My girlfriend wants to get married I don't?
Here's why she wants to get married so we can have kids I tell her were already living together we are practically having sex every week why do we need to tie the knot so when things don't work out you can take the kids take the house take my money and take away my freedom no thank you I'm OK with dating but marriage is not my thing please respect that. She got upset and but you can't call me a commitment phobe I told her I am committed to the relationship however I'm not taking it to the next level because practically we are on the next level just not on the legal standards of like marriage. I told her baby it's called civil union gays been doing that for many years before marriage for them became legal. I told her if gays could do it we can to is not gender bias or sexual preference bias. Then she began to cry and then she went to our room and closed the door what did I do wrong honestly if any men will stumble upon this question and has the same type of feelings about like marriage and the outcome of screwing up your life after tying the knot. And she doesn't want to stop she reminds me every week that she wants us to get married and wants me to get an engagement ring for her. I told her with what money am I going to use to buy your engagement ring. I get disability checks every month for being disabled mentally and I don't think it's legal for me to use that money to buy an expensive piece of jewelry. So she went to her mothers for the week what can I do?
My girlfriend wants to get married at 18...?
You're a teenager and she's a teenager. You do not need to be making decisions about who you will be spending the rest of your life with anytime soon. Make the decision of whether and whom to marry AFTER you have completed your college education and are self-supporting in your career, and hence financially ready to plan a wedding and set up a household. At that point, you'll be older and more emotionally ready to make this decision. Also, people often change quite a bit before their mid 20s. If I married the boyfriend I had when I was 17, I definitely would have divorced him later. The LAST reason you should get married is because your girlfriend is chomping at the bit to get married and pressuring you! Given that she's crazier about you than you are about her, I think you should rethink whether you want to remain in this relationship at all. (Depending on the disparity of how much you love each other.) In any case NEVER let anyone pressure you to get engaged or married before you're ready. Also, she seems to have unilaterally decided that the two of you will have children. Have you definitely decided that you want to be a father down the road? You must be on the same page about having children (yes or no) with whomever you marry. Like others here, I'm concerned your girlfriend at some point will "forget" to take her pill or "forget" to take other birth control to get pregnant to try to hook you into a relationship for the rest of your life. If you and she are sexually active, I highly recommend you wear a condom in addition to whatever birth control she may or may not be using and that you discard the contents down the toilet. P.S. I see from your other questions that yours is a long distance relationship. It takes a lot longer to get to know each in long distance relationships than when people spend lots of time together in person. People tend to be on their best behavior when they see each other infrequently and can present any side they want in the email and over the phone.
How should I deal with my girlfriend who wants us to get married right now?
Your gf may just need an urgent desire to start a family with you. That may be adorable. Some people (includes both boys and girls) are very keen on getting married. If possible, they would get married in their teens. You gf may well be one of them. Whatever it is, possibility is, she will not understand your reasons for not marrying right now and will misinterpret as your unwillingness to marry 'NOW' as your unwillingness to marry 'HER'. But you got to give it a chance, so discuss with her why you can not get married right now. Remember here that there is nothing wrong with her wanting to get married now at the age of 22 or 23. Legally and socially she is allowed to. If you are in love with her and want to tie the wed-lock with no one but her, try coming to a mutual term. Say she wants to get married at 23 (which is now) and you want to get married at 28. Decide upon 25 or 26. You should be flexible enough to do it. If she understands and agrees, congrats, you have a flexible woman who respects your priorities as much as you do her. If however she persists and fails to understand, you may need to break up with her. Two people with different priorities can not and should not be together.
What should I do? My girlfriend wants to marry me, but I'm not at all ready financially. She is 26 and she can't wait any longer.
Be honest with yourself and her. You do not want to marry her. You do not feel ready for marriage. “Financially” is your excuse at the moment, but the truth is you do not want to get married. At least, not to her, right now.If you did, you would be working with her to figure out the finances instead of just throwing that up as a reason you can’t.That is not a “bad thing” - if you don’t want to get married, it would be wrong to get married. But you need to be honest with her instead of using an excuse. Your GF has the right to decide that she doesn’t want to invest more time in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to get married.
My Girlfriend wants to get married in a Church, but I'M atheist... and my family is Jewish! O.O?
my girlfriend wants us to get married in a church.. and after a very long conversation, i thought, why not. i dont care where we get married, as long as we do... but now she is saying i first need to be Baptized, Confirmed, and Communionized (sorry for misspelling or misinterpretation of the word). oh, i forgot to mention, shes catholic. so, i mean, im fine with her beleifs, but i dont believe in them.. and, idk what i should do.. did i mention the problems im already gonna have by telling my Jewish family to come to my Church wedding?
I love my girlfriend. She wants to get married. I don't. What should I do?
We've been together for 4 years now. I love her and I can't imagine being with anyone else. We are in our late 20s. We live together and get along really well. A lot of our friends are getting married or are married and having a baby and its been sort of a sore topic with my girlfriend. I don't want to get married for a variety of reasons. I make a lot more financially than my girlfriend and a marriage (and potential divorce) would cost me a lot more. The idea of giving things up or paying someone when you break up or divorce is pretty unappealing. My parents had an awful marriage. My mother cheated repeatedly on my father and they fought constantly. I love her and I don't want to lose her. I sort of get the feeling if I don't propose she is going to want to end our relationship. There is nothing wrong aside from this issue really.
My girlfriend wants to get married, I'm not ready...what should I do?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 18 months (she is 29, I am 28). We don't live together (she and her family don't believe in it for many different reasons), but we do usually spend every weekend together at her or my house. Over the past 5-6 months, she has more earnestly pressed the marriage issue. This comes partly because she sees a lot of acquaintances getting married, or people asking her when we are going to get married, and all the wedding shows on television this time of year (and she admits this is part of it). But she also feels that it's time to move forward and step up our commitment to each other by getting engaged/married. I love her dearly, and would do anything for her, but am not ready to get married yet. I tell her this, but she says that after 18 months I should know. She thinks about it a lot, and thus brings it up, but we can't talk about it without both of us ending up in tears. What can I do?
I don't want to get married, but I love my girlfriend. What should I do?
I think you need to break this down. First of all you need to ask what it is about marriage that you object to. Can you imagine ever getting married under any circumstances? Do you object to a civil partnership as much as a marriage, and therefore is there a religious aspect that is bothering you? What was your experience of your own parent’s marriage? If it was negative is that what is determining your attitude to marriage?Then you need to consider your curreng relationship. You say you love your girlfriend. We are woefully short in the english language of words that describe different kinds of love. So you need to ask if you are intellectually compatible, if you are physically attracted to one another, if you share the same core values. The last is very important. What drives your girlfriend? What really motivates her? When is she at her happiest? Then ask the same of yourself. Are they similar?Beyond these considerations you also have to look at your age, if you feel you are too young for the commitment, or not yet mature enough for it. You also have to look at your culture, if you are under external pressures to marry or not marry.There is no single, one size fits all answer, but a careful consideration of these factors should get your closer.
My girlfriend wants us to get married as soon as possible. What should I do?
If you're not ready, tell her you'd like to take things a bit slower. If she truly loves you enough to marry you, she will understand if you'd like to postpone marriage until you are more comfortable. If not, you may want to question the reasons for the rush. Ask her straight out what the hurry is… However, if you are comfortable and return her feelings on the matter, then tell her you hear wedding bells and set out on the journey. Allow yourself to decide before making any decisions.~TheSarcasticNib✌
My girlfriend wants to get married, but I just do not feel it. Does this make me a horrible person?
No, that doesn't make you horrible. However, if she's spent 3 years with you, I totally understand why she wants to be married. As far as expenses....you're misinformed. Marriage actually boosts a couple's finances. If you don't want to marry her, then don't. Don't do it because its what she wants. Let her go and get a guy who is willing to marry her and make her happy.Your current living arrangement is only making YOU happy. You can't have a solid relationship where one is unfulfilled. Divorces happen all the time. What does that have to do with you? Just tell her you don't want to be married and let her decide if she wants to be with you or not. I don't believe in marriage either but if I did, I certainly wouldn't go into a fourth year with a man that didn't want to marry me. xo