My mother doesn't like my boyfriend and won't let him come over!! Help!!?
My mother really liked my boyfriend when we aren't dating yet. She said he's such a nice guy stuff like that. Now she knows that we are dating and she started to hate him. She talked bad about him to my dad. She ignores him when he said hi. She told me she doesn't like him as my boyfriend and told my sister to tell me to break up with him blah blah. Since than, I usually come over his house behind her back. He won't stop asking me to come over my house but my mother doesn't let him. She says it's not safe! HELLO! When I'm at his house we can do whatever we want because his parents don't mind. And no we DO NOT have sex because we are both under 18 and both o us don't like the idea of having sex now. I tried multiple times to explain this to my mother but she won't change her mind and still hates him for no reason. Please HELPP what can I do now???
My mother doesn't like my boyfriend, yet my boyfriend doesn't want to meet my mother. What should I do?
Why doesn't your mother like your boyfriend?I would hesitate to jump to conclusions about either your mother or boyfriend without understanding the situation. I am a mother and I would say I might not like a boyfriend/friend of my child's I have never met if....Erratic behavior - the said person did not show consistency in their actions...for instance, if he/she stood my child up with no reasonable explanation or if there were frequent fights which were seemingly without any concrete reason. Shady motives - if I felt the said person lacked basic courtesies in conduct and took my child for granted and if I felt the reason for being a friend had an ulterior motive.Mood swings - if my child were to seem less happy and look stressed, I may assume the person is making too many irrational demands on her.Money - if my child's expenses had suddenly increased for no reason, I might assume irrational demand were being made.So, if you were my child, dear OP, I would expect you to allay my fears and make me like the person and want to meet him. On the other side, I would want you to portray me, the mother, as a person who has the best interests of her child in mind and may be appearing to be overly protective, but that I am not a bad person who has a bias against my daughter's boyfriend. Assuming I am the boyfriend....which everyone else has in theIr answers...it is easier to explain why I may not want to meet somebody who has preconceived notions about me.We need to balance both sides of any relationship we happen to be a pivot of, and do so, sensibly. Life is a huge lesson in management skills...some people make good managers, many fail and end up blaming the wrong people. Talk to both people, patiently and tackle your mother first. It might help if your boyfriend would ask for permission to take you out, nicely....maybe a phone call to your father or mother. Talk, talk, talk...Words are all you have to take their doubts away...
Why doesn’t my mother like my boyfriend?
ask her I guarantee she will tell you why?
Why doesn't my Boyfriend's mother like me anymore?
Put yourself in his mother's shoes.Your kid that you have raised all his life is in college to get an education so he can get a decent job, and you find out he is banging his g/f (the majority of the human race views girls who have sex before marriage as sluts hon, except the ones doing it), and he is jeopardizing his future by making a kid with a girl that there is NO guarantee that he will marry.It is not her place to "help him with his homework" you said he was in his 20's hon, he needs to get a tutor if he needs help, it is not her fault she doesn't understand those things, she didn't go to school for them.Remember, sex makes babies and ALL b/c has a failure rate.If you have a baby NOW ,then if he marries you or shacks you, he can kiss being a doctor goodbye.Electricians make good money except it is hard for them to get licensed because most will of these guys quit and start their own business or work for someone who pays better.Stop with the sex until he is finished with school hon, and then get married. I think you'd see a change in his mom's attitude towards you.
My mother doesn't like my boyfriend and it's difficult to talk to her about it. What do I do?
I think it is very Childish of your mother to be blind to something that feels really good to you. I also think Jesus never ever mentioned anything remotely condescending about two people who love eachother.It might be that she is afraid to loose you. Perhaps you could try to talk about it with her.But my guess is you have to take a step back from your mother. She is not displaying adult behaviour.If you are still living at home, but you could leave the house. (Financially etc etc)This is the time to make plans.If this is not possible. You have to avoid discussion about your boyfriend, which means don’t fuel the subject. And tell her you will not listen to condescending remarks abour your boyfriend. And then stop the conversation. But be nice when you do this. Just be nice. It is your mother.YOu also might sit down with her and ask her what the problem is. And then let her talk and say nothing. Just say you love eachother. And then stop de subject.Positive scenario: If you two love eachother and it is a good boyfriend, she will gradually get used to it. Give it time.
My boyfriend's mother doesn't like me because I have tattoos. What should I do?
Grovel. Look remorseful. Then lie to her and tell her that it happened during a collegiate sorority hazing gone bad, and that once you’re older and the tat removal techniques become less painful, you’re going to have them all removed.OR, face the truth and realize that she doesn’t dislike you because of the tattoos, she dislikes you because she thinks that having tattoos makes you a person who makes poor choices in life and that your parents are probably just as low-life as you are or more so because they allowed you to get those tattoos in the first place, and all of this bottom lines at: she doesn’t think you are good enough for her son or will be any kind of a good influence on him. She expects him to do better and is really disappointed in him (and in her ability as a parent who hasn’t instilled enough self-esteem in her son to avoid “trash” like you). You remind her that she is a failure as a good mother.Now that you know the truth, you can DO something about it.
My mother is so mean towards my boyfriend yet he doesn't mind. Should I stand up for him?
If you live on your own, and support yourself, I suggest visiting your mother on your own. When she brings up your bf, and gets abusive towards him, talk to her at that point. Find out what her objections are, and if they are valid. Remember, you may be blinded by your feelings, and not be paying enough attention to important matters.If you live at home and are supported by your family, then you’ll have to put up with a lot more. Is your mother like this with other people? If so, consider that she isn’t going to like anyone, especially anyone you bring home. You’re not going to change her mind, you will need to accept that this is who she is. If it wasn’t this bf, it would be another man.That your bf doesn’t seem to mind could be an indication that he’s dealt with people like your mother before. He knows not saying anything is the best way to not fuel her fire. He just lets his actions prove his character. Think through other possibilities. You’re the one that knows these two, you’re a better judge as to what is going on.Your mother could be jealous, afraid of you leaving her from someone else, angry that your life is going well, and a million other emotions. Humans have complicated feelings that aren’t always rational.
My mom doesn't like my boyfriend for no reason ?
Okay, this is what you do. Have him invite you and your mother out to dinner. Be sure it's a nice restaurant and he reserves a table for the three of you. Then as soon as you arrive have flowers and chocolate delivered to your table for both you and your mother. Have him casually dressed and clean shaved. He could equally divide his time between you and your mom allowing her to get to know him, as well as how the two of you interact with one another. As of now he's a stranger to her and she doesn't trust him. She probably loves you too much to risk losing you to someone who has the potential to hurt you. Prove to her he's safe and will take good care of you while including her in your lives together. I'm a mother of a nine year old little boy and it breaks my heart to think he could one day end up with a witch who will isolate him from me and ruin his life. I guess that's something most moms worry about, at least those who truly love their children. If you mother didn't love you she couldn't care less about who you see. Her skepticism shows she is concerned and does love you. So let her get to know him and assure her he'll take very good care of you. I saw the picture you posted and your right, you do make a great couple! Adelaide.
My mom doesn't like my boyfriend at all. Since I love them both, what should I do?
Your mother will naturally want to protect you and keep you from making some of the painful mistakes she may have made when she was your age. You must understand this is completely natural and understandable, and you will feel the same towards your kids someday. On the other hand, you are your own person. You have your own life to live and your own mistakes to make. She has to come to terms with the fact that you are not a little kid anymore.There has to be a balance between these opposing forces. It can happen, if both parties are respectful of each other. I suggest talking to your mother totally openly and ask her about her concerns about him. And please, actually listen to her. She DOES know a lot more than you and has probably seen her fair share of smooth liars before. If she suspects he not a good boyfriend, she may at least have a valid point.It's easy for people to shrug it off their parent's opinions, saying things like "it's different now from when she was young", "he's not really like that", "they don't see his sensitive side that I see". It is natural for young people to rebel, especially if their childhood was strict at all. I'm not saying that is what you are doing, but it's worth knowing and asking yourself if that does play a small part.Believe me, every single generation since culture began has gone through this. Young people making mistakes and then later trying to warn their kids to no avail.Finally, maybe he is the one, maybe he isn't. Maybe he is a good guy, maybe he is just good at hiding his bad points. Maybe he will devote himself to you forever, or maybe he is secretly cheating on you. Obviously I don't know. But your mother is your mother, she loves you unconditionally and would give her life for you and only wants you to be happy and safe.Try hard to make her see your point of view, but side with her in the end.