My dad has told me to drop dead because of my brother?
my 12 year old brother has downs syndrome, everyone thinks hes a little angel. He punches my mom and me, leaves us with bruises and once broke my foot by throwing a bowling ball at me. My dad ADORES my brother and wont hear one word wrong about him. When my brother broke my foot, my dad said i deserved it for picking on my brother when i never have done. My mom also thinks my brother is an angel even though shes been punched by him many times. Recently i borrowed my brothers bedroom light because he was staying at a link carers and my light broke. The night my brother came home (tonight) he wanted his light back, so my dad burst into my room demanding the light. I got up to get the light and my hands were slippery as i had been putting cream on to cure my eczema (a skin condition) so i dropped the light and it smashed. My dad flew into a rage and shoved me over, he smashed my bedroom door back so it hit a can of coke i had so the coke spilt all over, my dad swore and started shoving at me until i moved completely away from him. My brother was stood behind him giggling all the time, then when my dad told him his light had been broken by me, on purpose (when it was an accident) my brother put fake tears on and told my dad to hit me, so my dad did and my brother started snickering at me when my dad wasn't looking, My dad then slammed the door and told me to drop dead. My mom thinks it was my fault too and keeps screaming at me. I have no one to talk to as everyone thinks my brother is an angel, its the summer holidays so there are no teachers to talk to. I cant use the phone to call child line as im locked in my room with just my laptop. What do i do? I feel like committing suicide, then maybe dad would be happy.
I wish my dad would just drop dead?
I know exactly how you feel. Believe me. But unless your mom wants a divorce, there's very little you could do. You could perhaps go off to college and move on with your life. Or get yourself emancipated. Are you a victim of domestic violence? Well, I hope everything works out well for you. And don't worry. Just don't talk to your dad, ignore him and whatever he says. If he beats you, try seeking help, if need be.
My mum told me to drop dead?
Okay. I've had this problem before, except it was with my father, not my mother. What I did was I left it a little while for him to cool down and then sat down with him and told him how I felt about the situation. I told him I didn't want to fight anymore and I just wanted to have peace in the family again. Then he told his side and said he was sorry about what he had said, and he didn't in anyway mean he actually wanted me to drop dead, he was just angry and his emotions took over him and it just came out. I'd suggest doing the same, because I'm sure you don't want to fight. DO NOT KILL YOURSELF! That does not make things any better for your family or yourself. I'm sure your family still loves you, maybe you're just going through a tough time. Give your family some time away from you and don't try to sort things out for a couple of days. If when you go to try and talk to your parents/brother/mother, they're still angry, then don't annoy them, as that won't make it any better. Just try and calmly tell them you want to talk to them in a normal way. I really hope this gets better for you, hon. Good luck.
My mom told me to go drop dead?
Parents are people too. They have problems and issues and vices. And most of the time they learn as they go and shoot from the hip on the whole parenting thing because they really don't have a clue. Then thrown in all they learned about raising kids from their parents that didn't have a clue. And now comes you and your getting parenting "just like I had" from your mom. I know it all seems so unfair, but just try to hang in there and be as helpful as you can to her. And make a commitment to yourself to get good parent training before your a parent to break the cycle. But even with that, your kids will most likely not know where you're coming from a lot of times either. The seven beer thing is what you probably fear. Call the AA for support as a child of an alcoholic; whether she ever goes or not. Remember it can be you next and will unless you break the pattern. good luck
I have an opportunity to confront my father's mistress after 11 years of infidelity... how do I do it?
Either show up with a wooden stake and a hammer, or look for forgiveness in your heart for there must be something she has given to your Father that your Mother could not... I do not think it was just sex, do you? Try and talk to her with an open mind for 10 minutes... it is always easy to give in to hate, but to un say an insult, now there is the stuff of miracles! ME! .
How do you console someone after your father has died?
It is difficult to totally relate to someone in any experience that you haven’t been through yourself. The most important thing is to LISTEN to that person, then maybe ask questions. Questions ranging from what do they remember the best in their father to what they remember the worse in their father. Suggest to that person to be inspired to be like the best part of father going forward, and to forgive the worse in what they saw in their in their father. Wouldn’t we all like to be forgiven?It is important to discuss their belief about what that person believes as to what happens to anyone at death as well….their faith, their belief about God.
Parents are blaming me for my brother's death :(?
A few days ago, me and my older brother had this really really huge fight. During the fight, he was being really verbally abusive towards me. This got me so enraged, that I said, "I wish you would just drop down dead!" I didn't mean it, I was just so angry at the time. After I said that, he said, "Fine, if that's how you want it, I will die." We didn't hear anything from him during the night. He left the house in his car so he could go to his friend's house. I told my parents everything about what happened - including what I said. The morning after we woke up, the police arrived at our house - one of the policemen has been a friend of our family for years. They informed us that my brother was killed when his car collided with a lamp post, killing him instantly. I really miss him, I really want him back... I love him so much :'( After the police left, my mum said (while she was crying), "Are you happy now? Your brother's dead, and it's all your fault! If you didn't say what you said, he'd still be alive today!" Even my dad agrees with what my mum said. :( I didn't mean what I said at all, I was just so angry at the time... but I feel like it IS my fault. :( Is it really my fault? :'(
Are business plans a waste of time? My father has run 12 companies, and he says business plan writers have made a business selling useless processes and nothing more.
I'll take your father's side, on this. When I applied for a loan to buy my business, the bank asked for a copy of my business plan. I didn't have any, so I prepared a professional document complete with pictures, graphs, tables, etc. which clearly explained everything and which included, in bold type, the date on or before which we required the loan approval.The bank didn't approve the loan in a timely manner, and I was therefore required to sell long term securities to raise the cash - HUGE tax hit. But of course, the reason I wanted the loan was simply liquidity; I HAD the assets and just wanted to avoid the tax hit.When the branch manager saw me one day, she asked "how is it going?" and I told her the bank's failure to approve the loan in a timely manner had cost me big bucks in taxes (a 5 digit number).Her response: "Why didn't you tell us when you needed it?"I followed her into her office and asked her to produce the business plan. I opened it and turned to the page where the drop-dead date was clearly indicated. "I DID tell you," I said.Her response (wait for it...): "Oh, well, we don't actually read these."So much for business plans.