Landlord won't let me move in boyfriend...should I do it anyway if chances of getting caught are slim?
The HOA will inform him when they fine him for allowing an unauthorized resident.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three months. We’ve gone away together and I stay at his condo frequently but now he’s asking me to fool around with him. Is that normal?
First, please don’t confuse sex with love. Having sex with someone you love is amazing. Finding out if you are sexually compatible before entering into a long term relationship is just good sense.If you get along and you’re considering a meaningful relationship, exploring your sexual compatibility is in both your best interests. Having a relationship eroded by intimate incompatibility is a profound waste of time, effort and expense. All of those things could have been invested in a connection that was valid. Sexual incompatibility is probably the most common issue people face in their relationships. If you’re not happy with your sex life, it begins to bleed into other facets of your relationship and things go downhill fast.Understanding that compatibility before the relationship is so involved you feel like you can not back out is the best way to laying a solid foundation.As others here have said, don’t be pressured into it. If you don’t feel like being intimate with your significant other after 3 months, there’s likely an issue other than that, that requires dealing with or ending the relationship.By the same token, don’t follow blindly the advice of people telling you to wait. For what? A disaster? Find out. Be in control of your expectations. Know what you want and whether the other person represents that for you. Then jump in the emotional deep end and see where things go.
Should I leave addict & alcoholic boyfriend?
I've always felt that my boyfriend might be gay or at least bi.He shares a bed with his gay friend.Used to live/hang out in a area of town filled with nothing but gay bars/clubs,motels,etc..Used to talk about taking me back there to find someone to take care of us.He calls his roommate studmuff and calls his other guy friends[some gay,some not]baby. He calls me baby too.Recently,I've been finding condoms all over the bedroom some opened some not.My boyfriend talks alot about his roommate having little boyfriends over but I don't believe that cuz I'm there nearly 24/7 and never seen his roommate have anyone over. The only people who hang there sometimes is my boyfriend's "friends". My boyfriend talks alot about how his money is my money and my money is his money but that's not true.His money is his money.I have no money.He always has money but he spends it all on beer drugs and smokes.He says he doesn't want to spend it on that stuff but he does.
Boyfriend just told me he thinks I'm desperate to get married! Help!?
Okay so background on our relationship, basically hes in the military and I used to live 5 hours away from him. I had a really good paying job, friends, and an excellent condo in a good neighborhood. He asked me to move in with him and gave me the impression that he was going to ask me to marry him because he kept talking about it and kept asking me my ring size and saying how great it will be when we are married. So I dropped everything, my whole life to move up here to be with him. Its been awhile since I've moved up here, and still nothing! He gave me a "promise ring" and said he didn't have money for a real ring but when he did he would get me one. I said I don't need a ring, I would be happy with a cracker jack box ring as long as I'm his wife. We have both been married and divorced before. This would be each of our second marriage. Anyway, I was looking at a dress online that I'm absolutely in love with. I showed him what it looked like and he said that it was very gorgeous. Then I said that I think the perfect day to me is July 4th to get married. Then he said that he agreed, then I let out a sigh which had nothing to do with the conversation and he said "you act like your so desperate to get married!" I said I didn't do anything and I am talking like I normally do. Then out of shock I just sat back and was quiet. Then he asked his friend in front of me if his friend had ever said anything without thinking and then regret it, pertaining to what he said, but I don't think that he said it without thinking, I think deep down inside he thinks it, and it really hurts. What do I do? How do I approach this?
My 18 year old daughter wants me to buy her and her boyfriend a condo in San Francisco, I have decent credit and can get a loan, should I do it?
No. Debt is a gift that keeps on giving.. For a long, long time. You have not said why your adult daughter feels comfortable asking you to pay for her living arrangements-for her AND her boyfriend- in one of the most expensive cities to live in the U.S.What kind of job/income does she have? What kind of a job/income does he have? If they combine their resources, where CAN they afford to live? Why do they need/want a place in San Francisco vs other spots?I would consider making them a loan, perhaps, if they signed legally binding papers… But buying a place outright? No. Especially if I had to borrow money myself to get it. Honestly, I would be more amenable if they were actually married first, too. Otherwise, the loan would be only to my daughter.
Would you ask your partner for rent if s/he moves into the house you own?
Absolutely. Becasuse I don't want intense arguing and resentment in my relationships.Personally I would be suspect of any adult who wouldn't expect to pay and want to pay something for where they live.In a new romantic live-in relationship if one person assumes they don't have to pay for housing, that non paying person feels entitled, and that person doesn't have the ability to respect their partner.That said I would equally be suspect of someone who wouldn't expect or accept payment for providing housing to any adult, even their own children, outside of an unexpected temporary hardship. And even then with well defined time limits and boundries.Story time!!I charged my 22 year old son,who has Aspurgers syndrome, $200 a month. My Mortgage and fees for the 2 bedroom condo were $1000.One day I noticed how disgusting his room had become, I asked him why he hadn't cleaned it and isn't he embarrassed when his friends come over? And how could he live in such a mess?He looked at me and said, “because It doesn't bother me. And, I pay rent.Gulp!!I liked that $200 more than I wanted that room clean.If two people live under one roof and only one pays for it, the other will have more than a roof over their head.A logical guide would be a percentage of whatever you pay to live there in mortgage, taxes HOA fees. And in a romantic relationship of course that percentage should consideretly adjust to the partners income ( or how attractive they are ).
I'm buying a condo and my girlfriend will be living with me in Colorado. What steps should I take to protect my property if our relationship sours?
TL;DR - not much. Just make certain her name does not appear on the title to the property. Since she will not be a signer on the mortgage, and therefore not responsible for the payments, good sense dictates that she not be on the title. Not being on the title means that she has no ability to encumber the property. It also means that she cannot claim ownership interest in the property and cannot require that you obtain her signature if you want to sell or borrow against the condo. If your funds, as you say, checking, savings, credit cards, etc are not jointly held, then it would be hard for her to claim you've commingled your finances. Since you are not married, she cannot make a marital claim to the property. She can, if she wants, resist moving out. After she's "taken possession" of the property as a boarder/tenant, she can force you to evict her if you want her out. This can be difficult and lengthy. Evictions vary by state, so check with your local housing authority or a real estate attorney for eviction details. She will be entitled to take anything she paid for, like if she bought the Persian rug in the foyer, she can keep it. I advise you don't allow her to pay for permanent fixtures. Don't let her contribute to, say, install hardwood floors or replace the appliances. She could later claim she helped improve the house in ways that can't easily be removed and demand to be compensated. You need to pay for every aspect of owning and maintaining the house and keep the receipts. You could limit some potential headache by formalizing her status as a boarder (roommate) with a roommate lease that specifies what she is responsible or and the circumstances under which she must leave. Obviously, that's not very romantic, but, like a prenuptial agreement, it can protect her as well as you. Most condos have HOAs and most HOAs have rules that say you must provide them with a copy of any lease and the names of any non-owner, non-family residents. So you could use that to convince her to sign a boarder agreement or lease. Please be advised that I am not an agent not a lawyer. This answer cannot be a substitute for sound legal counsel.
Do we buy a condo or rent an apartment?
I am currently 28 weeks pregnant, and about to graduate high school in 2 months. I plan on going to college for my bachelor's in business. I currently live with my parents and my boyfriend in a nice part of Long Beach. My parent's sold our house, and are moving to Moreno Valley in about a week and a half. I have a horrible living situation as it is, living with an abusive father who's main goal is to make sure that I am more miserable than him. Also, living in Moreno Valley is too far from my school, obgyn, orthodontist, dentist, therapist, plus my boyfriend's job. My mom is giving me $20,000, and I wanted to use that money for a down payment on a condo, but my boyfriend doesn't make that much money; I don't know if he would be able to afford the mortgage, plus all of the other expenses. We were thinking of renting an apartment and the $20,000 will go towards rent for about 2 years, and then by then my boyfriend will either of finished trade school, or would have a better paying job that would pay enough to afford rent. Although, renting an apartment seems a little wasteful. I just don't know what to do, can I please have some help from someone who's more experienced than me? Thanks.
My boyfriend of 11 years decided he would prefer a drug-addicted 20 something to live with. My ex is selling his condo to the youngster's father. How screwed am I if I don't have a written lease?
Going to make some assumptions from my understanding of your fact pattern:Your ex owns the condo. You lived with him without a written lease or an oral lease. If there was an oral lease, you'd have to be evicted and that would be a relatively quick case (bout a month), but that could only be done after he gave you written notice that your lease was being terminated.However, in these situations between friends/family/significant others, there usually isn't a landlord/tenant situation where one party is paying an agreed-upon amount of rent. If that's the case, the cause of action to boot you out isn't an eviction, but an ejectment (or sometimes unlawful detainer). Unlike an eviction, these cases are not entitled to the expedited "summary procedure" and would take a bit longer depending on hearing availability. Don't think you would really have a defense to ejectment, you can't just stay there over the owner's objection if they go through this process; however, you can raise a claim for Betterment to be compensated for any improvements to the property that you were responsible for - "permanently improved the value of the property" before the ejectment case was filed.I believe this would be the situation whether the property is owned by your ex or a new owner. You were allowed onto the property to live so it won't be trespassing for either owner unless and until they take court action to terminate your rights to continue occupying the property.