What do I do when my best friend thinks she's ugly?
I think my best friend is really, really beautiful. But she tells me all of the time that she thinks she's ugly and fat. She says she's overweight. She's actually almost underweight. And she thinks she's ugly but no one else does. I don't really know what to do about it because it seems like it makes her depressed and sad all of the time. She doesn't think she has any mental disorders that could be causing her to think she's ugly, but that's only because she thinks everyone should think she's ugly. It can make it hard to talk to her sometimes because she'll only talk about how much she hates herself. I know this is really unhealthy and not just teenage hormones. I don't know what to do about it, though. She refuses to see any kind of doctor or therapist to talk about how she feels about herself. I don't know if it would actually help her, but I think it could. I'm really worried about her and I just wanted to see if anyone had any ideas of what I should do because sometimes she tells me she wants to die and it wouldn't matter if she was dead and I'm really scared.
Ugly, fat girl thinks she is my friend. how to *politely* tell her to go away?
there is this really unpopular girl in my class, and her mom is coworkers with my mom, so sometimes we hang out. but the thing is it would KILL me socially to be seen with her. she is fat, not attractive, small boobs, and wears cheap clothes. i dont even think she has ever had a boyfriend and she is already 14. in class she tried talking to me, but I pretended i didn't hear her. im afraid if my friends see they will think im friends with her. she is a nice person, so i dont want to hurt her feelings, but she is ruining my life. how do i politely tell her that i dont want to associate with her anymore?
FAT FRIEND! need advice?
I'm 5'6 and a bit less then 8 stone. My weight is healthy for my height. ive thin long legs not super skinny boney tho. well my friends ia about 11stone or more and 5'4 the tallest. she said to me on the phone , Her - can i borrow your top? the blue tight one me - sorry i think my sister has it. Her - no you left it at my house :P Me - Well my sister was aking for it thought she took it can i have it back to give to her for tommrow Her - It fits! Me - sweet did you do the math homework? Her - Its a little bit tight.. i wish it would fit like it dose on you Me - its too short on me ha Her - Ide do anything to be the same shape as you Me - Sorry i was talking to mom do you have the maths finished? i need help :) Her - I'll comeover to help you after dinner ive to go and it it now. i walked to meet her half way and she got a lift in a car the other half off the way. she wanted to go get subway she got a foot long sub. i got 3 cookies and left overs and she asked for them i laughed and took a drink and she eat them too.. we got back to my house she askes her - do you have any sweets . me - nope there gone her - can we get food me - theres nothing nice ive had my dinner alrady ive enough her- how? you had nothing Me - i eat my breakfast dinner and got subway her - so? me - so what?:P how about helping me finish my maths. :) 1hour late she orders pizza. i had one slise and she eat the crusts.. she calls girls her size fat. when a guy said it to her before she goy upset . obviously shes always asking dont i look fat? am i fat ? amint i smaller then her (when shes fatter) she also says ide do any thing to be your size. STOP EATING AND DONT BE SO LAZY!
I try telling my girlfriend she's beautiful, but she thinks she's ugly and I'm just saying it when I don’t mean it. How can I make her believe me?
I'm a girl, and I can tell you right away to avoid Bill Taylor's answer because it comes from an ignorant, sexist old man and it's a load of bull crap. Also avoid posting photos of her on social media because she likely does not want them there, it could upset her and make her feel worse about her appearance if she is already unhappy with it. (even if the caption is full of compliments, like I'll explain in a moment, it doesn't matter.) It's also illegal to use or post images of a person without their consent. The real answer is because most girls have low self esteem when it comes to appearance, some more than others and some are more vocal about it than others. But in reality, there is pretty much NOTHING you can do to change her mind. This isn't to say she'll have the same opinion of herself forever, but she has to realize she's beautiful for herself. And even a thousand men telling her that she's beautiful every day won't do anything but make it worse. If you really want to make her feel beautiful then stop telling her she is and SHOW her that she is. Listen to her, and do it gladly. Care about her passions. Support her. Be there for her- but don't give her advice unless she asks for it. Basically, just show you care. Because telling her she's physically beautiful likely just reminds her of her insecurities. If you show her you love her for her, her likes her dislikes, her personality, it shows that you care about who she really is. Bringing up a girl's appearance all the time and complimenting her only based on her body seems to me like it's all you care about. Not the person inside of it. If you can't truly do that then maybe she isn't the one for you at all. Even though this won't likely change how she feels about her appearance, it shows her she doesn't have to worry about looking like a model because you care about her personality, and the way she looks is just a bonus.
What should I say when my friend asks me if she’s fat/ugly? Which is kinda true. I never thought about it though.
I will use an analogy. If a girl/woman with very small breasts asks for an opinion about the size of her breasts a person NEVER TELLS HER “Your breasts are terrible, they are so small I don't know how you can look at them every day.” Not only is such an answer very rude it is also very upsetting for the woman who is probably very distressed by the size of her small breasts. She is in need of confidence building.Likewise you NEVER TELL a person that they are ugly because they are probably very distressed thinking about it. Instead you give a reply such as “I have never thought that way about you. In fact it has never entered my mind. I think you are just fine. Always remember that every person is a unique human being and no two human beings are exactly the same. I wouldn't worry another thing about it.”Whatever you say has to be something that builds up her confidence in herself.
I'm not in love with my girlfriend, because she is ugly and fat. I feel like everyone in college laughs at me because I'm dating her. Should I dump her?
Did you start a relationship with her when she was already overweight, or did she start gaining weight during the relationship? If she already had a weight problem when you first dated, that’s on you. If you were uncomfortable with her weight, you shouldn’t have continued to date her and start a relationship. It would have been kinder to her if you had not gone on a first date, much less a second, if her weight was a deal-breaker for you. But if she only started gaining weight during your relationship, you should have started a conversation with her about it before it got out of control. Maybe she would have been willing to do some exercise and dieting while it was still manageable. You probably won’t like this answer, but you share some of the blame for the situation you are in right now. You had options but chose to be in a relationship with her anyway. She’s probably going to get hurt now, no matter the outcome. Try to be considerate of her feelings, however you choose to handle it.
My girlfriend has become ugly. I love her, but I'm not physically attracted to her anymore. I am in a helpless situation. What should I do?
Okay. It's a bit old topic but Here is the other side. Depends on what you find ugly about her. Few months ago my bf told me I should take care more of my face skin cuz I started neglecting it. He never said I should wear make up or do some drastic changes on myself. He just said that for my good and I realised it. At first I was a bit upset. Trust me I started telling him to go and find someone else, more beautiful girl, and he was replying: “ I dont want to find someone else. I love you and I only tell you this because I care for you.” That repeated many times by the time , I started looking more in the mirror and noticed all those pimples that had appeared there, together with blackheads. Although, he was telling me I was beautiful, I really found it disturbing. And I should admitit is not really healthy and attractive. If you love that girl, give her advices how to treat herself, be her motivator. Show that you care. Sometimes we just need a little push in the right direction but it got to be with the right words. Be kind to her, not harsh. Never stop showing you love her, if you really do. I am maniak on being fit and sometimes go extreme in that direction. He always tells me is not healthy to diet and that he loves my body. Maybe some of you still will think he doesn't love me, but I see it in his actions, however, even if you are right, at least I know he was the motivation I needed in my life. That's how I respect myself more and do pay more attention to the details. I still don't wear any make up, I just take more care of my skin. Nice but honest words is is the key.