My Girlfriend Of 5 Years Wants To Get Married . Need Advice.

What should I do if my girlfriend of 5 years doesn't want to get married for another 7 years, when the longer we are together, the less I feel like I want to marry her?

I will not talk about something I’m not experienced with. Specially because I do not know your relation so, I can’t give a proper advise but I can give you one example.My parents. Both are together since 1998 (20 years), both love each other, both never married, both will NEVER marry.Marrying someone is just something someone created to make people stay together until the death separate both. But… for your little surprise, you can still stay together with someone until death without marrying.If you think with me, marriage is not a physical thing, it’s not something that really exists. If you have to stay with someone until you die, you’ll do it whether you marry or not.I’m not saying to do not marry, the life is yours, you should know better than anyone else what to do but I can guarantee you two things:If you feel less likely to marry her as the time passes, something is wrong and you have to figure out what is it. Is it your feelings? Is it her the right person? etc… try to analyse your situation until you reach a solid decision.You don’t need to marry someone to be happy until the end of your life.Hope it helps

What advice do you have if your girlfriend of 5 years sleeps with another man while you were taking a short break?

Stop “taking breaks.”As near as I can tell, people who are “taking a break” are actually saying “we are broken up, but with the intention of getting back together.”Well, you can’t have it both ways. Relationships do not exist in a superposition of states. There’s no quantum wave function to collapse. Either you’re in a relationship or you’re not.If you break up, the very second—no, that’s not right, the very nanosecond you break up, your partner owes you zero sexual fidelity. They could go out and have an athletic gang bang with an entire Cirque du Soleil performing team plus a dozen lumberjacks and the postman, and you would have zero to say about it. If you’re not in a relationship, there is no, none, nada, zip, zilch, zero the other person owes you in terms of sexual fidelity.Zero.But when people say they’re “taking a break,” what that often seems to mean is “I don’t want the responsibilities of being in a relationship but I still want the other person to be sexually fidelitous to me.”No.That’s not how it works. That’s not how any of this works. If you want to stay together, but you’re having problems, sort those out and stay together. If you want to break up, break up. If you want to break up today with the understanding that you’ll get back together next Tuesday, don’t try to pretend they owe you fidelity on Monday, and don’t act shocked if they shag someone else. You don’t get to break up with someone but still impose conditions and expectations on them, which is what “going on a break” seems to be.

My girlfriend wants to get married, but I just do not feel it. Does this make me a horrible person?

No, that doesn't make you horrible. However, if she's spent 3 years with you, I totally understand why she wants to be married. As far as expenses....you're misinformed. Marriage actually boosts a couple's finances. If you don't want to marry her, then don't. Don't do it because its what she wants. Let her go and get a guy who is willing to marry her and make her happy.Your current living arrangement is only making YOU happy. You can't have a solid relationship where one is unfulfilled. Divorces happen all the time. What does that have to do with you? Just tell her you don't want to be married and let her decide if she wants to be with you or not. I don't believe in marriage either but if I did, I certainly wouldn't go into a fourth year with a man that didn't want to marry me. xo

My girlfriend wants to get married soon. I don't think I'm ready. What should I do?

Please read this answer from Mr User-12952724750984679852 about marriage, i couldn’t explain better:https://www.quora.com/What-commo...Marriage is a very risking move. Career and financial reasons ARE indeed very legitimate reasons to consider. If you feel that marriage it’s gonna put aditional weight on your shoulders and hinder your progress, stop and don’t marry yet. The chances are you’re right. Please, don’t think with your heart and don’t let anybody put you under pressure. The career and financial issues are enough energy drainers to have even another more.Please don’t rush. Are you already living together? Moving together is a must if you’re thinking to marriage in the future. Don’t marry until you’re expend at least a full year living together. If you skip this you’re gonna have a bad time.Ask her and yourself honestly: Why she want to rush into marriage? Why she needs to make this happen so soon? She’s gaining something with marriage she doesn’t have already? Do you really wants to expend the rest of your life with someone who’re willing to pressure and rush you in so important issue?There is an old saying in my homeland: By the look of the breakfast you can tell how is gonna go the lunch.

I don't want to get married. I had committed to my girlfriend that I'll marry her, but I seriously just don't want to marry. What should I do?

I used to be that girl. I was with him for 5 years. I love him so much, thinking he was the one for me and that he will marry me. We shared an amazing relationship and we had a great chemistry. However when conversations on marriage were raised, he told me he doesn't want to get married and that he was afraid of commitment. I was greatly upset. He slowly drop me hints on letting this relationship go, saying how he doesn't want to waste my time and that I deserve someone better. At first I cried and I told him I will wait for him to be ready. And after awhile, I realize he wasn't worth my time and that there's so many things out there in the world waiting for me. So why should I keep myself for someone whom doesn't realize my worth. I deserve so much better and eventually I was the one whom told him that we are done with this relationship. We haven't been in contact since and it's been 6 months now. I am still trying to move on but I believe there's someone out there for me. If you really do not intend to marry her, just let her go. The longer you prolong this, it will get harder for the both of you. She will be heartbroken for sure, but it's for the best.

I’d like to get married within a year but my girlfriend doesn’t plan on being married for at least a year and a half. What should I do?

A marriage is two people becoming one entity. It is one entity with two personalities in there, two personalities each with there own preferences. That is going to last for the rest of your married life and there is only one thing the two of you can do to streamline it, that my friend is called compromise. Both of you will have to make compromises during your marriage, in some areas you will have to compromise fully, in some she would have to, and in some both of you would have to compromise partially.The difference in you preferences is in terms of months, not years, this is something the two of you can peacefully negotiate and make some small compromises.A wedding with a proper reception is not something that you pull out of a hat. You need to go check out venues etc. The whole process can take months.My suggestion would be to have a talk about it, pick a date, and then slowly start planning it. This also gives you time to get finances for the wedding in place.Please be involved in the wedding planning, go with her to all the things.Before you know it the 18 months will be gone.But I see a small little problem, you refer to her as your girlfriend. Somewhere along the road you need to propose still.