My parents don't want me to be a airline pilot.?
The first thing to remember is that when they ignore your pleas, they do mean well. Sit down with them and ask them what they have against your choice and ask them what sort of ideas they have about your future. Maybe they have had this idea since you were born that you'd follow them into the medical field, maybe they don't think you have the aptitude for it or maybe they are affraid for your safety, who knows. They might even think that at 14 you aren't mature enough to make a decision about a career and view this as a phase. Show that you appreciate their care and concern, but make your point that you want badly to be an airline pilot in a respectful way that shows good adult thought and planning. Don't worry about pressing for the PPL right now. You're too young anyway. Focus on getting good grades in HS and since having a degree is pretty much a must any more for an airline pilot, where you want to go to college and what you want to major in (major in something other than aviation though would be my suggestion), and if you want to flight train part 61 or 141. If you keep showing them you're serious about this in a few years they'll be more receptive. Keep doing what you're doing though. Don't let someone else tell you what to do with your career. I've worked in fields I hated and believe me, it makes your life miserable. I can kind of relate, my nurse mom didn't want me in aviation period, wanted me in medicine. It wasn't until I was 18 during my first solo that she gave in!
I don't want to live with my parents anymore. What should I do? Please tell me. Help me.
Dear,First thing one needs to understand is that no parents in this world think bad for their child, their intentions can never be ill; like to demotivate you, or discourage you.Now, what you can do.1) Whatever they are saying, just listen to them properly, without reacting at any point. Make sure you doesn't react. (I repeated last sentence because from your question description it seems that it would be difficult for you.)2) After they are done, if you need to reply something then do, otherwise just move to your room and sit with closed eyes.3) Start taking deep breaths and observe the flow of breath in nostrils. Keep doing it for 8-10 minutes.4) Open your eyes and recall the moments you had with your parents. Whatever they were saying, was it really true somewhere? Be honest with yourself first. If you find that yes, they were right at this particular point, then try to make those changes in you.5) Now, if you find that they were unnecessarily shouting at you, then just let that matter be. The more you will not react, earlier they will realize their mistake. They will stop themselves.--> Now, you will tell me that, Boss, I know them more than you do. Vo nahi badalne vale. (They won't change.)--> What I am trying to convey is not to think of running away from the situation. Also, don't think of these words as fancy-philosophical thing. These are actually practical things.Hope this helps.!!Thanks for A2A.!!
I want a tattoo but my parents don't approve of them?
If your parents are dead against tattoos then they are never going to approve of you getting one, whether you are 18 or 80! One day you will have to make a stand 'against' your parents, and make them realise that it's YOUR life and body, not theirs. If a tattoo is truly what you want, and it's legal, and you are ready to make that stand, then do it. I would say it was best not to hide it tho, or you are not going to make your point. And they will inevitably 'find' out somehow, and are more likely to be hurt by your deceit than anything else. So grit your teeth and tell them. However, try to be tactful, calm and considerate when discussing it, and not aggressive or stroppy in any way, as this will just antagonise them further. And remember: it is better to regret the things you do, than those you don't...
My parents think I can do better than my boyfriend?
"I really don't want to instigate a problem making them feel like I've betrayed them." How the heck could you be the one instigating a problem when they refuse to accept your choice? I read this as saying you don't want to confront them on it, which is a different issue. It's also something you need to do if you want a future with this guy. He sounds like a keeper, but at some point this is going to come between the 2 of you. That's because, when you don't set boundaries about them respecting him, you're putting them ahead of him. Right now, he respects your dad, but that won't last. He'll end up resenting you for allowing your parents to be in the middle, and then this will end up as resenting your dad (and mom). However, they have a very valid point on one issue, and that's this crazy notion of living together. If you want to join the long list of younger people who sabotage promising relationships by doing this, go right ahead, but it's a terrible idea. You're not living independently, starting to plan a wedding and putting together your future - you're a student trying to escape your parents. So you may have lost some cred on that one. You need to find some middle ground, like a cheap group home type thing, where you get away from them but don't do something so silly as move in with him. If it means a part time job, then that's what you do.
My parents don't think I'm ready to go to college, due to my occasional immaturity, anger at the world, and mediocre grades. How can I convince them they are wrong?
Well, you've gotten the answer right there dude. You don't listen to them. There's no need to convince them too, if you'd ask me. You apply for your colleges, and if you've gotten your acceptance letter, that's your prove of your credibility.On your immaturity and anger at the world, is something that you'd definitely need to work on, not for your parents sake, but for your own. When you are at the college, there'll be no parents to bail you out. You'll be an adult, on your own and you'll be responsible for your actions. The world doesn't owe you anything.To convince you parents that they are wrong, you show some maturity, like offering to help them with chores, taking care of your room(I'd never consider a boy to be a man till he makes up his own bed), and keeping your promise. If you are living in a household, you do not be a parasite that just eats and sleeps, you be an asset by offering inputs to make the household a better place to live in. That's what makes a kid a man. And a responsible one at that. And you'll do this not to convince your parents but to make yourself a better man.
I think I have ADHD, but my parents don't believe me.?
You seem very intelligent based on your writing. Which is normal for a person with ADHD. I know parents who don't want to go to the hospital after their children have tried to commit suicide so they don't have to put them in a mental facility. And they use the same attitude. But the fact is there are some problems that are very much treatable with therapy (I would say a bit over half), but then some of them are not. ADHD is pretty biological in nature and I struggle with it as well. Even with my meds, I can't drive. It's not a good situation. So I empathize. So I really really hate to tell you that usually these types of parents (not just the example listed, but others as well) do not accept it. It's sad because I'm sure they accept Parkinson's disease or Alziemer's, because you can actually SEE what is happening. But since it's not them and there's no way to test in a normal every day situation, it's different apparently. Even though the disease are very much unrelated, the root of it is the same: there is a neurological issue causing problems. And in this case it is a complex mix of different things in your bright not "lighting up" as they should. Doing (I forgot which kind of) a brain scan will show people with ADHD vs. people without it and how their brain generally lights less than people who don't have it. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I know how it is. I've been there. I am there still, everyday. As I still can barely read a book long enough to get past a page and comprehend it. There IS therapy for ADHD, but it is not sufficient without medication. I have yet to get therapy for ADHD and it's unfortunate but maybe they'll consider that? If they do, then they will eventually find out you need meds from a professional. I don't know if that will work. But I'm hoping the best for you. EDIT: There are alt. medications and supplements for ADHD, but for inattentive type, no "calm tabs" will work. That's bogus. If you do look into alternative treatments, please realize that Ginko Bilaboa is not an effective treatment for ADHD. Although it is great for your brain, it does not act on either of the two main receptors needed in the treatment of ADHD.
I have insomnia, but my parents don't understand?
The inability to get to sleep at night is a HUGE problem for many people. If you fall into this category, be assured there is hope to break out of the cycle. Herbal remedies play an important role in the natural ways to overcome insomnia. It is proven that herbal remedies contain certain alkaloids, which can trigger the neurotransmitters and hormones, which induce sleep. However, it is advised to seek the opinion of a physician, before practicing herbal drinks since it may alter the endocrine system of a person, having any serious complaints. The common herbal remedies include Hops, Valerian root, Passion flower, Californian Poppy, and Dog wood. Aromatherapy advocates that a bath in water containing the infusions of the herbs, before sleeping will help to avoid insomnia. Keep in mind, the best natural insomnia remedies will actually combine several herbs. This way, instead of just getting one benefit, you are getting a synergy of the most effective plants and botanics which target different areas of the brain and nerves to induce calming, relaxation and ultimately, fast sleep. Insomnia not only makes you sleepless but can be a sign of other serious diseases. Insomnia also affects your personality and general behavior. You don’t get sufficient sleep and as a result you feel laziness or drowsiness throughout the day. You may not be able to concentrate on work at office or at home. Confusion and inability for coordination are also related with Insomnia. Insomnia is not a disease in itself. It is a symptom of sleeplessness and may be a sign of other disease. There are many ways, traditional as well as medicinal, to treat these symptoms. Maintaining sleep hygiene, trying to live stress-free and adhering to adopting good sleeping habits will give you some relief from Insomnia. If these do not yield satisfactory results you can consult a doctor who will advise you the right sleeping aid. Hope I have helped. :)
Why don't I feel love for my parents?
I have a very special person in my life who didn't have any contact with her parents when I met her. She came out of her house. No one from her family would call her. She had been the neglected child. When I met her she was suffering from severe wheezing trouble. She was one of my Team member. So whenever she used to have those breathing problem, every member of the team would run around to help her and take care of her, but not even once she would receive a call from her family member. I was surprised, how a parent can survive without knowing whether his or her child is well, Leave alone doing well, they hardly knew whether she is alive or not. She used to have anger issues, lack of trust in relationship, emotional distress, etc.During that time, I was reading Norman Vincent Peale’s “Positive Imaging” book. In a particular chapter he had mentioned about forgiving and the healing power of forgiving. Somehow, I felt she needs to forgive her parents, rather trying to forget them. It was very tough for her. I told her that, “There are thousands of children dropped on streets by their parents or dropped in an orphanage, but your parents have taken care of you and given you education, and they were the reason behind your birth into this world. Just forgive them. Let them be negative but you spread positivism”. She had a tough time reconciling with her parents, but eventually she succeeded. After the reconciliation attempt her depression, anger and emotional stress reduced considerably. She succeeded in her career. And I met her after few years, she told that her parents are staying with her and they are taking good care of her spouse and children.Many a times forgiving is the best medicine. Spread love to all.