My best friend self-harms for attention?
my friend does this too, and she alsa pretends not to eat, saying things like "im really hungry, i havnt eaten for ages, but i cant, im too fat." What you need to do is just show her that everyone cares about her and maybe give her a little more attention than usual. My friend started off like yours, but now its just really annoying and everyones annoyed with her. Just try to be the best friend you can. (:
Do you think my friend is self-harming for attention?
Well my friend recently started cutting herself, she said she has life problems but I don't know, she told me she wanted people to know what's she's going through so she's going to show them to people...is this attention seeking? I just really need opinions, I've self-harmed lots of times and honestly I really felt self-conscious about it and just wanted to hide it. Do you think she's attention seeking...opinions please?
My friend self harms for attention?
Tell her that it's a trigger for you and ask her not to cut in front of you, ever. If she doesn't respect your wishes than she is a bad friend I think that if you tell someone you're cutting, it's a cry for help. Not necessarily attention but you definitely want help at that point. If you're not willing to change, then you are just telling people to try and get attention/feel sorry for you I say this as a person who cut for nearly two years and never told anyone, I wasn't doing it for attention I was doing it because I was depressed and felt as though I had no control over anything When I regained control of my life and that situation, I told people, but only as a motivational sort of thing. you know, like, "this is what I've been through, this is how I overcame it" Cutting is not romantic or fashionable or anything. It's a real struggle for some people. So if she's doing it for show, enjoys doing it, and advertises it to the world, you need to confront her. just tell her your story and explain to her why you cut, and why you want her to stop. she will respect you and your situation all the more for it good luck with this and also with not cutting!
My friends say I'm self harming for attention. What should I do?
First, and I know it is harder than I know or think, but stop harming yourself. Please, there are people who love you. I think that’s extremely selfish of your friends, your in need and that’s how they help you?That’s too bad and sad really. I’m sure you’ve heard it all before but, I am sorry, about this and you not getting the help you clearly need. Now I don’t mean whatever it is your thinking, just maybe someone to talk to. A friend. Why haven’t your friends been there to help?; That’s what friends do, help one another.Well I want to help you, I hope this helps.Yes I know you probably see those numbers around on this page for hotlines etc, I’ve called many of them before, in a time in my life when I left my partner, I had a hard break up and did not know how to cope, or move on. I’m much better off now, now that I found people to talk to, and worked through the issues that I had with the past. It’s okay to reach out I know it can be very scary and we think what will others say or think, frankly I don’t care, people can be and are just people sometimes.What’s important is your mental health. Not what anyone thinks.What’s the a thought over someone else being happy, I’d much rather suffer a them thinking whatever the hell it is they want then to see a friend suffer another minute. While we both know who really is suffering, those that point out and make fun of others. They’re the ones who are really hurting.
What do I do if my friend wants attention by self harming?
Some do it for attention, but you can’t put everyone in the box. For me, I got to a point where I couldn’t process all the pain that was happening in my life and cutting became my outlet. Looking back I realize it wasn’t a healthy way of coping. It can be hard to understand When Someones Skin Becomes the Canvas for their Pain, but we all deal with pain in different ways… some may struggle with anger while others struggle with self-harm. Is there something specific that makes you think your friend is harming for attention?
Am I self harming for attention?
I use to be a cutter, about 2 to 3 years stopped now, so I know where you are coming from. I cut to relieve pain and I also wanted people to see, not for attention but b/c i needed someone to see the pain I was in and to show me they cared what happened to me. I didnt cut to kill myself, but it made me feel better to do it. but you do need to talk to someone and you may even need meds for a lil while. i did! you obvisously must be hurting bad inside to hurt yourself on the outside. if you cant find anyone to talk to in person, i have found many website with people going through the same type of problems as me and it felt so good to know there are others out there in the same situation as me. you definately need someone to talk to. you may not be harming yourself severely right now, but it can lead to that. you could cut yourself deeper than you planned and end up losing your life. someone made me promise to never cut again so i promised them and although since that promise that the of dragging a blade across my wrist has came in my head more times than i can imagine, i think about that promise and i did break it once, i have gotten so much better, thanks to my dr., meds and a lot of talking. i wish you the best of luck and if you ever need someone to talk to that understands what you are going through you can email me mandibear1985@aol.com they person i made the promise to i had only known for 2 days, i met them in the psych ward when i tried to od on sleeping meds, but if it werent for the person i barely knew i may not be sitting here "trying" to help you stop cutting, today! Good luck, hun! And I promise you things do get better.
I have a friend that talks about self-harm. I think it’s a cry for attention but I don’t want her to hurt herself. What do I do?
Those who carry through with self harm never threaten to do so. Excruciating truth be told when suicide occurs there's no verbal indication. It comes as a shock and surprise to those closest to a person who commits suicide.This is not intended to minimize the issues and difficulties of your friend. She obviously needs help if she is speaking of self harm. This is manipulative behavior from someone who doesn't understand how to better communicate emotional pain or need. Encourage her to see a therapist and speak openly of what's going on in her mind and life. If the professional prescribes or suggests psychotropic medication, encourage her to try it/give gental reminders to take it. Spend time researching her issues with her. Let her know you love her and will help her in any way you can.With all this said, protect yourself emotionally. You are not responsible for your friend's emotional health or choices. You can be a support person only. If your gut tells you you're being manipulated, listen. Like I said initially, there's no warning to those closest to suicide.There are some who use suicidal threats to control others. There are situations in which someone must cut contact with a person who uses personal drama to control or manipulate others. Otherwise known as Histrionic Personality Disorder (sometimes this can manifest in Borderline Personality Disorder), remove yourself from this situation if this is happening.
How do you know if someone self-harms for attention?
The answers already on this post all suggest the same thing. That someone who self harms for attention will show it off and post it on social media. I beg to differ.I do similar things with my self harm and depression, but only to raise awareness of the situation. I use my struggle as an opportunity to tell my peers about a similar thing they might be going through, and to advise them that its okay to talk about mental health. I don't self harm in itself to get sympathy or attention. I do however, exploit my struggles to bring light to the situation.It is best to assume that if someone is self harming it means the worst, because imagine if they are suicidal but you keep telling thdm to stop attention seeking, and that they're just faking to get attention.This is what happened with me. I know for a fact that it'll only worsen their mental health. It's better to assume the worst then to assume they are attention seeking and risk a life.One last thing, just because someone self harms, doesn't always mean they are suicidal, so the saying that if they're doing it for attention they'll cut horizontally but if they mean it they'll cut along the vein, is not a reliable way of telling.Thanks.