How do I get my mom to stop treating me like a child?
I'm 23 already and my mom still treats me like a kid and it's really annoying. If I could afford it, I would move out but I can't right now. She gets mad if I go out with friends at night and expects me to be home at a "decent" time. Then she harasses me out of bed in the morning, tells me when to go to bed at night, doesn't let me leave the house until my bedroom is clean to her standards (my definition of clean is different from hers)...and the list goes on. She calls my name every 2 minutes...i'm not even kidding. Sadly enough, not to sound like a ***** but it's to the point where I find her annoying. It's really lame. I'm an adult! How do I get her to leave me alone and let me make my own decisions? Apparently, as much as I do isn't enough for her. She's always negative about everything. I'm not that bad of a person.
Why do my parents keep treating me like a child?
Hate to break this to you, but you ARE a child. Everyone is.Your mother gave birth to you and has looked after you ever since. She is your mother and you are her child. Like it or not.She brought you into the world and has helped you become the caring and intelligent man you are today.If you think that ‘breaking her jaw’ is an appropriate action, then maybe you should find somewhere else to go. She doesn’t deserve that.You’re an adult, right? So, maybe you should act like one and remove yourself from a situation where you harm people who love you.Many years from now, you’ll look back on this and realise it wasn’t your parents you were angry at, but until then, find somewhere else to be.This is a situation where you need to think seriously about your life and where you want it to go. Lashing out isn’t an adult way to make progress.Your mother probably misses you when you’re away. She’s trying to make up for the time she’s losing with you. Just tell her that she’s going too far. She can’t fix things if she doesn’t know they’re broken.Don’t get angry, don’t be vindictive. She wants you to be happy and she thinks she’s making a fuss of the person she loves. She thinks she’s making your life better.Just calmly and quietly ask for less fuss. This isn’t rocket science, you want something, she wants something. Find some common ground and agree on the steps that happen next.Don’t threaten, don’t yell. You’re the one who’s changing the situation.My mum still makes a fuss of me, I’m forty seven. Age isn’t going to change the dynamic unless you ask for it to change.I think it’s nice that your biggest worry is a mum who loves you.If only we were all so lucky :)
I am 24 and my mum still nags at me, treating me like a child.?
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Why are my parents still treating me like a child? Why are they still living in the past?
Hello. I can see that what your parents are doing is very annoying for you. At the start of puberty we absolutely hate control over ourselves, As young people who are going into the real world we like to make our own choices. And our grown up choices are something we value. I would suggest reminding your parents how old you are and defiantly touch the fact that you are over 18. Tell them you are an adult now. Not a child, not a teen but a grown up. By the sounds of it it will take some convincing. Being grounded at your age is silly. As an adult you are now able to make your own choices, Your life, your decision. Tell your parents what they are doing is childish. If you have any younger siblings tell your parents to concentrate on the younger one(s). Maybe just leaving the house for a little while will teach them a lesson. If the police are called, nothing will really happen as you are legal age to leave home. By the sounds of it, your parents are just really over protected. And this is upsetting you. Now being as I do not know you, I have no idea if you have done something in the past that maybe has made your parents nervous about your choices. Maybe even try family counseling. This may come across as bad advice, but the age that you are.. your parents don't really have control over you anymore, and they are obviously just having trouble accepting the fact you are grown now. Maybe try to talk it through with your parents, approach calmly. Whatever you do, please try not to get angry during this conversation.And if they get mad at all, remind them you want to talk like grown ups. But as you have known them your whole life, I'm pretty sure you'd know what would set them off and what would not. I hope things for you and your family work out. Goodluck.:)
I'm 18 and my parents treat me like a child!!!?
Hi... moving in with your boyfriend and his family is probably the worst idea EVER. I'm very serious. There are always issues when we move into someone else's house, and then there is his mother who likely rules the roost and eventually, you will clash. Take it from someone who has seen this sort of situation over and over for more than forty years. You live in your parents' home. You're 18 years old. Apparently they are feeding you and you're using their electricity water and other utilities. It's their home, their rules.... it's just the nature of the beast. I know, you feel midnight is too early and that you shouldn't even have a curfew, but again, you live in your parents' home it's their place. Maybe they'd rather get a good night's sleep than lie awake worrying about when you're going to get home (and parents do lay awake waiting to hear that their kids came home very often). Its about caring about our kids, nothing more. You're not an adult until you move out on your own. If you and your boyfriend want to get a place together, well that might be ok. You two have to discuss it and see if you can even afford it in today's economy, and see if you're both ready for that sort of commitment. You are stressing yourself out. Oh i know, we all want to be grown up and independent, but hon, it doesn't happen overnight. It doesn't sound like you have it that terrible to me. You didn't say that your parents are fighting with each other, drug or alcohol addicted or that they abuse you. You have the world by the azz and you don't even realize it. You will thank your parents someday. You're not a prisoner, but you do live in your parents' household, so for now, you simply need to abide by their rules/decisions. take care.
Why am I getting treated more as a child when I turned 18?
You should try having a calm, mature conversation with your parents. If you're responsible, don't drink, don't do drugs, etc, they may be willing to let your leash out a little bit at a time. Explain to them that you've been a good kid. It seems like your mother is just having a hard time with you growing up. I wouldn't be surprised to hear that you were their first child, or only child. Realize that your mother is probably not doing this out of spite, but mostly out of love, and she's just being overprotective. But most importantly, tell her calmly and sincerely how you feel, and come up with a solution that would work for both of you. For instance, ask if you can start with a later curfew. Never break it. If you go anywhere, call her and let her know. Let her know that you are a mature and responsible young adult now, and PROVE it to her. I'm 19 years old, almost 20, and most of the time I don't have an exact curfew. I used to be in a situation similar to yours, and trust me, my mother was a similar way. And you know what? I call her whenever I go anywhere, I tell her who I'm with and what I'm planning on doing. Because I'm living with her, and because of this, she deserves to know who I'm with, and if she should worry if I'm late. I call her if I'm running late, etc. If that doesn't work, try talking to your dad to see if you can go into a family counseling session to work things out. I have done this before as well, which eventually jumpstarted my transition into more freedom.
How do I stop my parents from treating me like a child despite being 18?
I am sure there is more than one reason as to why this is happening. One could be that they are having a hard time letting you grow up, two could be you are having a hard time growing up. The best solution I could think of is to act like an adult if you want to be treated like an adult. Clean up your own space without being told, do homework on your own (if you are in school), ask what you can do to help out around the house, and be helpful in general. I think when we as people show we are responsible than it will be easier for others to treat us as though we are rather than like they have to do everything for us. Only God and your parents know for sure so be sure to talk to them about it. Happy adulthood. :)
Why does my mom keep treating me like a child? I am 43 years old.
From a few of your comments, I understand that while you don’t live with her, you’re still in some way dependent on her, and that you are raising a child. It sounds like a situation in which you’re raising a child with her help, probably both financially and with her time and effort.Given that, it makes perfect sense why she still treats you like a child - you acted like one. An adult does not put themselves in a position to require other people’s assistance. Unless you were raped, this wasn’t an accident (you didn’t trip and accidentally have sex with the man that impregnated you, and you either didn’t use contraceptives or you used them improperly), and now a mother who’s already raised a child has to now raise another one.I have no doubt she loves you - she wouldn’t be helping you otherwise - but that doesn’t mean she isn’t frustrated and feeling imposed upon by your actions. She likely had planned for helping with a grandchild (most grandparents and potential grandparents help parents with their kids), but probably didn’t plan on having to do so to the extent that she is.In her position, wouldn’t you feel the same way? Happy and loving your grandchild, but frustrated with your child and the situation? Did you consider that she might have had plans for that money or her time that she now has to scrap in favor of supporting you? Especially given the fact that you’re a grown adult and you’re supposed to be capable of caring for yourself - and of being wise enough to not bring a child into the world that you clearly aren’t capable of caring for on your own?I’m sure I’ll get some flack for this answer - it is a bit harsh - but it’s also true. At it’s core, your mother’s behavior is justified; she’s treating you like child because you acted like one. You made a rash decision that came with lifelong consequences that you couldn’t handle without help, and she’s obligated to help you.
My mom is still treating me like a baby?
I wanted my mom to buy me a game it was only 90 bucks but she wanted to buy school stuff for my little sister. Its not fair she could have waited for them. My mom wanted me to wait a month I wanted to play with it that day with my friends. She was being a ***** about it so I wanted to teach her a lesson I flung ketchup and salt on some people clothes and I spit on the floor. The manager came over to the table and my mom like weak person she is tells him she’s sorry for her babies tantrum(meaning me) then she calls me a immature little baby that I should be back too wearing pampers again and she should get a crib for me and a rattle. What she said was verbal abuse I wanted to report her to social service for saying those untrue things about me calling me a baby and saying I need those things its not fair. My plan was even if the chargers don’t stick it would embarrass her in front of her friends and make her look like a bad mother which she is. I’m not a baby I don’t need pampers and a crib. I need a new mom. I know it’s a girl thing that’s why you’re on her side no other mom would have said that to there kid only mine does that.
My mom is still treating me like a baby?
I wanted my mom to buy me a game it was only 90 bucks but she wanted to buy school stuff for my little sister. Its not fair she could have waited for them. My mom wanted me to wait a month I wanted to play with it that day with my friends. She was being a ***** about it so I wanted to teach her a lesson I flung ketchup and salt on some people clothes and I spit on the floor. The manager came over to the table and my mom like weak person she is tells him she’s sorry for her babies tantrum(meaning me) then she calls me a immature little baby that I should be back too wearing pampers again and she should get a crib for me and a rattle. What she said was verbal abuse I wanted to report her to social service for saying those untrue things about me calling me a baby and saying I need those things its not fair. My plan was even if the chargers don’t stick it would embarrass her in front of her friends and make her look like a bad mother which she is. I’m not a baby I don’t need pampers and a crib. I need a new mom. I know it’s a girl thing that’s why you’re on her side no other mom would have said that to there kid only mine does that.