My mother passed away recently, and now my aunt is asking me for money that my mom owed her. Should I pay her back?
My mother passed away recently, and now my aunt is asking me for money that my mom owed her. Should I pay her back?Back when I was in college, my aunt lent my mom $14,000. Since my aunt is a housewife, she opened a joint credit card under my mom/her name in order to procure the funds. My aunt did not want her husband to know. She took money out of the account and gave it to my mother. Now she is saying I owe it.In the United States, your mother’s estate will be settled by the probate court. Her assets should only be distributed after her debts are paid. If your aunt doesn’t have a written agreement or other way to substantiate the debt the court may not pay her but it would be the court’s decision; not yours.If your mother had no assets I’m not sure if a free legal clinic could help you file papers to put her estate through probate so that the court will decide this issue for you.If your mom used the funds to help with your schooling you may have a moral obligation to your aunt but that is something you have to decide about the type of person you want to be and what you can live with comfortably.My condolences on your mother���s passing. Hugs.This is a good lesson on getting agreements in writing, even within the family.Even if your mom borrowed the funds to pay for your school, you do not have a legal obligation to repay them unless you also signed. If your mom has a legal obligation and no assets she can be declared bankrupt posthumously and you will not be legally responsible for her unpaid debt.This is not legal advice. Consult an attorney for legal advice. This is how I believe it would work and it could vary substantially in another country.
Should my parents know my salary details? Lately my parents’ income has been reduced, and I have told them I am making less than I am because I want to keep some for myself.
No.I told my parents and my sister how much I was earning when I started my new job at my university. A month later, my sister asked me for $700.My sister never disclosed why she needed the money, later I found out that she had $700 worth of unpaid parking tickets.I refused to lend her the cash.Friends and family members will continue to ask for favors unfortunately because they know how much you make.No one asked me for anything when I was making $500 bi-weekly, but when the number is triple, people are in need.I regret sharing this with my family, because people assume you are willing to pay for favors when needed.Truth is, despite making triple of what I used to make, I still do not have any money.EDIT: I forgot an important part of the story; my sister also drives a 2014 Mercedes SUV. This is largely a part of my decision to not loan her $700. More than likely, I wouldn't have seen the cash get back to me.
My sister is always asking to borrow money. How can I tell her to stop?
Hi First, I think you should applaud yourself for helping your sister and being there for here, this is really very nice of you, many people would have said " not my business" and let her deal with things on her own. I think there are a few ways to fix this problem, but, i think it requires your sister 's cooperation and her willingness to actually fix things. First, you can have a talk with her I know some people don't feel too comfortable wtih that, but, that is one way. Another thing you can do is make an appointment for her with a financial specialist ( usually a free service at your bank) and see what they can suggest for her. One reason she keeps coming to you is that she feels helpless and hopeless and she has no options. I think a specailist can help give her ideas on what she can do to save money or to properly manage her finances so she wont be running out of money all the time. I agree with you when you said she is an adult, but, you would be suprised at how many adults don't have a clue how to mange money. A third option would be that you can help her by creating a list of her expenses vs her income and see if there are things that she can give up so she can save some of her money. Is it possible to take her to a temp agency? ( check your city s yellow pages)They might be able to find her some temp work that might pay more money, another option is for her to check at the school she is going to, there is a center to assist students who are looking for a job. I know that my suggestions still involve you helping her, but, these options are permenent solutions rather than a temp fix every other week. I also noticed that you really care for your sister and therefore you are willing to help her every time she needs you. I can assure you that all of those suggestions require her commitment and cooperation ( she must want to work hard and fix things) do you happen to know what motivates her? Use that to get her going. As far as wal mart banning her, i truly believe that if she cleans her act, both you and her can go there and talk to the store manger to give her a second chance. People love helping so I doubt a big business like wal mart would refuse to give a second chance. Good luck. Sent from my iPad 3
My mom is always taking my money?
Okay every holiday or birthday, I would get money from my friends. Once I get the money my mom comes up to me and says "can i use the money to pay the bills" and I say "but this is the money I'm saving" and she gets mad at me and yells at me that I don't help her at all around the house. So I give her the money. I don't have anything saved up because she is always asking for it. It was my birthday two days ago, and I got 140 dollars from two other people, and my mom took it. I only have 60 dollars now because I didn't tell my mom about it. My brother always has money saved up because she never asks him for it. My mom wouldn't have this problem if she doesn't spend her money on other people. She is always buying her employee's kids ipads and beats earphones. But she is always telling me that she never has money. I know paying the bills are very important, but I feel like my mom is just taking the money. She gets over 10 grand a month, and she is complaining about bills. She shouldn't be spending it on people who don't care about her, and she knows it but she does it anyway. What should I do? I don't want my mom to keep asking me for money throughout my whole highschool years, or maybe all my life. I turned 16 two days ago. And she's been asking me for my money since I was 10
My mom requires me to pay back for taking care of me for my entire life. Should I pay everything back to her?
Not only no, but hell no. She should be ashamed of even asking you.It was her choice to have a child. If she didn’t want a child, she had a choice to protect herself from getting pregnant.She has no right to ask for any type of reimbursement, for her having a child, especially from the child she raised.Shame on her, for her audacity, to even ask this of a child.How about asking her for your inheritance. That should slap her in the face. This is outrageous behavior, for a grown woman. Takes a lot of balls to ask you for money, to raid you. Tell her to get it from your dad. I bet he isn’t even in this equation. I’m I right? I know. Forget it. And that’s what you need to do. Move on. You don’t need this woman in your life. She’s cruel and evil.Good luck. I hope things will work out for you. I’m very supportive of you, for having the courage to ask for our opinions, in this regard.I love my kids. I would never ask them, such a thing. It seems so outrageous, to me, in light of the fact I lost a child in a drowning accident, 36 years ago, the 27th of November. My mother-in-law blamed me, because I was on a trip. I was a flight attendant. I could not be working and home, at the same time. But it was my fault. This sounds like your mother.Id tell her to go to hell, before I’d give her a dime.The best of everything.Chris
I get invited to 2-3 events monthly by my aunt. I refuse all of them but holidays. If I'm pressed about my refusals, which I sense she will, how should I respond politely or impolitely?
How do you feel when you are together? If you feel pleasant, and happy, she is looking to be a friend to you.If you are having difficulties because she is “showing you around” to her friends, understand there is no greater love from one woman to another. If you choose to be honored, you will make dear friends who will hold you up when you least expect it.Tell her all you feel about going out and about. Even if you say you are busy now, or you are needing more private space. Say it gently.She will understand and nudge you if she thinks you are cutting back on your life for no reason, especially if you always keep a promised date with her, no matter how rare.Aunties are our Angels.