Can you ever truly be friends with your ex? Even if you want to be friends, can you really become the best of friends?
No. Definitely not if you still have true feelings for them.There are so many possible reasons for this.You still have deep feelings for them and you still love them no matter what has happened . You still love them for who they are and somehow they don't share those feelings anymore.You can't fake like you aren't hurt by their decision. Most of the time it hurts, but you respect their decision and stay away. Sometimes you try your best and they fail to realize, so you stay away.What does friendship mean? You actually can talk about all possible things in the universe. Will you be able to talk to her/him about some other person that she/he can actually be involved with? You can never if you truly love them. So there you get an answer of why you can't be friends. Friends are honest and you can never fake honesty with the one you love.You will always love the person if you love them truly from the bottom of your heart. If they have decided to end it, and after you have tried enough if they still end it, friendship isn't possible for a while. One can be mature to atleast have hi bye kind of interactions, but some people aren't even willing to do that.May be you don't want to see her guilty or hurt. This is one of the main reasons why I stay away from her. I can't see her hurt anyday. I still love her but in silence. Can't just be dishonest by being like a friend. That's dishonest to both her and the friendship.We can't be like before. Love makes emotional connection and attachment stronger. But when that person wants to leave, you question yourself, love, life and everything. You simply cannot be friends with the one you truly love. We can care as a friend, but can't fake like a friend and be opportunistic.Finally, friends can be lovers, but you can't be just a friend with someone you genuinely love.
Why can't you be friends with your ex?
There are no laws saying you can't be, but the truth is that in many instances, being friends with an ex is just not a good or healthy idea for either party involved. Here are the top reasons to not pursue a friendship with an ex:One or both people still have romantic feelings for each other. Hanging out as friends won't make those feelings magically disappear.There was physical, verbal, and/or emotional abuse. No one should feel obligated to maintain any kind of contact after this.They don't respect your boundaries. They try to be physically and emotionally intimate with you, despite your setting clear boundaries of the friendship.It can prevent you from moving on. As human beings, we feel safer and more comfortable with what we know. But ex's are ex's for a reason, and though it may be hard, it's best to just accept that.You and your ex are just incompatible, period. Throughout the course of your relationship, you discovered that you don't have any common values or interests.You've just grown and moved on. Maybe you don't live anywhere near each other, and/ or several years have passed. Or, you both have other partners and other lives. Whatever the reason(s), it's nothing against them, but striking up a friendship after so much time and so many changes in both of your lives just seems pointless. You may wish them the best, but just don't have any desire to be friends.
My ex GF keeps texting me and wants to be friends?
My ex and I broke up a month ago. She was upset when I got mad at her for not keeping contact over a week; and just over that, she calls it off after four months of going out. That was the first time I got into an argument with her too. I cut off all contact with her the first week when she started texting me during the weekend telling me to be safe and all. What got me wondering whether or not she still had an interest was when she called me by my nickname on one text. I just casually responded to all of her messages; trying not to delve into it. I noticed one thing: If I just ignore her, she'll text me..she won't call, though. She keeps reminding me to be friends and that she didn't want to lose contact with me. Honestly, I think if a couple splits, there should be a long time barrier before a friendship can occur..when there are no more feelings. I'm sort of struggling with that right now. Maybe she's just being very mature....or maybe she wants me back? Opinions appreciated!
I still love my ex. He wants to be friends. Can two exes be "just friends"?
Yes.You and your ex are not on the same page. You still has feeling for him, and he just wants to be friend. The clear point here is that if there’s someone who’s have the biggest time to deal with this newfound friendship, that someone is you.See, there are some of the quotes going around like if two exes are still friends either they love each other or they never did. Or you can’t be friends with exes.I think that is wrong. We are often made to think that feeling is everything and it’s bigger than all of us and it’s impossible to control them. Bu guess what? Feelings are not everything and it is beyond our control and people who are mature and have enough self control can be friends with anyone, including their exes.Of course it’s not easy especially if one of the participant still has feeling for the other. But just because it’s not easy does not mean it can’t be done.As for you, I think the best thing would be for you to fully acknowledge that your ex does not want to be in relationship with you. You need really absorb what is the meaning of that, learn to accept it and move on. Because one of the the most defining thing on to how to be friends with exes is the full acknowledgement of the ground nature of your relationship with your exes and also not to hold grudges towards them.
My ex wants us to stay friends, but I'm not sure I can watch her move on to another guy. What do you suggest?
A couple of people I know are friends with their exes. I don’t know how they do it.My ex wanted to remain friends. I declined. I don’t hate him. I just know myself. He’ll complain of a headache one day and I’ll spend my entire evening wondering if he remembers how I used to help him with his headaches. He’ll talk about his work-project and I’ll wonder for hours if he misses me helping him with his projects.I overthink things to bits. If we’re friends I’ll interpret his friendly gestures as an invitation to rekindle. Every evening he didn’t call would be “Does he have a new girlfriend?”. Every evening he did call would be “Is he trying to say he wants me back?”I would convince myself He tells me about his day, asks me about mine, we’re both single… WE NEVER REALLY BROKE UP! YAAAYYYY!About a month after the breakup but still being friends, I’d start making jokes(?) about how no girl he’ll find would be good enough, he’d be trading down.I will not have processed the grief of the breakup. The all-consuming pain of the withdrawal from the addiction that that was, will never have happened. I will have continued to get my fix.I’d want him to be happy, but also miserable without me. I’d want him to tell me leaving me was a mistake. All. The. Time.I’d wait.I can’t do it. I can’t be friends with an ex. I can’t just switch off my feelings.Maybe some day, years later, when he’s irrelevant to me, I can be friends. It will be a new friendship with a new person. I will have changed and so will he and the past won’t matter. Although even that sounds daunting to me. But right now:
My Ex best friend wont give me my clothes back?
I met this girl a few months back and we really hit it off, we became really good friends and were planning to move in together until I really got to know her (Not a good friend, and very clingy) and I decided I didn’t want to move in with her anymore and we got into a huge fight and are no longer friends. She has a few of my shirts and MY sisters, I keep asking for them but she keeps saying im really busy I don’t have time, maybe next week. I don’t think about it on a daily basis. (keep in mind this girl is very immature and dumb) I have gotten this response about 3-4 times now and its been almost 3 weeks, and I still haven’t gotten them back. I returned her stuff within two days of her asking for it back... What do I say to get her to drop it off. She is literally 10 minutes up the road from my house... very frustrating and I just want to tell her off but im being the bigger person and keeping my cool... but I want my stuff back now (especially my sisters stuff)
I believe my ex still has feelings for me, but not sure, how do I handle it?
Honey, this was waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too long to read. I read to the end mostly bc I appreciate the fact that you are one of the few who have done this and had decent spelling, sentence structure, and were coherent in being able to tell their story. Still Waaaay. Too. Long. Now, after having said all that: It doesn't matter what's going on. It doesn't matter that he may or may not still have feelings. It doesn't matter if he admits to anything or not. What matters is that: --HE grows the *f* up. --You stop sending mixed signals. Instead, just say hi and bye. Move the hell on. There can be no appropriate course to, or unfolding of, this relationship, much less any clarity on it: Until he grows up and you stop letting yourself get sucked in. AND, until you stop sucking HIM in. If you have unmet emotional, social, or affection needs, then get it from a new boyfriend, your parents, your dog, yourself--BUT NOT HIM. It does neither of you any good otherwise and you'll be forever writing impossibly long posts forever as a result when you are probably better off getting your hands on a good romance novel and calling it a day. Ever heard the saying: Keep doing what you're doing to get the same results? Ever heard the saying: Crazy is what you are/do when you keep doing the same thing over and over and over again, but expecting *different* results? P.S.--You've clearly got some growing to do as well. Please get busy, stay busy.
Ex-Best Friend Jealous of me?
Are you from Mars? Your English is so bad I could barely understand your question. The first thing I would try is..... grow up, and the second thing would be to tell your friend to... grow up.