Cousins insulting my mom, what should i do?
I'm in this mess with my cousin that i live with & her twin sister. They thought I was going to move out & not pay rent for this month so they've been ambushing me and yelling @ me and calling me names. I paid my rent on time and never wasnt going 2. My cousin's twin posted a public comment on my myspace page that belittled me and threatened me. Other friends and family members left their comments about how she was out of line and called her names. Both of my cousins keep saying things like "that makes me wonder where your mother went wrong" and "I hope you were raised better than that". These comments are highly offensive to my parents & I feel strongly that I must stand up for them. I did tell the twin to keep my mother out of this. But if she says something like that again what should i do. Other cousins have offered to kick their butts but i dont think physical violence is the answer. is there something else I can do to defend my mom, other than just cut those cousins out of my lif
My grandma loves my cousin and aunt more?
It started with my grandma's kids. She only ever cared for the youngest,my aunt. Even when she got into drugs,got pregnant,gave away all her money to her boyfriend,everything-she still loved her more. She's always in debt because she pays for my aunt's everything. P.S we all live in the same house. Then my aunt gave birth to my cousin(lets call her Q) Q was immediately spoilt,when Q was 2,she pulled my hair but was never scolded,my grandma gave excuses. Eventually my aunt lost custody but lived here still. Q instantly got her own room,even though I need it more,(im 13). My mom is independent so she doesn't care for us to get gifts. So my grandma doesn't ever try anymore. Even though she's in debt,and couldn't buy a (10 people 100(cheap)dollar tent for our family reunion she can buy Q an mp3 player,a DS(copying mine) with all the works,a bike,and all that stuff. When she takes me shopping she doesn't want to buy me 1 pack of pokemon cards, but something for 1.50! She says we always pick on my cousin which in not fair, absolutely hates my sister 1 year junior my age. If my sister and my cousin fight,instead of saying my cousin started the fight I have to say it was my sister for her to even care. My grandma says we're spoil and my cousin is poor but that's a lie! I can't stand losing my grandma to my 8 year old cousin. Please help me,I can't confront her and when I pester to my grandma enough to get my cousin in trouble she gets really violent with her to teach me a lesson. I have scars from saving my 2 year old brother and 2 yr cousin from Q's wrath and she cuts me with her nails. When I showed my grandma she ignored me! Help me,what would you do?
My parents are very disappointed to have found out that my cousin is lesbian. When and how should I come out to them as gay?
The 1st question you need to ask is “why should you”. At 56, I just discovered I am bisexual and that I have been keeping this from myself for the past 40 plus years. Talk about an entire change of self! They have an image of you that does not include your being gay. I see no reason to tell my mother, my step father or my brother or for that matter nearly everyone I know at this time. Why should I? They are not in bed with me. If it becomes apparent and questions are asked, at that time I will mention. We are in a very different age then when I was raised. But we still live in a time of big brother, hate and eyes watching everything. When something as simple as “I like this or that sexually “ can destroy lives… I strongly urge caution. My slave, taken from me by force by the US Government and her mother for daring to want to be a slave… has been on mind control drugs (HEAVY anti psychosis medication) the past 15 years since we were separated. She barely can get off the couch to go get a new drivers License yearly (sex offender registration in AZ). Cannot even sign her name in a remotely recognizable fashion, and I cannot physically recognize the woman any more. I am simply heart broken over this and as yet have been able to do nothing about it. If you do come out to them, understand, you might not have their love and support and you have to be OK with that.
Did my cousin suffer much?
What happened to your cousin is tragic and certainly a source of trauma for you and his family. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. To answer your question, carbon monoxide poisoning affects the central nervous system. The gas makes the oxygen carried by blood very reduced, which causes a person to lose consciousness. An acquaintance of mine nearly died from this by sleeping in an old van, and he described feeling slightly altered, slow and unable to react quickly and almost drunk. What your cousin experienced from the gas inhalation was possibly anxious until he lost consciousness. After that it's very likely he didn't experience any pain at all, since the central nervous system was affected.What I recommend to you most, is that you go to counseling, you and your family. There are many grief counselors who would be covered by insurance, and some who would work with you on an agreed upon payment plan. The state may also offer assistance; inquire with the police about this. You need to process this with a professional, you are a secondary victim to the crime that befell your cousin. Please search for a professional, and I hope your pain eases soon.
My sister is getting married and I am sad why?
The answer is very clear, Since you have grown and been with her, the childhood memories you have would automatically rush into you and it’d feel like oh MAN so terrible. since the feeling is like so huge beyond comparison. I can say this because I too have a sweet sister who was with me all the time and just 2 years ago she got married and it was Damn terrible,I dont know how much I cried, my heart started to melt up slowly,slowly, felt so regretted and since then I've been feeling so terrible in life, But ever since I knew the value of life, I Started to move further just ignoring away the pain and feelings cos I knew these are all procedures of our lives,I started to come back to my right mood for achievements in life. Now I feel completely fine and happy not because I have my sister with me, but I've understood how to over come it. Slowly you’d. Also I'm aware that I'm never alone any more in life, since my life has moved UP later on.So just feel brave and calm, It’d be easy for you to handle. and PS. Don’t keep thinking a lot about child hood. Know that this is a usual task to be done in life and move UP further.
How do I tell my aunt and grandmother to BACK OFF SERIOUSLY?
I have never been really close with my family. Not even my mom or dad but they are OK. So we went to my aunt's for Christmas. I really don't get along with my grandmother or my aunt because they favor my sister and cousins more. I don't know why but hey it's whatever, I have gotten to the point where I dont care I am focused on myself and I only visit them on holidays. So this is the first time they seen me in a long time, I was really nice. So I overheard my grandmother and my aunt talking about me in the living room, which I dont even think they were trying to hide it but they were saying how they think I'm weird because I was ALWAYS the quiet loner in my family. I would rather read a book, paint or listen to music than sit around and have a conversation with my family. Its always been like that...but my sister and cousins were really outgoing, they loved to talk, be the center of attention.....my family thought that was so cute and I dont have a problem with them, that is just not my personality and I never had to desire to try and please my family. I am in college but my family doesnt care at all, they still call me weird and say I'll never be anything. It makes me mad and my mom never takes up for me. I have decided not to come back here for next christmas..but spend it with my boyfriend which i planned to do in the first place. I however am sick of my family talking sh*t about me and I want to call them and tell them to back off of me?! What should I do?
I want to ruin my cousin's life. How do I go about doing this?
I know you are probably thinking that I need professional help and to grow up but I truely hate my cousin (shes 19) but I especially hate her mother even more. We are forever estranged because of problems that happened between her mother and my dad years ago. Years later they contact me on facebook and so I just forgave them for whatever happened between them in the past and to let things go but later on they all deleted me and they don't seem to want to have anything to do with me when I message them (I get no response). My cousin (19) and her manager had reported me to the police for showing up at her workplace to want to talk to her about family things and the cops told me she wants nothing to do with me. Because of my Asperger syndrome, I never got arrested but I did get heck from my parents. Eventually she changed to a different workplace because of me. I'm so livid right now to the point where I wish to go down to the police station to make a report of defamation of character against my cousin (19) plus sexual molestation against her mother (which I would accuse her mother of doing to me at 6 years old) even though its not actually true. I know the sexual molestation charge against her mother will greatly ruin her life (give her a bad reputation, lose her husband hopefully) because it would be illegal for her to molest me when I was a 6 year old boy many years ago. I know her mother does not have much money or to even be able to afford a lawyer. I just want to send out the message to them that it was very wrong for my 19 year old cousin to call the cops on me when I did nothing illegal. Its been bugging me for months and I'm still angry. Is this a good idea for me to go to the police to make a report on them?
My boyfriend says i'm always getting on his nerves.?
which i don't understand. all i do is ask questions. we are in a long distance relationship at the moment. i plan on moving to be with him in 4 months. i just went to visit him last week and he was saying i was getting on his nerves and all this week he's been saying i get on his nerves and i ask stupid questions. for example when he's about to cook somthing, i ask "what are u going to cook?" and he gets so angry. he said it's stupid and he doesn't like telling people what he eats. i love him alot but it seems like he's always angry and stressed when he's with me. even when i went to visit him he was angry with me but was nice with all his relatives:( i felt sooo left out. what to do! do you think this can work?