Someone broke into my house recently, nothing was stolen. I'm really freaked out?
Yesterday morning I was awake to go to the bathroom, when I got downstairs I realized that the door to our basement was wide open and also the back door was wide open. the outside door to the cellar was also open. the screens on 3 of our windows are ruined and one of the windows was open when we were sure it was shut. this happened when all of us were sleeping in our house! a scary part of how none of us heard anything. we did call the police that morning and the sheriff came and did her thing. one good print was found, hopefully it's the bad guys and not one of ours. we have not heard back from the police yet. The confusing part is, nothing was taken! so a couple of questions: why would they not take anything? even cell phones and laptops were left alone! why would they leave those doors open? and how can I stop freaking out over every little thing? I'm so scared its kinda irrational. I'm afraid of going in my room on the 2nd floor but there was no evidence there! my window has a fire escape out of it but I have double locks on my window like one of the windows they couldn't open. I have to check my bedroom every time I walk in it. I always turn the lights on when I wouldn't have before. I even have to look in the shower every time I walk into the bathroom! I know its stupid and irrational for all of the above, but I can't help it! I was mildly paranoid about this before and I know its understandable to be scared when someone has actually broken in. but this is a bit extreme. we even got some extra locks for more security and double check everything at night. How do I get over the fear?!?! and please don't say time
My brother exposes himself to me?
Yeah totally normal. You guys could get married and your children will be cousins/siblings and probably come out with 6 fingers or 3 eyes. Family reunions will also be so fun! Everyone will talk about how you didn't even need to leave your house to find the love of your life... Please allow yourself to grow up and you'll know the answer. Legal, sure it's okay. Morally, physically, emotionally, and mentally...it's pretty gross.
My dad keeps farting in my room?
Hey guys. Lately my dad has been acting really annoying recently. Every now and again, he opens the door to my room, walks in without saying something, he farts, then walks out of the room and closes the door. He keeps doing this all the time. It's like he farts in here everytime he gets gas. And it smells so bad. I haven't done anything bad to him recently, so I don't know why he is doing this. I am afraid to complain because I don't want him to get out his belt again and whoop my asse. Does anyone know why my dad may be doing this? Or have you known someone who has been in a similar situation? Thanks guys. Man it smells in here.
Why do parents have a problem with their teenage kids locking their doors?
Because the teenage years are a critical time for a youth.Teenage years are a time when kids are very impressionable and influenced by peers. It’s a time when they can acquire experiences that will either bless them or hinder them for the rest of their lives. If there was ever a time when a person needed a loving and nurturing parental companion, it’s the teenage years.The locked door is a symbol of a teenager’s newly-built emotional wall. The wall is there because a teenager is shamed and conflicted with desires that feel both tantalizing and illicit. Most parents want to help their children through this time because they remember how hard it was for themselves. The parents feel rejected and a little panicked at the locked door because of their own fears and shame.Locked doors have to be finessed. It takes backing off of confrontation and instead creating opportunities for genuine conversation. If you try to have a talk right after an negative confrontation, it just makes matters worse. Those are the times when it feels like your child just isn’t listening. The best way to have good conversations is to have “no reason” talks:“Hey, wanna go grab a burger together?”“Why?”“No reason. I just wanted to be with you for a little while.”These talks are way more about the parent listening than they are about teaching. They will be most effective if the parent is asking questions about 10% of the time and the child is talking 90% of the time. They are also a good time for parents to tell authentic stories about their own childhood.
Should I allow my 13 year old to lock their bedroom?
Yes. Every child deserves the right to lock their door at certain moments. At 13, my family lived with my dad’s (now disowned) step dad. My ex-grandfather kept “accidentally” barging in while I was changing, or sleeping. I demanded a lock. My parents, luckily, didn’t fight me on it.Later, at 16, my dad, step mom, and brother lived with a friend and her boys. I began sleeping with less clothes when I had a severe full body sunburn. I was belittled, and they insisted that only a lock means privacy, and the room I was using didn’t have one. If it had, I’m certain that woman would have removed it before letting me sleep in there. I was later barged in upon by her 13 year old son while I was changing for work. His twin brother laughed and goaded him when he shut the door and rushed off. “What happened? What happened? Did you see Hannah naked?” Luckily, I had my bra and pants on, and was straightening out my shirt to put it on. The boys received no consequence. My dad was pissed. The woman and my step mom insisted it was my fault; an unlocked door is not privacy. I “should have changed in the bathroom.” The only bathroom my 4 person family was allowed to use there had a tub shower, a toilet, and enough floor space for the door to open. Oh - and no lock.My 4 person family moved up to Washington, again stuck with friends. My room, once again, had no lock. It was still known I did not sleep fully clothed; my step mom frequently mocked me for it. (And yet she walks around the house in sheer tops, no bra, nipple piercings and paw print tattoos on full display.) I was again constantly reminded that if a door does not have a lock, it is not a private space.I am now 19 and living with my mom, step dad, and brother. Closed doors are treated as if they are locked. But I know that if I asked for one, my mom would allow it.Children deserve privacy. They are tiny human beings and deserve a space to call theirs where they can be safe. Until you can prove they are doing things they absolutely shouldn’t - like surfing graphic pornography, taking drugs, etc - they deserve trust. They deserve space and respect. My dad always disagreed with my step mom’s behavior. He was accused of not knowing how to be a strict parent. I was accused of manipulating him.My parents raised me and my brother with one thing in mind: we are human beings first and foremost. We are their children second.