My best friend wants me to get her pregnant so she can have a baby, should I? Advise Please?
I'm 25 she is 26 we have known each other since 2nd Grade, and we have been best friends for a long time. I currently work as an Theatre Actor and she is a Dancer/Choreographer we work together in the same in the same company. We both make around $100,000 a year and me and her made our dreams come true or so I thought. She had one dream she could never really fulfill she always wanted to have a baby. She has had almost every guy she has been with use her for sex because she is so beautiful, even though she has only had sex with one guy her whole life which the guy ended up cheating on her. Since then she has never had another boyfriend. So ask me yesterday to go to dinner I said of course I always go out with her to party and movies and fun, but something new happened this time. She told me this " You know we have known each other for many years jeff, I trust and love you very much more then anybody I have met. You told me that you would do anything for me if I really thought it was best for me and I truly wanted it you would help me. Well you can really help me with this. You know I have wanted to have a baby since I was very young, and I haven't found a guy worth having a baby with because he was always in front of me.... You. I want to have a baby with you, now I know how you feel about marriage and your personal goals, but we wouldn't have to get married or have a relationship. You are just the guy to have it with, and you can see him/her whenever you want and take them out whenever you want, but jeffrey you know how much I want a baby and its hard for me to trust a guy." She started to cry there, I told her I have to think about it. She said on Halloween Weekend she would book a room in the Atlantic Hotel in the Caribbean to do it there if I agree. Now part of me wants to one because I have personal goals but I always wanted to have a child of my own, but then the other part makes me think what would our parents and families think about how this baby was born. Me and her have the time and Money to support a baby but I don't know. Advise Please
My female friend wants me to get her pregnant?
Don't do it, I know that you want to help her out but doesn't this seem just a little crazy. What if she gets really attached to you while she's pregnate I mean you will be her baby daddy. Baby's are expensive she will be asking you for child support, she can't take care of that thing alone. She's only nineteen, one year older then me. Baby's change your life forever. College and a baby that seems like too much don't you think what if she drops out? That's your fault she cant have a nice career anymore. What will her parents think? And the worst part is it will be your DNA! If something bad happends...it's YOUR fault. YOUR baby. What happends when you actually have a family. Your going to have to explain to your kids that you have a child out there there half siblings. The real reason why I'm telling you not to do it is because it happend to my father my parents almost divorced over it. And the kid is ****** up because the mom couldn't take care of it. She told my dad the same thing that this girl told you she said you don't have to see it you don't have to pay child support. But guess what she turned on my dad...he had to pay child support for eighteen years!! EIGHTEEN YEARS. Youll be in your 40s!!!! Child support: Its kinda sad that all the power rests in the woman's hand as to make the decision FOR the man whether or not he is going to be a father regardless of how he feels. And guess what? HE will be ordered to pay child support if it is enforced by you or the state.
My wife wants me to have sex with her lesbian friend so her and her partner can have a child. Should I?
My wife has a lesbian friend from work. Her friend and partner want a child, but can not afford the medical (Ahh implantation?) Any way she says they are smoke, alcohol and drug free. Good people and all and I have met one of them. She seemed nice and all, but I am wondering about the ramifications. Like will this affect my relationship with my wife. I love her and do not want to mess it up. Then there is the legal stuff, like child support. Then what about visatation. Do I want to be a father figuer? What if I do not want to be the DAD? Or what if the children grow up and ask?They said they would not persue that , but people change sometimes. Now comes the BIGGer issue! They both want to try and have a child with me so the children will be related and as well as a couple they would have the same sort of tie as it were. I mean as I would be the father of both children and they are a couple who have children together through proxie of me makes the sort of 1. Well thats how they explained it to me. Souds about right in sort of strange way. I am not sure. But back to the subject. Should I do this or not? I am confused. What do yo think?
My friend wants me to babysit her 'adult-baby' boyfriend..?
I don't know anyone who really does that. Perhaps they are just teenagers doing what they think some adults really do. Personnally the only time I want my husband to treat me like a baby is when I have the stomach flu and I can't get myself a drink or something to eat. I will give a guess on what the scenerio could be.....babysitter sexually abuses toddler! get new friends...where else will this lead?
My friend who is a girl wants me to go down on her even though i'm gay?
I'm gay yet my friend wants me to give her oral sex because she has never had it before. She reckons that because I'm gay it doesnt matter. She's a really good friend of mine but I don't want to do it. I don't feel comfortable doing it with her and to be honest the thought repulses me. I like penis not vagina. She won't take no for an answer though as she says all gay guys do it with their female friends and it doesn't matter. That isn't true is it? And how do i tell her no without upsetting her? I'm 18 and she's 17 so I don't feel comfortable about that either.
Should a married woman meet up with male friends for drinks?
My wife and I are working through a lot of different issues, trying to save our marriage. This is one of the things we disagree on. She's far more social then I am and keeps up with friends from previous jobs, etc. Sometimes she likes to get together with these old friends for drinks or even for dinner out. I think its totally inappropriate for a married woman for two reasons. One, because they are men and a married woman shouldn't be going out with other men. My mother never did, her mother never did, I just don't get it. Two, because when I suggest that we go out, I typically get that we can't afford it, we'd need a babysitter, etc. Or at least I used to. Her solution is that we start doing more of that stuff together, but that she should still be able to go out with male friends once in a while. And she will consider taking me with her when she meets these friends if she can convince them to brings someone, too. She admitts that before we decided to work on our marriage, she would occassionally lie to me about where she was going just to avoid a fight. She insists that nothing ever happened inappropriate, and I have pretty good reason to believe that's the truth. But I still don't think its right. Am I being to restrictive? Is she being insensitive to my feelings?
My girlfriend has a lot of guy friends. They always ask her to hang out alone. Should I be worried?
Thank you for the A2A, @Rochelle Thundercloud.I guess the best way I can answer this is to tell you what I myself would do if I were the girlfriend with a lot of guy friends who were asking me to hang out alone. I would politely ask my friends if my boyfriend could join us. If they said “yes,” well then, great. If they said “no,” I would decline their offer. If my male friends were just my friends and nothing more, I would hope they'd get to know my boyfriend and include him in our plans. If I had a male friend who said, “Hey, let's hang out today, just the two of us,” knowing that I had a boyfriend, I would find it inappropriate.I never had a lot of guy friends, but I had them here and there. I had a close male friend when I was in my twenties. He was unattached for most of the time we were in contact. Sometimes he and I would go to dinner together, just as friends, nothing romantic. When I began seeing the man I eventually married, I told my friend that I still wanted to have our friendship, but that I didn't think it would be appropriate to go to dinner alone with him anymore. My friend laughed and agreed, saying “Of course not! It wouldn't look right!” And it was never an issue.I know how it feels to be on the other side of it, too. At the beginning of my relationship with my husband, he had a female “best friend” who regularly invited him to do things, like parties at her house and going out with her to the bars, and she never extended her invitations to me. She also wanted to accompany him on car rides, like, say, if he had errands to run or places to go. She wanted to spend the day with him if it was his day off from work. From where I was standing, her behavior looked shady, and it didn't make me feel very good. It made me wonder what her motives were.I have also been the close friend of a guy who met a girl and began a relationship. It wouldn't have ever crossed my mind to invite him to do anything without inviting his girlfriend too. I think that inviting him to hang out one on one with me would have made it look like I wanted to be more than just friends. I would have felt like I was disrespecting his girlfriend, and I wouldn't have wanted to hurt her feelings or make her doubt my sincerity.That is my answer. I hope it helps.
Can I date my friend's brother?
okay so for two years now I've sort of liked one of my best friends older brother. he's pretty attractive, is a vegetarian (like me), has a great sense of humour, is really sweet and the list goes on! I'm now 15 and a half and he's about 1 and a half years older than me. we have heaps in common and I consider him one of my really good friends. I see him at my friend's house about twice a week and every time I just feel really nervous around him because I know that deep down I really like him. we sometimes make flirty jokes between each other and I tell my other friends I like him and they agree that they'd ere him if given the chance but I like him more than that! like I really do want to date him but I'm not sure what to do! if I did end up dating him I'm sure my friend wouldn't be too happy but I don't think it'd be a surprise to her. what should I do? keep secretly liking this guy or do something or just give up? by the way, the same friend always makes jokes about how she would date my brother so wouldn't it be sort of fair if I liked her brother? and he doesn't have a girlfriend right now, in case you were wondering and if you think I should go for it, how do I tell my friend and her brother without it sounding really weird and immature?