirs. the adoptive parents were there to take the child in when the child's mother couldn't keep them, they feed & clothe that child and they give it love and cuddles, they sing/give comfort to the child when they are too scared to sleep and kiss their bruises when they fall, they make sure they go to school and pay for them to go on holiday with them to make the child happy, the make every christmas and birthday special for the child, they are THERE for the child everyday, how can they not be the true parents? maybe they didn't give birth to the baby but they are the one's who took care of him/her and loved them, the birth mother did none of this, whether she wanted to give the baby away or not, she is not the child's parent, what makes a parent is someone who cares for the child and is there for them with everything, not just gave birth to him/her