Why does my alcoholic mother in law hate me for helping my husband (her son) get sober?
As an alcoholic who has been on and off the wagon several times over the last decade, I think I have some insight into this.First, it is very, VERY rare for a parent to get upset JUST because you helped their kid get sober. Maybe their friends might get upset because his time will likely be spent elsewhere. I could even, possibly, see his dad getting upset because he may have lost a drinking buddy. But there is not an adult male on earth that I know of that has his mom as a drinking/drinking activity buddy. Thus, it’s highly unlikely that is the reason .My next question would be, was it his choice to get sober, or did you badger/threaten him with an or else? Often times spouses “make” their partner try and get sober, and it’s not pleasant. I could see his mom hating you if you went about it that way.My third question would be, does his social life and social circle involve significant drinking? Aka, is he having to go through massive life changes that significantly, and negatively impact his life? Is he losing significant friendships from not being able to participate with his friends, or in activities he enjoys?Again, from the perspective of an alcoholic who has quite a few alcohol and substance using friends, I find it HIGHLY unlikely that a mother, even an alcoholic one, hates you JUST for “helping” her son get sober.
I can't sleep at night. I hate this so much. What can I do to sleep at night?
I spent years unable to sleep well, due to an irregular work schedule, and my misguided use of sleeping medication in an attempt to fix my insomnia. I ended up unable to sleep deeply, yet afraid to stop taking the medication. I would be paralyzed by the medication, but my brain didn't sleep. I woke up exhausted and oftentimes with my heart pounding in panic. Finally the medication stopped working and I was desperate for sleep.I was referred by my doctor to a sleep study, and within a few weeks, gradually regained the ability to sleep naturally every night. It was a rough few weeks during the transition, but it was life-changing and was one of the best things I’ve ever done.Depending on how serious your sleep issues are, you may want to try some of these things before you seek professional help.No matter how poorly you’re sleeping, have faith that you can learn to sleep again. It’s something all beings do naturally.Stop taking any sleep medications. (Ambien etc). You may need to taper off gradually. They lead to dependency and won’t allow you to sleep deeply.No caffeine after noon (or better yet, quit all caffeine)Alcohol and nicotine are not your friends. Quit or at least reduce use, especially around evening.Don’t stress out about not getting enough sleep. Worrying about not sleeping is very common amongst insomniacs.What little good sleep you will get, once you begin sleeping, is better than many hours of sleeping badly, or not sleeping.Don’t lie in bed, if you’re unable to sleep. After 15 or 20 minutes of being unable to sleep, get out of bed and go to a nearby chair where you can read a book or do some other relaxing activity you enjoy, such as listening to relaxing music while doing crosswords or other puzzles. It’s important not to use electronic devices at this time, as they tend to stimulate your brain to stay awake.Once you feel yourself starting to get sleepy, go back to bed, take some slow, deep breaths, and feel yourself drifting off to sleep.Wake up and go to bed at the same time every day.Never ever take naps.Start with giving yourself much less time in bed. If you need to wake up at 6 am, start out with going to bed at 1 am. If that doesn’t work, go to bed even later. You need to build sleep debt, so stay up until your bedtime, even if you’re exhausted.Once you’re able to sleep, move your bedtime 15 minutes earlier each weekGood luck … with some changes, you can sleep again. It’s a wonderful experience.
My step dad is an alcoholic and I hate him, help?
Wow, thank Auntie for the supportive advice "Hold in there". Was she looking at a poster of a cat when she came up with that one? Usually, when I answer a question from a young person in a similar situation, I recommend that they go to a relative or any adult they trust for help and advice. But after reading about your experience, I will have to give that suggestion more thought before I offer it to someone else. But here's my advice for you. You don't deserve any of this. I don't blame you for hating an alcoholic, I hate living with them too. I strongly recommend that you get out of that house ASAP. Even if you end up on a couch at your grandparents house where your dad is, you will be better off, I promise you. As for your mom, she is a big girl. She can look after herself, and you aren't doing her any favours by sacrificing your safety and security by staying in a situation that you didn't cause and have no control over. What I hope will happen in the future is your mom will either kick her husband to the curb, or get him into treatment for his drinking. It may even take your leaving to make that happen, but none of that is your responsibility. As a matter of fact, the one most responsible here is your mom, and she isn't doing everything she can to protect you from a bad situation. Since you are old enough to at least know the difference, then you have to step up and speak for yourself. So speak to your father, but this time give him ALL of the details. If I were your father, I would pitch a tent and sleep in the back yard if that was what I had to do to make room for you in my home. You are still too young to be expected to sort out this mess, so give the sane adults in your life a chance, and it seems like your father is your best hope for that.
My 16 year old brother stays awake all night and sleeps all day. Don't know how to help him.?
His sleeping hours are between 8:00am and 10:00am, and he wakes up between 3:30pm and 5:00pm. I always advice him to try and stay awake one whole day even if he didn't sleep that night but he never listens to me and he's very pessimistic (in part because he simply doesn't want to try and he just doesn't want to do what I suggest). School is coming up next week and he'll need to wake up early. Last year after he got both of his legs injured he missed about a month of school and he got into this same routine of sleeping during the day and "living" during the night. Due to that schedule he missed most of the school year because he couldn't wake up to go to school. He got left behind. I know my brother is depressed because of our family issues (alcoholic father who always picks on him and treats him badly -no physical harm though - and our mother left to another country to work and live). He refuses to go see a therapist with me. I don't know what to do, he never listens to me. At all.
I hate my mom drinking.......HELP!!!!!!?
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What is it like to be an alcoholic?
Today I celebrate 10 years of sobriety, so I figured this would be a fitting question to answer.Some say you’re born an alcoholic, but I think people who become addicted are born being highly sensitive.I was always so emotional. Special occasions would trigger euphoria, while conflicts would create a dibilitating sickness in my gut. Heartbreak was the worst.When I was 15 years old, I could not tolerate all my intense feelings and I just wanted an escape from the constant anguish.Drinking always put my dad in a better mood, so I thought I’d try it. I gulped a shot of vodka and it was like a magic potion. A soothing warmth slid down my throat and seeped through my body. It was as if my brain got an injection of peace and comfort at last.For the next 24 years, alcohol was my cure-all; my personal prescription. It was easy to get, cheap enough, legal for adults, and portable. It was the perfect remedy for fear, social anxiety, nervousness, sorrow, and pain. It erased bad memories and evened out my moods.With every weekend, alcohol launched the fun.Until my body depended on it to function.Then, instead of a quick-fix, alcohol became a necessity to calm my shakes, ease my nausea, and clear my headache.I knew I had to stop drinking or I would die.Early recovery was hellish. I thought I would lose my insides via vomit, my head felt like it had been crushed between two heavy objects, my mouth was a desert and my eyes hurt every time I opened them.After a week, I was invaded by hopelessness and depression as I couldn���t imagine a life without booze. I became angry at all AA members. I planned on faking recovery and still drinking “sometimes” or just “not as much”. I had a breakdown. I had a manic episode. I was diagnosed with bipolar.Now I take medication (so I still injest drugs every day) but they are prescribed by my doctor.So, what’s it like to be an alcoholic? It’s like going to war. It’s thrilling yet dangerous; exciting with a high risk of injury or death. It costs money, and it takes time to plan, execute and recover. Loved ones worry about you, but they feel there’s nothing they can do to help. You rationalize how it’s all ok, you’re not really hurting anyone, but you’re creating havoc and destroying lives and relationships. You either drink to keep numbing it or sober up to deal with the shame and guilt.Just like war, nobody ever really wins.
I HATE MY LIFE I WANT TO DIE :(?
Hi Imogen Firstly, cigerettes are not the answer so please don't smoke hunny. I'm sorry you are going through such a bad time. So many thoughts and feelings all in your head screaming out at you. Firstly, alot of people question their sexuality, alot of straight people at some point feel they maybe gay/bi and alot of the time it's no more than our emotions playing with us, especially at your age.. you are at the age of puberty and right now because of hormones everything will seem ten times as bad and now is the time you will be discovering your growing body and emotions and hormones go haywire, we may feel attracted to the opposite sex even if we aren't gay or bi...only time will tell on this my love, however you are what you are, it's not a bad thing in the long run. I also expect you lack sleep too cos of worrying about your mums drinking...is there a dad you can talk too, or an aunty, or someone you trust who can talk to your mum? I know it's hard to live with someone who drinks, half the time they should be caring for you but you often care for them (at least in my case) If you have nobody you can always call childline, just to talk to them, you don't have to give your real name or anything,. If your feelings get stronger for what you feel over the years and you can rule out puberty by then, then the next step(about a boy in a girls body) would be to see a doctor, but for now I would just take a day at a time,.. And for the poster who put tmi, see a shrink...grow the hell up, someone is alone and worried, if you can't be helpful gtfo