How much say does the mother of the groom have?
OMG! im soo sorry for the trouble you are with for having a selfish mother-in-law! bt this is YOUR WEDDING & you're fiances not his parents especially if you're family is the one paying for it!! have the wedding of YOUR dreams! & talk to your fiance telling him that your parents have a budget and his mother is being unreasonable for thinking money grows on trees in your parent's backyard! & the wedding dress is something i would go shopping with my mother not my mother-in-law personally!! i get along great with my soon to be mother-in-law but i always pictured as a mother & daughter kind of thing! & if your mother-in-law wants to have a say then make her contribute to the wedding don't stress yourself & just have it your way! good luch & congrats :)
Who should pay for college, you or your parents?
I in some ways know how you feel. I am a freshman on a 4 year campus and recently found out about a 529 plan than my mom set up for me when I was only about 7. This saving, plus a decent amount of financial aid, is why I am not taking out any loans for my first year or so in college, and didn't have to spend large amounts of time looking for scholarship money. I felt guilty finding out about this, but since the sacrifice has already been made over the past decade or so there is nothing I can do about it. The most I can do is have a successful education and make the most out of the money in my 529 account while I still can.I think your guilt is a healthy reaction and can be used very constructively. Knowing what she has done for you and what opportunity you have, you can have an incentive to really push yourself in your career or life knowing you don't have the financial burden of student loans that other graduates do. You can push to pay back part of the debt; its not like your mom can take back any payments you sent in and give you back the money. You are an adult and can't be told what to do with your money. Save up to help your mom when she is older and if she needs money for emergencies. Take her on a nice vacation that she can't afford. Find ways to pay her back, even if it isn't necessarily through taking on the debt.
Would you pay over $600 to see someone in a concert?
I would, and have, and will again.Here’s the problem: concert tickets are generally not particularly expensive. Flights are. Hotels are. So if an artist I really want to see is playing in a city which I must travel to, I’m going to spend far more on transportation getting there and/or hotels when I’m there than I will on the concert ticket.Let’s say a concert ticket in a city a four-hour drive away is $100. This is neither too expensive nor too far away. But because it’s a four-hour drive, I’m going to need to stay the night there. A hotel in a big urban center can easily cost over $100 per night. And if I go a day early, so that I won’t have to stress about waking up on time or getting to my concert on time, then I’ll need to stay for 2 nights—that’s $200 on the hotel plus $100 for the ticket.If the concert is in a place a short plane ride away, then adding $300 (or more!) for the plane ticket is completely expected.Add in parking fees and your costs of meals you’ll have there, and you could easily go well over $600 even to see a $20 concert.In other words, paying $600 to see a concert really isn’t that strange. And I am quite sure that many people routinely pay much more.In my case, the time off I would need in order to travel for a concert is harder to come by than the money. I don’t have much time off at all, so even if I did have the $600, I wouldn’t be able to just take off across the country just because someone I want to see is singing.Furthermore, I seem to be pretty much out of the loop when it comes to concerts: I hear about ones that are sold out, or which happened last year, more often than I hear about upcoming ones.So if one of my favorite bands or singers were singing on a Saturday in a city $500 away, I probably wouldn’t even hesitate.
Almost no one is coming to my wedding?
I agree with Grammie. Focus on having a great time with your family and friends who do come. If you've sunk enough money into a reception for 125 or so, expand to all sorts of friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. Tell people they can bring extra guests. Those who care about you will want to make this an event to remember, and most people love weddings and will jump to rescue the cause. This won't make you feel better, but I did hear of one couple who broke up days before the wedding. There was a reception planned for 70 people, so instead, the bride called up a local homeless shelter and told them she had meals for 70 people if they could get them over, and held the reception anyways. Whatever happens, good luck, and focus on building a new family unit with your new husband!
Mother who doesn't want to attend her daughter's wedding?
For some reason which none of us in our family cannot understand, my mother doesn't want to attend my sister's wedding because she doesn't like the venue. Has this ever happened to you or someone you know, or are you a mother who had reasons not to attend your own blood daughter's wedding? How or why did this happen and how was it handled? I just couldn't imagine myself not attending my child's wedding someday, unless there were circumstances beyond my control.
I am unmarried and my dad doesn't want to spend on my wedding. Can I ask for my share in his property?
Are you serious in asking this question?I wasn't aware that parents are obligated to pay for their kid's wedding. As far as asking for YOUR SHARE of his property, the key words are HIS PROPERTY. He doesn't owe you any thing. Assuming that he and your Mother fed, clothed you, provided you a place to live, made sure you received medical care and put up with demands and temper tantrums that go along with being a parent, I can't really see where you have any right to ask for any thing. If a wedding is so important to you, get a job, save your money and pay for it yourself. It is possible that he doesn't have the money to pay for a wedding. You sound like a self centered brat. But that's just how I feel.