Wedding in a month and having trust issues..I really need advice?
Before you walk down the aisle, I strongly suggest you both get some pre-marriage counseling so you can sort out these issues. Trust is a HUGE part of marriage and very important. When trust is broken it takes a long time to fix if it can be fixed. He and you need to be 100% honest with each other in every part of marriage.
Daughter-in-law is weird about family relations. Anyone else have daughter-in-law problems?
Another point of view from a once bratty daughter in law - First, just keep loving her, loving your son, and loving the grandkids! I came into a very loving family when I married my husband - they gave hugs, called just to say hi, genuinely cared what was going on in our lives, wanted me to call them "Mom" and "Dad" right away. This was totally different from the way my (emotionally frigid) family operated. And while at times it was really nice, at other times I found it to be very invasive and threatening. I can remember asking my husband, "Why do your parents have to know everything about our lives all the time? Tell them to just leave us alone!" When we had our first daughter, my feelings intensified. If my mother in law did something with my daughter that was at all different from what I did, I felt like she was telling me I was doing it (whatever "it" was) wrong and making some kind of judgement on me as a mother. In "retaliation" I found myself doing things to deliberately hurt my mother in law's feelings (similar to your birthday cake incident). I guess my advice to you would be to give her space, make sure she knows that you have no desire to come between her and your son, make sure she knows that you think she is a good mom, and just be patient. After almost 14 years of marriage, I can honestly say that I love and value my mother in law for the wonderful woman that she is. That doesn't mean that we are always best friends, but we do enjoy one another's company, and I love the positive & loving impact that she is on my daughter's lives.
Are there any scholarships I can get for having a big family?
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Why would homeless people's family allow them to be homeless?
A large number of homeless people are mentally ill or brain damaged and their families cannot deal with them any longer. My own father went homeless after being released from prison for pedophelia, having sexually molested me, my step sister, and a child he was babysitting (these are the ones known, there are probably many others). The family could not deal with him any longer. He was brain damaged from repeated concussions from sports and several car accidents. It's hard to know what caused what. Did he drive so crazy and have bad judgment from brain damage, or did he get brain damage from driving fast and poorly? But it released his inhibitions and allowed him to prey on the innocent.Pedophelia was not the only manifestation of brain damage. He was also irrational and quick to anger. He borrowed or stole things from the family. He couldn't keep a job. He pushed the family towards the poorhouse.It was an attempt to stabilize the family that led to my dad being kicked out of the family home. He was likely 30 by then, living with his parents. He had been lovingly called the black sheep until his conviction. After that we just did not talk about him at all. It's as if we were part of the family by adoption rather than birth. The family kept tabs on where he was and gave him some money occasionally. He eventually was employed enough to rent a tiny studio apartment and buy a beat up bicycle. Rather employed long enough in a union job to get unemployment whenever he was laid off. He lived in that apartment over 10 years until he died of an illness rather suddenly. He never did admit to having molested me, only saying that he did not remember. Perhaps that is the brain damage, but I don't know how a person could forget a thing like that.It's painful to have a family member who is homeless. When people ask about your family, you either have to lie or become a victim of their pity. It's kind of horrifying, but the family was being ripped limb from limb while he was present so this is the best alternative. It is a relief that he is no longer around.
My 13 year old step nephew has a big crush on me, advice?
i am 18, he's 13, his grandfather married my mom, and he's had a crush on me ever since we met 7 years ago. i thought he'd gotten over it, but apprently he still likes me. if we weren't related it wouldn't bother me, but it's just so freakin weird. what do i do?
My family never says I love you?
Im glad I found your post. My family never says I love you either. Ive heard my mom say it to me once during a fight, but i've never heard my dad or my brother say it to me. It's just something we dont do. My grandma too says I love you and until the last year it always made me feel really akward and I wouldn't say it back. My family is pretty normal, its just were not close at all. They'll ask me about my day and listen but I never share any personal information and neither do they, ever. It never bothered me until I got to highschool and my teacher called me out for it in front of my class after i casually mentioned it as a side note. He actually asked the class to raise their hand if they dont say I love you everyday to their parents and no one did, I was the only one. After that It started to bother me a lot. Yes it can be very akward, and I do think thats why my breakup with my first longterm serious bf was so bad. He was the only one in my life that said that he loved me, and I felt like no one loved me after that. All I can say is that we're probably drastically out numbered, but you're not alone. Try to not make my mistake and look for it in a relationship. I'm 22 now and am with a wonderful man for over 4 years and love came on its own, not because I was looking for it in him. I think ive just accepted it, although it was hard sometimes and affected my self esteem. If you ever want to just talk about it msg me.