If my dad hits me, should I hit him back?
No, do not go down to same level of using violence instead of words, especially with a relative. There are other ways to respond, to show him how this affected you. If you think it safe, find an opportunity to tell him in a calm and measured tone that he should not have hit you and that you will defend yourself next time. Do not pick a fight and do not respond with same physical aggression, I don't think it is a good idea and is not safe.Think about why he hit you. Did you deserve it? Did he overreact? Who is truly right? If you feel that you absolutely did not deserve it and there was another way to send the message that you would understand, try to tell him this.My father used to hit me, but not strongly, and very rarely. Maybe 3–4 times over the whole childhood. A couple times he used a spoon to hit me on the forehead during a family meal. The reason was usually mundane, such as not properly doing something related to table manners in spite of being warned previously, or 'acting up' a little maybe.Each time it happened, it made me want to cry, or I cried later, not due to pain, but due to a sense of deep embarrassment. It was a feeling of unfairness and betrayal on his part. I never felt that I deserved it (though I did other stuff where I probably deserved it, but he never found out about that). It felt unfair because he knew I would not retaliate. However, it completely ruined my relationship with him, which was never the same after the very first instance of using force on me. I lost trust.And that was the seed from which my attitude toward him developed. It was not violent, it was more of what I did not do: I did not choose to live with him after I got older, and I moved away. I wish him well, but I wish it from a distance. You know, sometimes relatives simply must not live together. It's better this way for everyone. Realizing and acting on auch realization is the single most important thing you might ever do to ensure a better quality of life for yourself, and probably for them too.
My dad smacked me what should i do /x?
ok well im 12, and last night i had a sip of alcohol and then my dad walked in and shouted at me to go to my room which is my usual punishment just to go to my room for the rest of the night with no dinner, but then my dad came into my room, pulled me up by my hair and then pulled me over his knee, bared my butt then spanked with his hand, ping pong paddle, hairbrush, slipper and belt for an 1hr then made me kneel on grits for ages ! then put icy hot on my bum which burnt it, and now i have bruises and my dad said if i did that again he would spank me till i was unconscious, he never spanked me or my younger brother before and now im scared but i do love him so much hes my dad and i dont want to get him in trouble i mean the bruises will go and i can tell hes sorry even if he hasnt said it, i only had a sip of vodka thats all ! my mum died 3 weeks ago so i have no mum to tell xx
Is it wierd that my dad smacks my butt?
i am a girl by the way, but he smacks my butt all the time and i think it is wierd. everytime he walks by me i flinch because he usually smacks my butt and my head or something he is doing it playfully i think but he isn't playful is the problem. and also is it wierd that i am scared of him. like scared to death, he yells at me all the time for leaving something on the counter or something, but i try to make the least amount of eye contact possible with him. i am 16 by the way.soo any way just wondering is this wierd??
Im 13 and my dad still spanks me?
I'm a mother to a 13 year old. And you kids do like to talk back..LOL But your becoming a young adult now. There should be another plan. Like you said grounding. There was a time my 13 year old was very disrespectful and just plain out of control and my first thought was to spank her. But I seen the look of hurt on her face. And said to myself we have to come up with another plan. And we did. I love my daughter with all my heart. In our generation kids did have spankings at 13. Maybe your dad was having a really bad day. I think talking to him is a great idea. If he contiunes to spank you and hurts you- it might be a good idea to talk with someone.
My dad hits me. Is this just/okay?
There are no circumstances where it's "just" or OK for your father to hit you. The best advice I can give under the circumstances are to do what he said—contact Childline. You (and your family) need some counseling so that issues can be worked out so that something like this never happens again.It's not you, and it's not about getting a ride to school.Warning: Upcoming anecdote!When I was in high school (USA) I had a friend whose father thought that hitting my friend was an appropriate way to get his point across. One day I was at my friend's house and he was arguing with his father. His father slapped him, and my friend fell back against some furniture.At this point I should pause to point out that my friend was 16, and had grown to be much taller and heavier than his father. The father was about 5' 8" tall (172cm) and my friend was at least 6" (15cm) taller. I don't think my friend's father considered this at the time.You might guess the rest. My friend got up and punched his father very hard in the face. His father was knocked back several feet into a wall, which he then slowly slid down to the floor. He did not immediately get back up.My friend and I left the house. Over time (not just because of this one incident) my friend's parents got divorced, and my friend didn't have much interaction with his father after that.
My dad still spanks me and I'm a 14 year old guy. What do I do?
I remember the last spanking I got, I looked my mother in the eyes and took all the licks of the belt without flinching once. Didn’t make a sound, didn’t pout, didn’t get emotional.She did something worse, she started grounding me. Not sure what your pain tolerance is but if you have been disciplined like that for a while you should be used to it. You can show him that it doesn’t effect you or you can just pretend and avoid being grounded.At the age of 14 you should probably have a deep understanding of your parents psychological state. I was 10 when I received my last spanking, my mother wasn’t the spanking type when she disciplined us we deserved it. I can count on one hand how many times she took the belt to my behind. Then again, my mother was mentally stable. There are a ton of adults who aren’t.There is a difference between discipline and abuse, I’m not sure if you deserve it but you need to look back throughout the years of spankings you have received and really make that call for yourself because we don’t know your father. If he can be reasonable you should talk to him, if he has psychological issues, you should either a) avoid him at all cost, b) do whatever you can to please him and go away to college at 17 (load up the high school coursework and take some summer classes to graduate early) or c) get DHS involved.As a child you don’t have too many options, if you deserve them then there isn’t much I can help you with. Other than to gain more wisdom and understanding so you don’t do anything to get spanked.You need to either come to the reality that it’s either your fault or his that you keep getting spanked. You writing this question gives me the impression that you believe that you are too old for them and this may be one of the things you are telling yourself. Your father could have gotten spankings it worse until he was 20 we don’t know your or his.
My dad slapped me across the face!?
me and my dad got into a heated argument because i was back talking him, and being disrespectful. so we were yelling at each other and he just smacked me across the face. i tried telling my mom but she wont believe me because she wasn't home. im so mad at him i cant even look at him! what should i do my family is so dysfunctional i don't wanna live here anymore.
I'm 17 and my dad still slaps me?
I am a 17 year old girl and I live alone with my dad, I'm still in high school so I can't move out just yet. Anyway, there have been a few occasions where my dad gets mad at me to the point where he slaps me across the face. When I am hit, it is always over something minor, and never major. I am an overall good student and daughter (straight a's, no drugs, no alcohol, no going out) and have discussed it with my family and they do not think it's justified for him to slap me for the reasons he does. I have tried talking it over with him that it is wrong to hit a 17 year old or any one for that matter especially across the face. Usually when he slaps me it is around the eye area. I would like to know, is it justified for him to hit me? especially with me not being a small child. I understand that parents "spank" their kids but not slaps across the face at 17 years old. Is it justified? Is it wrong? What can I do? Talking to him, doesn't get anything across. What should I do? Is it legal? Edit: Ill admit the minor things are talking back or being slightly sarcastic at times, but nothing more than that other times it's because of something completely stupid that he instigates.
My dad slapped me across the face?
While I would say slapping across the face may be a little extreme I would say that its discipline. stop being a little brat and you wont get punished. all these morons that say "dont spank your children" need to shut up and let people parent the way they want to. if its not extreme like he is not beating you and making you bleed then its discipline and it sounds like you needed it. did you cuss at him? call him or your mom some name? thats what I used to get hit for lol. its not child abuse. what is child abuse is when a parent is yelling obsenities at a 3 yr old because she lost control of a stroller and lightly tapped the vehicle with it. (I saw this and wanted to strangle the guy) oh strangling thats abuse too lol