What should I do if my boss told my coworkers that I asked for a raise, how much I asked for, and what they think I should get?
I have worked for a small mom-and-pop company of 4 employees for just over a year now. Last week we hired a new employee and my official 1 year mark. I promptly asked for a thorough work review and a wage that I felt reflected all of the hard hours I was putting into the company (mind you, I'm almost a full-time employee while attending college full time). My boss told me that she would review my request with her husband (the two of them own the company) and that the three of us could down and discuss at the end of that week. SWEET. I get a message this past Friday about a full company meeting regarding some projects we were currently working on, but as soon as I walk in I realize that is exactly not what we are going to do. Instead, my two bosses encourage my two co-workers (this includes the new employee who has worked for the company all of 3 days...) to take turns explaining how THEY think I should be paid. On top of the cornering me into a meeting without allowing me to prepare myself and a low-ball counter offer they gave me in regards to my raise (a counter offer they made clear was the only thing they were really willing to consider), I was extremely taken back that they had told both of my coworkers what I make and what I wish to make. Needless to say, I told them I would think about it over the weekend and promptly left for the day. What is the best route of action in a situation like this? Is it time to start looking for a new job or should I stand my ground?
My boss is putting me in an awkward position with my coworkers?
In a way, I know how you feel! At my work, my boss is always saying "Have Chase teach you how to do this; he's a hard worker so he'll know what he's doing!" or they'll just talk about me to other bosses or other co-workers for such a good job I'm doing. This one guy even says, "Keep up the good work" or "Good job!" sarcastically. But, in all honesty, they're jealous! Sometimes it can be annoying because when you mess up it looks kind of bad on your part but it shows them you're not perfect, you know? No one will think of you as a "boss's pet" and if they do, the more willing they're not to start any conflict with you and they are more willing to stay on your good side. So it has it's advantages more than disadvantages. I wouldn't say anything but laugh it off or smile, like you're doing now. Most employers barely get acknowledged and for you and I to get acknowledged through management is nice in a weird way. Plus, once you do leave, your boss will give you a sweet letter of recommendation (if you ever need it) and I'm sure he'll say a lot of nice stuff like "She's quick and efficient and I like her like whoa!" or something. <-- Kidding, of course, but you know what I mean! : )
A coworker said something extremely inappropriate to me. What should I do?
He has been hitting on me since I started working here over a year ago. I have explained to him every time that he has asked me out that I have a fiancé and am not interested. He is around 50 and being 22 I'm not interested and I'm taken. I find is gross honestly. I have a larger bust, I have D cups and I wear shirts that are lower cut because I find it more comfortable. Since I know some guys can't help if I don't mind if they look as long as they don't stare or make rude comments. But just glancing I'm not going to make a big deal about. But today this same coworker was standing over me talking about buying me lunch and I said "no thank you." Then he looked down and pointed at my breasts and said "those are nice" I really hoped he wasn't going there so I said "excuse me?" And he got a huge smirk on his face and said "don't play stupid, you know what I'm taking about, they look nice" then walked away. I feel somewhat violated and feel as if he crossed a line but commenting like that. What should I do?
I found my coworker’s wife cheating with our boss. They both don’t know that I know. Should I tell my coworker or will he think I’m a home wrecker?
I agree with the people who say you need to report this to HR, preferably anonymously or at least with the assurance they will keep your information confidential. You need to think about your job and the workplace in this situation. These kinds of relationships poison the entire workplace, because no matter what happens, others will think the cheating employee received preferential treatment in assignments, pay, etc. This also suggests your boss is highly incompetent, undisciplined and doesn’t care how the affair will affect employee morale and his ability to lead. You owe nothing to the co-worker’s spouse, but you do owe it to your company to report situations that will impair the company’s productivity and fair treatment of workers.
Don't want to get coworker hired. Coworker always blowing kisses and told me he was going to give me kiss me.?
Have a confidential meeting with your boss or Human Resources rep. Tell them you wish to remain anonymous and just want the coworkers cat calls to stop. His conduct is totally unacceptable, and you are protected by law. Have dates and times and exactly what was said, in hand. They must respect your confidentiality request and will be on the alert to his actions. If you want to remain totally anonymous, do not tell the other ladies either. If that doesn't matter, go in to report his actions together with some of the others. Your only other option is to get a new job. Do not confront Mr. Creepy by yourself.
I accidentally saw my coworker’s contract and salary, and now I feel I'm getting less than I deserve. Should I tell my boss?
You cant ‘accidentally see your coworker’s contract and salary’, that would involve continue reading something you immediately knew was not your business and probably from a source that you shouldnt have access to.If your boss leaves this stuff unprotected thinking its a motivator,likely breaching privacy regs.Anyway, the answer in any capitalist society is (and you know how much you put in every year) Every 12 months. Apply for better paid positions,even if you are happy. Provisionally accept any position you think you would do well/be happy in, as long as the salary is 8% higher.Go back to your boss and tell them you want (offer +2%) this time.DONT SAY ANYTHING ELSE.No details, just say thats what you want to stay on.Giving them details will just proffer an opportunity for the boss to fxck you with your next employer and you end up jobless.Employers rely on human mental inertia . (The employees unwillingness to move on,its part of business school teachings particularly in human resources )Some jobs come with some protections/benefits later, its all part of the game/gamble regarding human inertia.What I can tell you is without a shadow of a doubt, if you dont go looking for a new job and salary every 12 months by the 3 year point you are probably getting shafted 12 ways from Sunday, and the longer it goes on the worse the trap gets.At 3 years you are likely working for 6% les than you are worth.There is no ‘inertia’ involved from the employers side, even if you have some time served/ statutory protection they can get you out pretty quick with some deft paperwork moves and utilising obscure regs. (You accidentally accepted norton av on a company laptop,sent a private email in working hours,etc etc)You just have to set yourself up jobwise every single year with what you are worth and hit your employer over the head with it. Every single year.Thats CAPITALISM, Baby.
I accidentally saw my coworker’s contract and salary, and make more than him for doing the same job. Should I tell him?
Sorry I am getting on the opposite side of what everyone else is telling.I read in the others comments that in the US you could be fired if you mention salaries. Jeez, you guys live in a f**ked country I can tell you that ! OP, if you are in the US disregard everything I am about to tell because it only applies to country where social rights aren’t stuffed up your b*tt. (My experience is with Switzerland and Australia)I am sorry this link is in French but I need to tell this story :Didier Bille is an ex director of HR, he basically explained how he was able to fired about 1′000 people ; a quarter of it without any good reason ; just because of a lack of solidarity between employees.What kind of world do we wanna live in ? The kind where social injustices are happening and no one is batting an eye ? Or do we wanna point toward more fairness and equality ?I am sorry but same job, to me = same pay. Why is my life worth less than yours (Money is Time ; Time is life) ? Sure they may be some factors like : if you have been employed for many many years and (s)he is new.There could be a good reason, sure. But it is worth discussing it. Maybe not directly with the other employee, maybe with your boss ? With the HR ? With a lawyer ?I work in a kitchen and they replaced my chef ; they are now paying the new one 2$ less than they use to do. Because he’s less good ? Nah. Because they are happy to get every penny they can. What did I do when I asked him his salary and learnt that he was making less ? I told him the truth. Sure, him knowing or not, having a fair salary or not, doesn’t change my payroll ; but if someone knew I was being unfairly paid, I wish they would tell me.
My coworkers say disrespectful, unfair things about my boss. I’m not going to do anything like go to the boss and snitch, but would it be bad if I stuck up for her when they say these things?
Union Steward here. I deal with this all the time.Take each of the co-workers aside in a private setting. Tell them that you are not going to tell anyone any of these discussions (your conversations are confidential, after all), but that (for their own good) it must stop.If overheard by the wrong person, it could very well lead to very serious disciplinary action, including termination. The determination of the discipline would be up to that boss, and it won’t go well.If overheard by another person, that person could hold those conversations as office blackmail against them.Tell them that it damages their promotion prospects.It costs them the respect of others ( who might be next for this whispering campaign, right?) This is really passive-aggressive hostility and bullying, and who wants to be accused of that?It is simply a bad and very dangerous, work habit.Grousing is one thing, disrespect is another.Being boss is hard, harder than they know, and respect is deserved.You don’t have to like someone to respect them, right?They will respond that they have a right to free speech. I respond that they also have a right to unemployment - knock it off!Then set aside with them a time and place to regularly hear their complaints - one on one, confidentially, and in private.That’s how a good steward works.
Mentally unstable coworker?
I have a coworker whom I would say is mentally unstable. I'm pretty sure he is slow, as he graduated high school at age 20. His vocabulary is very small. He's a pathological liar. He has mood swings. He's obsessed with movies like Twilight and Frozen despite being almost 30 years old. He's put on close to 100 pounds in under 2 years. He constantly feels the need to claim his spot as an alpha male despite his obvious inability to actually be that person. Reminds me frequently that he owns a gun. Tells me stories very often of how he beat someone up, or would or could beat someone up, usually my boss. Speaks condescendingly to everyone including customers. Openly admits to stealing from the company. Shows up late and calls out frequently. Shows up drunk or high several times a month. Treats everyone like his personal therapist and complains nonstop about his personal problems with his girlfriend and mother occasionally to the point of tears. I brought these issues to the attention of my direct supervisor as well as the president of our company in writing. The three of us had a meeting in which they promised me they would do something about this and keep me in the loop. It's been almost two months and I've had no updates and the problems haven't gotten any better. If I could afford to quit the job I would. I am pretty sure this young man perfectly fits the profile of a shooter. I have asked for help and tried to warn my coworkers. There is no HR department. What do I do?
In California is the reason you call in sick confidential? Can your boss tell coworkers why you are out?
Legally, he can but it shows poor management skills.