My old friends are bullying me now because I have a friend that's British!?
My friend from England moved to U.S because his parents are expanding there Business. My entire group of friends are really controlling but I never did mind much however when I made friends with the "New kid" they told me I should de-friend him. I told him "No" anyway then it when from friendly advice to de-friend him now I still said no. Now they de-friended me because I am still friends with him. Now I have to take the bus and they are bullying me! They say that I should move to England since I love it so much and they also put a picture of the British flag on my locker! Now my friend my England feels bad, I told him its better to have one real friend then a bunch of fake friends. My old friends say that he talks funny and all he only talks about is UK when hes homesick its not his fault! There not even giving him a chance! I tried to make them get along with him but they just won't! Now my school life is ruined and I don't even have my seat at the lunch table anymore they gave it away to someone else! They also don't pick me up at my house anymore to go to school so now I have to take the bus! I told my parents and they told me they will get board stop but knowing them they will continue until they get there way. I told the principle of our school and she asked my old friends if they were making fun of me and my British friend and they said no. She believed them and now there saying I am a tattletale! I am so mad at my old friends because I have let them make decisions for me ever since elementary school and now the one decision I make they won't tolerate! I am not going to de-friend him though because I am his only friend at school. They keep telling me all I have to do is de-friend him and then they will stop being mean to me but I am not going to de-friend him hes a great friend! I have never had a "real friend" until now! What should I do to get my old friends to stop bullying us? Please help!
All my old friends are gone now?
Holy crud! Completely sever contact. Alert the authorities if they threaten you. If you feel really lonely and miserable, go to social sites like gaiaonline.com or even omeagle.com and make virtual friends. I know it sounds silly and desperate, but having ANYONE you know you can talk to, especially someone you can't say you really know anything about (you can be anyone on the internet, right?). If you don't have a computer go to the public library. You can also distract yourself with different subjects you're interested in. Just stop talking to them. You know you didn't do anything, so it isn't worth it. I had a friend who I had known since the 3rd grade (thats when I moved here) talk crap behind my back and soon I felt completely alienated, whether I did that because I withdrew and my other friends reacted, or if it was because of her (it wouldn't have been the first time she influenced a friend's opinion of me, just the first time she had an excuse to do so). I'm still somewhat friends with her, but she never said she wanted me to DIE. Well, she never said she did..:\ Anyways, I mean...she was just bitter and she had good reason to be, however much I wish that she wouldn't have talked crap about me. But you know what? People do that. Especially GIRLS. If your friends were turned against you so easily, chances are they aren't very good friends! Consider it a wake up call, however painful. You are NOT a loser. This is normal. My mom (RIP) insulted me many many many many times and made me cry many many many many times. I don't know why. I know I deserved it sometimes but never to the extent that it happened. Sometimes parents overreact, just like us. It's easy to abuse somebody who's dependent on you. Don't take it to heart. This will pass, you'll make new friends, and you'll know who to watch out for next time. Just whatever you do take threats seriously if they come and don't start trouble if you don't have to. Stop talking to them. They don't deserve it.
My old friend is encroaching on my new friend?
I am a senior, and since the first day of school freshmen year, I have been trying to befriend 'Rachel'. Although Rachel was fairly rude to me and it was a painful experience, we are at last extremely close. My best friend 'Casey' and I have been friends since we were in kindergarten, and we act more like sisters than friends. She knows more than anyone how hard it was for Rachel and I to finally be friends. Rachel and Casey have a class together are getting to know each other, which is great! I want Casey to be nice to Rachel, because Rachel doesn't have many friends. Anyway - tonight at a party that Rachel invited me to (I brought Casey because she didn't have plans and was feeling kind of down), we were all waiting around afterwards for rides, and Casey started joking around with Rachel about how they were best friends and stuff. It made me mad and I made that clear. Rachel felt bad, but Casey kept going! I know she was joking, but it bothers me because Casey knows how much of a sensitive topic this is for me! Rachel knows, too, and felt bad. But I was in such a terrible mood that I acted terribly towards both of them. I talked to Casey (thought I was mostly yelling because I was mad) and told her why I was mad, but she didn't care, she kept saying she was not at fault here and didn't think I would be mad, but she did know i was mad, and if she didn't know, i was saying it the whole time anyway! I'm sorry if this makes no sense, but does anyone have advice? Realistic advice, not 'punch Casey' or something silly.
My old best friend is mad at me and all I did was stick up for my other best friend, what do I do?!?
I'm not very experenced in Christianity, I think you support her from the bakground. Eventually she is going to collapse, and when she does and needs help, outstrech a hand to her..
I have a new friend and my old friend feels left old. What can I do to solve this problem?
Wow! it s a nice thing to comment on relations.Well if it's in the friendship than it is obvious when you guys have maintained the same friendship for years together.Often a growing child feels neglected in the family when his younger ones come to life as he observes the younger one receiving more attention care and love.In fact it is not so.Because rest of the members of this family are busy helping the newborn or younger ones.Here you need to be very understanding considering the situation prevailing there because if you carry on neglecting you might fail certainly in the long run.And lose both of your friends.try to make yourselves understand and start growing with the time.give time to your friend who feels neglected because of youTell him why is he feeling like that.And if incase if this friendship is between the opposite sex then it will be worse because most of the girls are hungry for the attention of their owned people .And that is not wrong. But it is wise to be balanced in all the ways.Because he is your true friend.everyone has got different stories in their lives so don't judge anyone .Observe and don't react but respond to the situation.Every relationship is complicated because it is amongst humans.So handle every relation as if it is a small child walking with you holding that index figure of yours.Well that's my psychologyWhat is yours?.Hope you all like this
Is it good to forget old friends just because you have new friends now?
Well, it depends on your own personal choice. But on many grounds and this is my personal opinion that we need to celebrate both new and old relationships in our lives. My question to you is, why do you feel this has got to do with anything good or bad. it is your decision but at the end of the day, you have to figure out what matters to you most, the number of friends you have or the quality of friends. Old or new is just a way of categorizing numbers.I hope this gives you some clarity. All the best! :)
Should I stop hanging out with my old friends?
Do they bother you deep down? Do you have fun with them? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself.The same thing happened to me a while ago with my friends, and there was this one girl that I had known since kindergarten. I’d been bullied in elementary school and she never had, but she was the only person who talked to me so I stayed friends with her until we got to high school.Once we got there, she gained a lot more friends and started treating me like her little slave, making me do everything for her and running errands and everything. I liked some of the people in out friend group, but I couldn’t tolerate her treating me like that.I left the friend group and tried to join other groups, but it was just awkward and I didn’t really fit. So I started to become a loner. But then about a month after I left, one of the girls from my old friend group started to sit with me again. Turns out the girl who had bothered me so much had started to use this other girl when I left.To this day I am friends with this girl, and have never spoken to my friend from kindergarten again. For me, it was the right decision, but for you, I don’t know.Try to figure out where you would go if you left first, and if you don’t have anywhere to go, then decide if it is really worth leaving your friends. If they are cracking just good humoured jokes then you probably shouldn’t stress about it too much. However if it is a certain person who keeps teasing you, they may not mean to hurt you, so you should try to talk to them privately and tell them how you feel.Hope this helps.
I ditched my old friends for new ones that i don't fit in with, should i go back to my old ones?
Being yourself is always the best thing. Being popular comes with its own set of problems. Not that you need to ditch your new friends either. You can be friends with both, but your friendships with your old friends will last much much longer, so it should be more cherished. These 'old' friends accept you the way you are, in fact they like who you are. You can be yourself, there are no pressures to act a certain way. The thing is, when people try to act like someone they're not, many bad things develop. 1) Because what you're doing and saying isn't genuine, you lose your sense of self, you feel fake, and lose your self worth. You forget who you are. It leads to long periods of depression, obviously. 2) When you're under social pressure and the influence of groupthink, you do a lot of things you normally wouldn't do. You take risks and do stupid things you normally wouldn't do. You might start habits (like doing drugs or drinking) that will curse you for the rest of your life and lead to an untimely death. 3) People don't develop close relationships with you. Usually popular kids are faking a personality, and these fake personalities are usually less likable than their real personalities. You might have more friends, but the more friends you have, the less quality of friends they are. They'll recognize your name and maybe hang out, but they won't care when you have a problem. They will all disappear when you need them most. Also, it'd be nearly impossible to find a long lasting relationship. A long lasting relationship requires honesty which is impossible to achieve when you don't know who you are or how to act. Most of the 'friends' or 'girl/boyfriends' you have while you're popular are only associating with you because you're popular and they want to get higher up the popularity totem pole. You'll eventually wake up one night and realize you don't know who you are and you have no one who cares (because you ditched your good friends who did care and liked you for who you are). So please just avoid all that chaos and suffering and cherish the good 'old' friends you have!