My mom always criticizes me ?! For what?
My mom always criticizes me?I'm just sick of my mother.She always criticise me and compares with other girls.I have skin problems (acne) and she always criticise me for this.I was bullied in school for my appearance.I asked her to help me and she just said-Is it my problem that you're ugly and have a horse-*** face ? (No wonder I have no self esteem and I hate everything about me).I'm one of the best class students. But she always says that I'm stupid cow, I'll never gain something in life and etc.I have stepfather and stepbrother. Stepbrother lives abroad (lucky me).But I always argue with my stepfather, because he always says something bad about me.Once he called me goblin because of my face....I told him that he has no rights to speak about me like that.My mom told me that I am rude ungrateful idiot and slapped me in face.My mom knows nothing about me. She works in school and knows about her class pupils more than about me.In fact I started to hate my mother and sometimes I wish I could kill her..I am 16 and I can't leave house.I have no where to go.My father told me that I'm biggest disappointment in his life and that he never wanted me....My other relatives don't believe me-they say my mother is an angel and I must be really proud of her.Sometimes I really wish I was never born.
My mom always criticizes me on what I eat?
"A 15 year old (female) child who is 110 pounds and is 5 feet and 5 inches tall has a body mass index of 18.3, which is at the 27th percentile, and would indicate that your child is at a healthy weight." http://pediatrics.about.com/cs/usefultoo... So you are at a healthy weight. Everyone should try to eat well and get some activity in. But your Mom is out of line. But I have a Mom that can be more hurtful than helpful. One time I asked her if my neck was fat and she said, "Well, you are a little thick in the neck." Which isn't what I needed to hear. I wanted to hear something like, "Well your not fat, but your not skinny either but you are working on eating better and getting more activity in, and now you have your thyroid pill so you will be able to lose the weight." That is what I needed to hear. I have hypothyroidism which makes you gain weight. So what I would do is sit down and talk to your Mom about how you feel. And that you at at a healthy weight. And that you know she wants to take care of you and she wants you to eat well and get some activity in. But the way she says things are more hurtful than helpful. You appreciate that she cares about you so much and you care about her too, but you want her to care about you in a more effective way. And if she could either say things in a nicer way or not say anything at all you would feel better. My doctor told me to just not talk about things like my weight with my Mom since my Mom isn't able to be encouraging. And if it comes down to it and she won't stop, ignore her on things like that. Good luck
My mom always criticize me?
She criticizes about every mistake I've ever made and complained how I don't study, lazy, a failure and also threatened to kick me out. Iam 19 years old and felt like being homeless is better then dealing with her threats and criticism everyday. I have low self esteem and my mom is makig me even less motivated. My dad works all the time and is not really involved. My mom never tried to understand from other people's point of view. so none of my siblings are close to my parent. I can't support myself with a part time minimum wage job, what should I do?
My mom always criticizes me!! is this normal?
Hi I have a problem with my mom. Everytime I put a picture on facebook, like a selfie for example, she always has something negative to say. She doesn't comments directly on the photo but she tells me in person. The other day she said: " you look very bad on that picture you posted. Your arms are super skinny". Okayyyy. And just today it happened again. She goes: "your face is too skinny. You look bad in this last picture you posted". I really got mad today and hurt. I'm sick of her only seeing my flaws. I honestly don't see anything wrong with myself but she does. Its true that I'm very skinny but I have never heard her say "you look nice". At this point I feel ashamed of putting pictures on facebook and I refuse to continue letting her put me down. What should I do with a mother like this? Seriously what kind of a mother tells her daughter that she's ugly?? Because I think my pictures are nice but she's the only one making me feel horrible. Sometimes she even looks at pictures of other people or celebrities and tells me: "wow come and see how beautiful this girl is". So everyone is perfect except her daughter? Will you feel hurt is your mom was like this? I don't know if I should stop using Facebook because of her.
Why does my mom always criticize my friends?
My mom's the same way (I'm 26). She was that way when I was 13 and she's still the same way. She'll be like why don't you go out more or do more. We live 2 1/2 hours away from each other -- so how does she know if I go out or not. It's not like I tell her every time I meet someone for coffee or what not. I think our moms just like perfection -- and no one is good enough for us (friends/boyfriends).
My Mom always puts me down, and criticizes me. What do I do?
My Mom suffers from depression, but is on medication. She has always put me down and said very hurtful things to me to make me feel horrible as a person. Many think it is a lot of jealousy, because when I am with her, people always comment on how pretty I am and dont say anything about her. She even told me that it's not fair that I get compliments and she doesn't. I just turned 16, and it's only gotten worse. I know my mom and I are complete opposites, not only in how we look, but personality and our tastes. When I am being respectful to her, she is still very rude to me. She makes so many comments that are very personal that definitely hurt me. I try to talk to her about it, and she just will have nothing to do with it. She just yells at me, and comes up with excuses on why everything is ALWAYS my fault. I will admit, I'm not the PERFECT teen, but who is? Many of my friends who have been around her have noticed how rude she is to me, and how she just puts me down. My dad knows all about it, he had to live with it until they divorced. My dad talks to me about it, telling me to try not to take it personal because its just her depression talking. All she does when I'm around is want to be rude and fight with me, and that makes me very upset and it makes me be rude also because of what she says to me. It is so hard because many have asked, "Is your Mom always like that?" and saying that their moms are only that harsh once in an occasion. It hurts so much to have a Mom that is so full of jealousy, and resentment. I can't talk to her about it because she just bashes me and NEVER admits she is wrong or says she is sorry. This has been going on ever since I was very young. She has ranged from comments about me being "ugly" to "fat" to "disgusting" and "stupid" I am in shape, and am skinny in a healthy way, and doing decent in school. It's just so hard for me. Any advice??
My mom is always criticizing me.?
I feel your pain, honey. My mom was like that too - I was always told that grades didn't really matter, but the moment I ended up with a B+ it was chaos. All of a sudden they were disappointed in me. Here's the truth, and it's hard: You need to talk to her about how it makes you feel (don't accuse her of treating you differently than you sister. That never works out) and be prepared to have nothing change. Parents like this don't listen usually. It's a tough reality. My advice? Don't depend on your mom for your happiness or mark of success. Listen to her and respect her, but don't base your life on her opinions. And maybe it IS time for an attitude change - be more confident in your skills and get to the point where you feel really good about yourself. Be proud of who you are and what you do, and nothing will be able to get you down.
Why does my mom always betray and criticize me?
Well, that is something which every mom on the planet does. I am not sure how old you are. Assuming you are young, as I too had this question in my mind when I was in my teens, I feel the urge to answer this question.First things first, a mother never ever betrays her child. It only appears to be so. When I was younger and lacked maturity and understanding of the real world, my mom used to bug over me all the time. Literally, all the time. I chose the word ‘bug over’ because that is how we feel right? When someone dictates over us about the do's and don'ts in life, especially when we are in our adolescence. That is the stage of life when the tree has grown up high enough to stand upright, but the trunk hasn't grown strong enough to withstand friction ( read, obstacles) and give a motherly shelter to others.Well, you see the point? No matter how old we grow up, we are NEVER as experienced as our mothers are. They bring us to the light of this beautiful world and through the remainder of her life, she struggles to prepare us in order to face the world. She criticises you so that you make it a point to learn from your mistakes and live an honest life, free from hurdles. No one else will bug over you like this to teach you to make a better life for your own self.In a nutshell, moms are just like magic. Yes. You are a part of them and no one can ever be more true a friend to you in all weathers. Besides, who knows there might be a role reversal one day when you grow up and she grows old? Hope this brings a smile on your face. :)
My mom is always comparing me and always criticizes me?
OMG! You're case is EXACTLY the way mine was! I know how you feel! You feel as if whatever you do, its never enough. Well here's how I solved the problem. I sat down and had a serious and straight forward talk with her. I told her that she may 'think' it was helping me but it sure as hell wasnt. Vent out your feelings, but in a mature way. It worked for me and now, my mom is just like a best friend to me. And as for the appearance part, Im honestly rather shocked. I've never heard of something like this. But if she ever says that to you, I've got the perfect comeback ---> "I'm YOUR daughter, YOU made me this way!" :P Hope that helps! :)
Is it bad that I hate my mom? She's always criticizing me, and she makes me feel awful about myself constantly. She speaks to me in a tone that makes it feel like she hates me. I’m 14. Is there anything I can do to repair our relationship?
I’m terribly sorry for all these answers. It is not your responsibility to fix your relationship with your mum, it is hers. The fact that you’re making an effort and want to improve things shows how mature you are and I really applaud you.People who say “you shouldn't hate your parents” have never had issues at home. You don’t need to love someone who treats you terribly just because you were born to them. Maybe the nine months she carried were strenuous, but what about all the years you have had to endure her harassment? You’re not your mother’s punching bag.At your current age, it might be difficult to change the situation. I would suggest confronting her and tell her about how you feel, but I don't have the details on your relationship and I don’t know if you have a place to stay should things escalate.I’m truly sorry I don’t have an answer for your question, but please: don’t listen to the people blaming you. Your mother chose to have and raise you, not you. Your mother is an adult, not you. She is the one responsible for you, not the other way around. Know your worth and don’t give up, I sincerely hope you will be alright. Just know, it is not your fault.