My dad called me fat?
Today my dad came home from work and I was on the couch on my phone, enjoying some time to chill before doing my homework. He asked if I wanted to go play basketball, but told me that I had to drive us. I have my learners permit, and sometimes I just don t want to drive, and so I told him that. He proceeded to get angry and tell me I was fat. I was shocked that he even said that. He then said "so you re gonna be a fatass or get up off the couch" I have been going through a rough time with my best friends and this is the last thing I needed and now I am so hurt by what he said. He didn t feel bad about either. He s been making jokes about me eating and my weight recently and now I don t even know how to feel
My Dad Called Me A Loser?
Okay well the thing about your dad. Your dad has absolutely no right to call you that but who am I to tell him what to do. I'm pretty sure you want so desperately for you to hear the "I'm proud of you!" But until your dad can accept the mistakes that you have made and that he has made, I don't think its going to happen. The key to finding a job is your attitude! Keep your head up and stay positive. Even if you don't get the job, you know that you did everything you could do. Don't sell yourself short either. If they choose someone else then it's their loss. There is always people needing some help and use your skills to help you along the way. If the say you don't have the experience, let them know that you are willing to work and prove to them that you can be just as good. Finding a place to stay will be just about as difficult as finding a job. You have to think about rent or payments, location, amount of living space. I would try somewhere small and maybe try a roommate to divide the bills. As for your mom, there may have been a number of reasons as to why she left. The reason she wants nothing to do with you as you claim is because she still has not accepted what she did. She has moved on with her life and tried so hard to rid herself of her past. You being in her life, is bringing back her past. So think about it this way. If she wants nothing to do with you, you keep pushing. She may be annoyed and irritated but you make it known to her that you are going to fight to have a relationship with her. If she still continues to push you away, you might want to save yourself the endless heartache and back off a little. You can do great things will the right persistence, dedication, and attitude.
My dad called me an idiot...?
i locked myself in my room and im cyring because my dad was yelling at me and called me a stupid idiot. my mom went out the door , god knows where she went. and my dad just left and followed her. my mom was like 'dont call your kid an idiot' and he just said,'idiot' all because i gave my dog a piece of my garlic finger and i BOUGHT the garlic fingers myself. he was like ' thats pure greed' and i offered my mom and him a piece and they said no. my dad is always picking on me. earlier he was like 'peehead' 'fart'head' and stupid names. pokes me in the rib, knocked me off the couch laughing,. etc it makes me feel like he doesnt love me. my mom gets pissed at him and tells him but then hes like 'you always take up for them, no wonder their like the way they are' (i have a younger sis and bro) my little sister annoys me sooo much and when my parents arent looking she'll call me fat (and im definitly not) and hit me or mess up my room, call mee names etc and my brother will go on 'her side' i hate being the oldest and i hate my life. no one evers cares about me and my younger siiblings always get what they want. plus im 14 and they are 12 and 11 so they arent even that young. my parents always make me do dishes,tidy up, put away stuff etc and never ask them. what do i do? i know i sound like a stupid little kid looking for attention but im not! this is serious. i cry like everyday! i dont have many friends at school . maybe like 3 girls i actually talk to a bit. i dont know why but no one likes me. my mom thinks i have lots of friends and stuff but i dont. i get very good marks in school and she is happy but kind of expects me to. i love my mom but my dad is just...ugh.,
My dad called me fat....):?
Me and my dad went to a restaurant today and when we were leaving he said i should excercise because iam out of shape. hes always saying im overweight mean while he is very overweight. I feel like the fat *** i my family...my mom is a size 0 and my sister eats whatever she wants and doesn't exercise yet shes stays skinny. My mom looks at me like im a beluga whale and im afraid to eat in public... I used to have an eating disorder and be 5ft4 and 90lbs now im 130lb and ive gained 15 lbs this summer... how can i lose weight...i feel so fat and depressed i try to excercise but it doesnt work...i eat veggies and fruit! ughh Bq; also i have my school uniform pants from last year which is a size 0...im scared and ashamed to tell my mom i need to get new ones:( how should i get them??
Why does my dad call me worthless and useless? He is biased towards my other siblings, is there a mental problem associated with this?
Your dad is an emotionally abusive asshole. It may be a mental disorder, such as NPD, but it doesn’t matter if it is or not because only a mental health professional should be making a diagnosis. Either way, abuse is abuse. It doesn’t matter if the abuser is mentally ill or not, they’re still abusing.He’s most likely projecting, meaning he feels worthless and useless deep down but he’s attributing those negative qualities to you so he doesn’t have to acknowledge them in himself. It’s a subconscious defense mechanism. Something about you, on some level, likely reminds him of either his child self, or it reminds him that he feels worthless and useless. Abusers typically were abused as children themselves, which isn't an excuse but it might help you understand his behavior and take it less personally.As for the bias toward your other siblings: it can be something as simple as you being more kind and caring than your siblings, or that you are less willing to conform to what your dad wants than your siblings are (which is awesome — keep being yourself, and don't change for anyone). You just happen to be his scapegoat. It’s not that you are “bad” or “worse” than your siblings in any way. If you weren’t there, he’d be abusing one of your other siblings because the problem is within him, not you.I don't know how old you are, but I know if I would've known this stuff when I was growing up it would've been helpful. You’re not worthless or useless, and you are good enough as you are no matter what your dad says.
My dad called me selfish?
He called me selfish because I don't call him and stuff and I don't wanna talk to him. He's not there for my life and he has to work. He's a truck driver and it's his fault that I don't know the rest of his family. I know my moms family because she takes me down there to see her relatives. He's not there for my sisters either. I partially grew up without a father and without knowing the rest of his family. I feel like a part of me is missing. Was it wrong for my father to call me selfish?
My dad called me a lesbian?
I am 15 years old. My parents just bought me a new bookcase. Instead of waiting for my dad to come home from work all tired and make him assemble my bookcase I decided to do it myself. My dad came home to a complete bookcase and started screaming at me. Now my dad is screaming at my mom for allowing me to put the bookcase together and he saying that she is allowing me to turn into a lesbian? This happens whenever I do something that is not typically for girl. I hate that they are fighting now because I acted like a lesbian or a boy by putting the bookcase together.
My dad called me worthless! Help please?!?
My dad has said worse to me. He's called me worthless, a stupid b-i-t-c-h, a slut, not guy will ever love me. He feels bad for the guys I date. The year I didn't talk to him was the best one ever ect. Dads are supposed to take care of you and protect you- not cause the hurt. I saw a theripist and he said to tell my dad exactly how I feel and I did. It didn't work for me but maybe it will for you. Tell him you miss the dad that would (instert good memonry here). And how you don't know how things got to be like this but you want to fix them and such. :) worse he can do is call you worthless again. Sorry but its true. BUT you are not worthless. Someone will find you to be the most valube person in their life. They won't know how they lived with out you before and wlll miss you when your away. They will treat you amazingly and you will believe it when they say your amazing. If your dad doesn't come around it will hurt but life goes on, and each acomplishment will remind you how your far from worthless.
My dad calls me and my mom lazy and useless?
I'm 13, and I feel like my dad hates me and my mom. He goes to work everyday while my mom stays with me and my older brother who's trying to be a DJ (he's 24) and my sister has moved out with her husband and dogs whom live across the street from us (she's 23). My dad stays out everynight and comes home late, usually drunk and last night my mom overheard him talking to my sister about how useless and lazy we are, and it's not like my mom can do anything. We moved here to mexico 6 years ago and my mom is too afraid to drive because it's very different here, and my dad takes any money he gives us because he thinks we'll blow it all on useless crap. Once he called my mom a waste of breathing lungs. My grandmother is pretty poor, and she lives in the US with her 41 year old son who does nothing, and I mean NOTHING but sit on his computer all day playing video games and never helps out, and don't get me wrong.. I love them, but if my mom were to leave my dad, she'd take me and go live with my grandmother who has no money. My father is very, very judgemental towards me, he thinks I'm a freak because I like piercings and wear platformed shoes. What's normal to one person, is abnormal to another, which is okay.. But he doesn't need to be rude and tease me about the way I look. My dad is very proud of my sister because she's some kind of boss at an insurance company and gets to drink champagne with rich people and he feels with the way me and my brother are going we aren't going to get anywhere because we want something different. If I were to leave, with my mom, I would be leaving behind my friends and most of my family. But I will stay by my mother's side no matter what, and stand up for her because she's my mother and I love her. I have disappointed my dad so much, and he's grown to be very aggressive towards us, talking crap about us with my sister. He can rag on me all he wants, but my mom's heart is absolutely broken and she cried herself to sleep. I hate him, but I love him. He's my father, but he has no right to treat me and my mother this way.
My father called me a loser today.?
i live in a country where there is a big economic crisis and there are no jobs to be found anywhere.. i look in the newspapers and search on the streets for jobs a lot.. but like i said, no jobs.. he called me a f'ing loser today and that he was never a loser like me in his life. he grew up in times where there were opportunities everywhere.. so he opened a little burger shop and made great money back in the 70's..(try doing that today , dad) so me and my brother asked him for his help to start a business together and he said," i only helped you because i know you're both losers and you would never make it in life without me" what can i do about this? should i just leave the country and not accept his help? this is the most degrading thing anyone has ever said to me before...