My dad hates me and loves my brother.?
Also, I'm not doing to bad at school, and in primary school I had a really good life for instance I was going out with the hottest girls, and getting really good grades and was having fun. Now in high school I hate it. So many people from my old school turned on me for no reason and hate me and give me so much **** in class. Although I had a good life before, my sister warned that everyone changes and that, but I didn't know this would happen. I only have a couple of friends now, and even get teased a bit. I wasn't expecting this and it's nothing I'm used to, so I'm finding it hard. I don't have too much friends now even though I used to have heaps! I have slight social disorders,because of my dad. I get very intimidated when my dad talks to me and can't speak properly, like I blunder, I dont say the right words and that has been happening school more often. I can start to speak to people great when I know them better or are younger then me/have less leisure over me. But if I'm speakin
If I am a 17 year old boy, will God forgive me for treating my mother in a bad manner because until today I have verbally and occasionally physically abused her, and will my children treat me the same way as a result of Karma?
Dear Anonymous:It is indeed a good turn of events that you have identified your real self now. Better late than never.The sad part is this: You will undergo whatever you will have to for the actions of whatever you have done so far.That said, now that you have realized the error of your ways, you can correct them. The first step is to be more compassionate towards your mother and other people. Let the kindness flow from within. Whenever you feel like treating someone bad, take a step back and control that urge. See how you can convert that emotion to a positive energy.As far as your karma goes, there is no way that you can escape the cycle. So, yes, you will undergo a similar experience as you have treated your mother (or anyone). But the saving grace is that you can now ensure that you can get a better treatment by the same karma afterwards.Remember, the way to correct yourself is only within you. Karma is only created by you. Even GOD does not have any control over your karma. Only you have the control. So, asking for forgiveness is a good step in the sense that you have an opening for correcting your FUTURE KARMA and NOT YOUR PAST KARMA. You will still experience whatever you will have to for your past action. No escaping on that count. Period.
How do I motivate my 44 year old brother to get a job and move out of my mother's house? He is a huge drain on the family financially and makes very minimal efforts to help or secure employment despite our collective willingness to help.
It is most likely because of fear of failure. Many people think that other people without the ability to obtain employment is because they are lazy, but for some people even the first step of simply going into a place of employment and asking about hiring them for employment is a paralyzing thought. Lack of self esteem may make them fearful of being laughed at, or flat out rejected by the person doing the hiring. The internet makes it a bit easier since you can now apply online in many locations.Even if he did secure employment, assuming he has no marketable skills, he will probably be hired at around minimum wage unless he gets extremely lucky. Minimum wage in 2018 is not a wage that will allow you to be financially independent. Even 2 people hired at minimum wage will be stretching the financial limits, as rent, bills, and food will often exceed the wage that you make. Assuming he can just ‘get a job and move out’ is putting the cart before the horse. Many times employers will ‘fire at will’ which means he could be trying to do everything right but may still end up with no job.You also seem to have a negative view of him, and this is also going to be counterproductive. I hope your ‘trying to help’ does not come to him with hostile questions like ‘why don’t you hold a job you lazy bum?’ as he will become defensive and not be willing to work with a hostile person. He may have a disability and qualify for SSD, which will help, but he will still not have enough income to be financially independent without additional support.
26 year old sister is very immature?
Thanks for reading. I am 31 years old and I have a 26 year old sister who still lives at home with our parents. Tonight I visited my parents and was coaching my mother on what to do/say in an interview tomorrow. A phrase that always worked for me when I was job-hunting was "I would like to learn and grow in this position". I have also told my sister this phrase as well, because she is a recent college grad who has not been able to find work since she graduated over a year ago. When I mentioned my phrase to my mother, my sister just started laughing and said "He(me) always uses that phrase! hahahah!" and she kept laughing at me for a good 30 seconds. It got to the point where I turned to her and said "excuse me, I'm the one with the job... what do YOU do for a living!?". This is the same girl who throws chewing gum in my grocery order when we go to the store, without me looking, just for fun and I usually buy her lunch because she doesn't have much money. What can I do about her? Was I wrong to snap at her?
I'm sure my 17 year old daughter is keeping secrets?
she is my youngest and alot of people say i need to start letting her grow up. She doesn't know how to cook because i won't let her. and she continues to put her own clothes out when I've already put clothes out for her. but just lately I've been getting the feeling she is dating her best boy mate. Me or her father disapprove we have a feeling he is possibly gay, because he doesn't have a manly voice. And he's always buying her nice things. Plus he talks way to much. if my daughter is dating him slyly i would prefer she didn't as hes not who i would like her to go out with. The other day whilst in the dentist as well my daughter had one filling when she supposed have more i totally flipped and said this is a waste of time,she needs them done now. My daughter just said stop em brassing me and walked out with her best male friend. Why is my daughter being so defensive and insisting she wants to do things, she keeps talking to me about moving out in the near future. And I've over heard her boy mate saying she can stay at his, and he will learn her how to cook. She says she feels useless because she can't cook, i said she will one day but she wants to do it now. shes not bad for her age she doesn't smoke or drink but she goes out more on her own and i don't like it, should i question her and put a stop to this at once? her older brother is 31 nearly by the way, and her sister is 33. they've both said i need let her go now, but i just won't. And she keeps rebeling because of it, why is she doing this?
How can I deal with my mom being overprotective of me even though I am 31? Even after moving out, I feel I can't tell her everywhere I go and everything I do for fear of how she would react.
Patents should give freedom to their children to decide for themselves from the age of 18 when they attain adulthood. But as you said your mother is over protective of you even at the age of 31. For solving the problem both you and you mother needs to be consulted. Fault or misunderstanding may be on both sides or with one of you. Best way is to understand each others concerns through mutual discussion and solve the problem. Otherwise, help of a counsellor or a good friend or a relative may be taken.Without knowing the full background it is difficult to give a solutiin on Quora.Over protectiveness means that your mother thinks that you have not become mature enough to decide for yourself and you may do some harm to yourself by wrong decision. She is doing this out of her love for you. Your wanting to become independent is also a good thing and shows your maturity. Improve your communication skill to solve this problem.I shall give my own example. I was 30 years old and I was living with my brother. I found that I had no freedom in the house. Sometimes I was insulted for no reason. My brother's thinking was totally different from me. So, one day, I told him that I wanted to live separately which is necessary for my growth. He wanted me to stay for a few more years. But I was adamant and left his house and started living on rent. This was the starting point for my becoming independent. Later on I got married. The decision was difficult for both of us. But it had to be taken. One's responsibility towards oneself is the greatest. Now I have good relations and he appreciates my decision. This is an extreme case of dealing with such situation.
My 30 year old son still lives with me, is it time to kick him out?
My 30 year old son still lives with me, is it time to kick him out?WHY does he still live with you?It is that he’s there for a temporary reason - going to school, saving money for a house - or is he there because he’s not capable of living on his own because he’s never had to? In that case, kick him out.Please trust me when I say you’re NOT doing him any favors by letting him live with you. My mother did that with my younger brother. He NEVER lived on his own. He was 50 when Mom died. And he was clueless how to function. He could do basic things like microwave food, buy groceries, and do his laundry. But he had no idea how to budget money, pay bills, or any of the million other things functional adults have to do. He hadn’t had a job in 15–20 years because Mom supported him. She felt it was enough for him to be her companion and chauffeur.So, when she died, he was lost. He had enough money to live for 2 years, but didn’t bother to get a job. We think he just assumed “something” would work out. It didn’t. He spent the next three years living behind a dumpster at a convenience store. I took him in a year ago, temporarily, but he still can’t function as far as living on his own. Our sister is looking into finding some kind of group home or something for him.
My parents don't let me live my life and I am 23 years old. What should I do?
As others have said, you put yourself in this very undesirable situation because by being financially dependent on your parents at an age when a young adult should be providing for himself, you have aided and abetted your parents in making you their hostage, and keeping you as such. You've never had a job before? Well, there's a first time for everything and you are long overdue on this important step. Get out there to look for a job that will earn you enough income to be self-supporting. If you are unwilling or unable to do this, or if you'd rather make excuses for why you can't than to try, you will probable be stuck where you are, completely dependent on people who see you as a child in dire need of their constant supervision and suffocating rules.The choice is yours.