My sister is grounded on Christmas. Aren't my parents being a little to harsh?
First of all, I agreed. You're parents are really harsh. If i was the mum of your sister, I would say that she won't get into trouble until the next year. It's the holidays! I mean, she didn't get to open her presents??!! Way too strict! Ok, to help her out, talk to her. Say that it's gonna be ok and if she needs help in some subjects, she should of just asked you and you could help tutor her. And you could speak to your parents. Tell them that they've been too harsh on your sister and that they should apologise and let her open at least one present. Not allowed to eat with the family for Christmas?? Tell your parents to let them make a good lunch or dinner and to let your sister attend. Let her sit at the head of the table, have first dibs and she gets to say grace. (If your family is religious.) This answer is probably crappy but hopefully it helps.
My parents gave me a really harsh punishment. Is there anything I can do to get them to lighten up my punishment?
To ask this question I'm using my sister's phone while my parents are asleep. I know that my parents told me not to go on the Internet but I need some advice. I'll start by telling you what I did wrong...I stole a necklace because some of my "friends" don't talk to them anymore or want anything to do with them) dared me and got caught. My punishment was a spanking and 4 months of grounding. I got the spanking already and I've already been grounded for 2 months. The terms of my grounding are: no phone, no computer, no bedroom door, no going anywhere with friends, no leaving my bedroom (except for school, church, bathroom, meals, chores and if my parents give me permission), no TV, bedtime at 7 PM, no makeup, and no reading except the bible or books that have been assigned to read by my school. I thought my parents would lighten up a little once they saw that I was trying to do better (I've brought my grades up to all A's and dumped my "friends" caused me to get in trouble), but it looks like my parents have I tentions on following through with the complete 4 months. Is there anything I can do? I can't take this punishment anymore. I'm starting to feel depressed.
Is my sister being punished too harshly?
Try not to opine until you have a kid of your own and feel responsible and protective of him or her. Freshman in High School means to me: "grownup body" with "child's mind". The grownup body attracts predators, while the child's mind provides inadequate defenses. Hence parents may feel the need to step in.If lack of good judgment is an issue, given the number of creeps out there... your parents may be buying time for her to grow up until her judgment is proven to be adequate to prevent or mitigate the risks associated with living in society.You don't need apps etc to showcase your unique personality, there are many other venues available. In the meantime, perhaps she can work to earn her parents trust by focusing on what matters at that age, for her future. Stuff like: homework, chores, skills, work experience... Perhaps you (or she) could argue that the punishment is overly harsh. Your parents are doing something that is essential for parenting and for her successful upbringing: establishing boundaries. If your sister crosses trust boundaries on small items, how hard is it to upgrade to crossing boundaries on bigger and more serious items?Lying is a no-no, because any and all current and future communication now becomes meaningless.
Why do parents punish older children more harshly than younger siblings?
Being first born is a dubious honor, especially if there is more than a couple years gap between the first born and second born—and twins likely count as one data point.It’s like being a senior in high school. You remember how it was before the siblings came along, plus as my own mother admitted, the parents are still perfecting their parenting skills with each successive child, or so she said. “We were WAY too strict with you, but you were our first.” The second born? “He’s the one we should have sat on.” But he was a typical boy and I wasn’t.So the parents experiment on the oldest and the oldest is supposed to be the “example.” Growing up all the siblings had to be measured against the oldest one as they went through same schools and they heard about (unfairly in my view) it from teachers and coaches.The oldest is the “parent’s representative” to the younger ones and must “set an example” to the youngest ones and so parents get especially annoyed when their “representative” drops the ball.Fun-fun-fun!
How to make your parents feel guilty about punishing you?
I have a younger cousin, she went to middle school in 6th grade instead of finishing her elementary school. I admit it she changed after going there for a couple of months she's gotten more self confidence. Her parents always make her feel bad about everything, her grades, her beauty, and always nag. I honestly love my aunt and uncle but they're just so bossy when it comes to my cousin for example lately she's been really busy with her homework so I promised her that I would take her bowling. Her mom gives her $20 to spend and her mom says "Don't call and ask if you could go to the mall after"." And she says but last year you always let me go to the mall after bowling" And her and her mom argue about this and after all this her mom ends up crying and blames her daughter for all this then nags her out of it. Now shes grounded for her whole Thankgiving break and her mom doesn't give a sh*t that shes crying all day long. So my question is how can she make her mom feel she did the wrong thing of punishing her? Its really not her fault that her parents got so strict.Please don't give me answer like she should next time just listen to her mom or something like that.
I feel bad about punishing my dog?
I have a redbone coonhound puppy 4 months old. My sister was in the yard with a bucket of water and he didn't like it so he was growling at her and biting the bucket. I went up to him pushed him away and said NO! Well he started doing it worse just this time he was biting me on my hands pretty hard when i tried to push him away. So i grabbed him by the scruff of his skin gave him a smack and held his mouth shut and pinned him to the ground. I accidentally made his tongue bleed just a spot of blood. After i put him in his crate for 10 minutes. He was acting nice when i let him out and he wasn't biting, but I feel really bad for making him bleed should i feel bad about this?
Did my dad go too far in disciplining my little sister?
I am 16 and I have a little sister who is eight, and yesterday my mom evidently caught her stealing. Her and my dad were talking to her and later I heard the worst sound ever. My dad had Jessica in her room and he was giving her a spanking with his belt. It was so unpleasent to hear, becasue she was crying out. She is annoying sometimes but I just felt bad for her. I think he hit her butt like five or six times. Later she came to talk to me for comfort I guess. I told her she shouldn't of stole, but I didn't think she deserved a whipping with the belt. I don't know where I stand on the whole spanking thing.. I'm not a mom so I have no idea what I would do in a situation like this. I know my parents have always been loving and only wants what is best for us, but I question the discipline used sometimes. Did he go too far?
My little sister thinks she doesn't have to listen to me?
I am 15 and my sister is 10 (almost 11). Mom and dad leave me in charge of my little sister when they aren't home. My little sister will not stay off the computer. The other day, I told her she was spending way too much time on the internet because she is on it from the time she wakes up to when dad walks through the door at 6:30. Itold her that she had an hour of interent time and she had to get off when the hour was up. I told her when it was up and to get off the laptop, but he response was "you are my sister, you can't tell me what to do." She always does that when I tell her to do ANYTHING! She just can't get the fact that I am in charge and she is supposed to listen. I do all the chores while mom and dad aren't home and she doesn't do anything but clean her room and wash the dog once a week. she likes to argue and backtalk and I have had it! what do I do? I tell my parents and they are all bark and no bite. they say they will punish her when they get home, and then they don't. I have tried punishing her by sitting her in her room for 30 minutes without tv but that doesn't work because I can't get her to stay without locking the door (which I would get in trouble for). Mom and dad tell me not to punish her and tell me that it is their job, but they don't ever do it! My sister thinks that she doesn't have to help out or do anything I tell her to because I can't punish her and she knows mom and dad won't. Did I mention she also likes to hit and scratch me. she is also gross and will fart and burb in your face and will shove her feet in your face. she makes messes and will not clean up after herself which is ridiculous. what do I do to solve this problem?
My sister got punished!!!!!!!!?
Heya This seems really harsh. I would just offer support and a shoulder to cry on. Maybe if you have a spare cell phone you could lend it her. Ask her if she wants to top and tail with you if she hasnt got a bed. This is far to harsh a punishment for something so little as kissing espeshially as shes 14. I would tell your mom and dad that you feel they are being unfair. Good luck hope this helps =] xxx