My sister is prettier than me and it's killing my self-esteem. What should I do?
I should go ahead and say my sister is also prettier than me. And it used to give me a bitter taste in my mouth.I am the youngest one in my family, and as siblings, we look after each other. Well, normally the elder ones were in charge and had the responsibility to protect and provide the younger.So since I was a child, I was bitchy and demanding and I wanted things to go my way, including people’s affection.Everything went well my way for first couple years of my life, until I came to an age to realize who is the prettiest of all. I still tried to fool myself that I was still the best, and the most beautiful, and that’s why I am my mom’s favorite child. But that trick did not work so well with outsiders.My sister is astonishingly beautiful and everyone liked her. All the boys in schools and college. She had many male friends came to the house and hung out. Some of them were handsome too. And all of their attention went to my sister.I didn’t take that so well.I was jealous with her look. I tried to get people’s attention. I hoped my sister’s male friends liked me more than her. When they were trying to talk to my sister, I jumped into the conversation and started talking, trying to make them like me.I pretended that I didn’t care about her followers. I also acted mean to my sister. I hated the fact that I had no follower while she had a bunch of them. I hated the fact that she didn’t need to try so hard but people still liked her. I hated that she was a ball of joy, while I was grumpy the whole time.I wish I could tell you somehow I figured it out and I started to treat her well, but in fact I didn’t. Not until I grew up and I managed to nurture myself and my self-esteem.My sister is still breathtakingly beautiful, but she didn’t have a good marriage. She divorced and is a single mom while I am living happily with my husband. I feel sad for her.You see, if you love yourself enough, you will not need to worry about people’s affection. And you will not even care about the look. It is not about how pretty you are, but it is about how happy you are.Enjoy your time with your sister, feel happy for her pretty look while you still can. And DO NOT think about yourself as the uglier, which reduces your self-esteem as you are doing right now. Focus on what you have, build your confidence and knowledge.You are loved. You are pretty. And you know it.It starts with you.
I'm feel bad cause my cousin is way prettier than me?
So were both 14, I'm an ugly girl , taller than what i should be 5'11, and fat 180 lbs. She's really pretty and gorgeous. I'm not simply jealous of her like "I wanna be her" , but I'm sad because people brag about it too much. Every relative is like "Christine is the prettiest", "Christine turns heads everywhere she goes", " a friend of my son's talks about her a lot", "you know, Angelina is nice but Christine is the prettiest". Yes I get roasted in family parties a lot , on the 4th of July it was the worst. And, the worst thing is I had a crush on this guy for 2 years and he likes her for a year and a half! Yay how could my life get worse! And you know what? She uses him as a reserve, she's dating a guy named Trevor but when my crush asks her if she's gonna date him she says "give me time I'll think about it". I asked her why she does it and she said she keeps guys like that just in case she breaks up with Trevor. I haven't told him that, cuz overall I'm hate gossiping no matter how much someone hurts me. I'm slowly giving up on my crush( of course why should I try??) , I feel like an ugly kraken and my relatives won't stop reminding me.I know what your thinking is "you're never gonna be pretty grow up and suck your feelings up" but I could use any advice that would get me out of this situation?
My cousin hates my boyfriend who he hasn't met...?
Ask him what his problem is. Your cousin should be happy that you're happy not because of some reason that you have no clue about. Do you even know why he doesn't like your bf? If you're 100% happy with him, then forget about your cousin.. I mean yes it's family.. but don't risk losing someone you love just because of what one person thinks. I know one person that absolutely thinks me and my bf shouldn't be together and we've been together for a year and a half and we're still happy. Just do what makes you happy.
I'M REALLY ANNOYED THAT MY COUSIN IS PRETTIER THAN ME IS THAT BAD? (pictures work in this one)?
I'm really annoyed because my cousin is ALOT prettier than me. I feel jealously every time i look at her. Looks wise, everyone, including my own mother says she's prettier. But personality wise, everybody says that i have a much better personality than her and if they could choose some-one to hang out with for the rest of their lives it would be me, not her. I know its really mean and everything, but every time i look at her i think of how ugly i am. Then a secound later i say "i dont care" because i'm quite a confident person. This is her (yes i'm a jealous cow, i know) http://s447.photobucket.com/albums/qq193... http://s447.photobucket.com/albums/qq193... And this is me. (i feel so ugly.) http://s447.photobucket.com/albums/qq193... http://s447.photobucket.com/albums/qq193/JiinX--/?action=view¤t=IMG000111.jpg I hope the links work this time.
I think my cousin acts like she's better than me and I'm sick of it, what do I do?
She is probably jealous of you in some way and insecure about herself. This kind of thing is pretty frequent in relationships, no matter if you're close or far away. First off, try not to listen to her and tell yourself how good you are, smart and beautiful and so much better. You and your cousin have it better off in the world than others do. You should both be thankful for that much, at the very least. Secondly, you DO need to confront your cousin about this! Why wouldn't you? If someone slaps you, do you try to defend yourself? Of course you do, and your cousin is slapping you. She may or may not realize this. Let's hope she doesn't realize how much she is hurting you and that it's just a misunderstanding. In the rarer case that she is doing it maliciously, maybe that means you don't need to be around someone who's going to cause you pain on intent. That's just wrong. All you have to do is, when she makes the joke or comment and it's in private (just you two), call her out on it. Say something. "Oh, you know what, that kind of hurt." If it's in public, ask to see her in private and tell her that that kind of joke/comment/behavior is unnecessary, rude and hurtful and that you want it to stop or you will refuse to speak to her. It's as simple as that. Will it mean you get on bad terms with her? Maybe, if she's unwilling to admit she's wrong. But you're right, and you don't need to shove it in her face. All you have to do is let her realize how wrong she's being after you say it once. Also, after you tell her what the consequence is for continuing her hurtful behavior, make sure you stick with that consequence. If you don't, she'll know you're just a door mat, which I'm sure you aren't. But be strong and let her know how much it hurts. There is no reason for you to be abused by your own family member. Don't take it. Seriously, don't.
My cousin is so beautiful.. it makes me hate my looks!? (PIC)?
I just saw my cousin recently after a year of losing contact, she has become flawless I cannot understand how it happened so quick but now its made me realize how much I hate the way I look and wish we had some of the same traits!! What do you think of her? My brother even acts creepy around her!! She's 19 and uses her looks to manipulate every guy she comes across. Im convinced http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/713/photo413.jpg/
I compare myself to my beautiful cousin?
Let me start off by saying I love my cousin, we're both 14 years old (I'm 6 months older) and we have an AWESOME time together. We are girls. It's just that sometimes I feel incredibly jelous. We are both about 5'5, and we almost lookalike(family resemblance) It's just that she a has qualities that are better.she's EFORTLESS. She has perfect skin, I have to take extra care of mine so I don't break out. Her hair is healthy shiny and long before she cut it shoulder length and it's still pretty, I'm struggle to grow my hair out faster, it gets dry and it's damaged easily and to get it shiny I have to take care of it(her hair is one of the things I envy the most,it used to be down her back yet she hated it). But the thing I envy the MOST? HER BODY omg her body is awesome (no homo/incest)! It is the perfect shape, and yet she eats unhealthy things like a cow, and she is still skinny (I think it's genetics since her dad/my uncle is really skinny and tall, also my mom and her dad are the siblings) she doesn't really work out not even a little bit. She points out that she's skinnier than me too (I'm not fat haha just not HER size) she says stuff like "haha I'm skinnier" or "your thighs are way bigger than mine" (she's not mean she's actually really funny, it's just that sometimes it does secretly hurt my feelings) and you know what it's true. (I've been losing weight though) im 5"5 (maybe and a 1/2 idk) and wiegh 133 that's not good, she wieghs like 115 ,i believe or even lower. How do I get over this jealousy my thighs are big my hair is short damaged and my skin breaKs out easier. PLUS SHE'S FUNNIER THAN ME! HELP!
Being compared to my cousin?
My cousin and I are complete opposites as well. I know it is hard not to compare (particularly when my cousin got into Harvard Medical and I barely had the GPA to go to a state university...think about how much comparing my family did with that!) You have to find your qualities and take on a positive attitude...self confidence goes a long way. Stop comparing yourself to her. You are two different people. Focus on what you excel at and features you love about yourself. As for the boyfriend thing...guys have different tastes too. Not everyone likes fair skin, tall girls, etc. Personally, I think dark skin is beautiful and I work on a tan every summer so I can have that!
I am jealous of my cousin?
She's so pretty and she has a tone body. She has the California tan I want and she swims everyday in her OWN pool! She has an amazing taste of style because everything she's worn always look gorgerous on her. She use to have a bad past because her mom had a mental condition but now she lives with my rich cousins. Her mom and dad are rich even tho they're divorce and her dad pays for everything. She even goes to a private school unlike me who's in a public school :( She has a sibling and I'm an only child. My parenst are poor and I hate it. I just feel like she's just got the better life because she has everything I want. She lives in California still and I'm somewhere else ! ughh, how can I stop being so jealous, I just hate this feeling!