My parents keep saying i'm too skinny?
I'm a 13 year old girl and i weigh 103 pounds and i'm around 153 cm tall, my dad sometimes tries to make me eat more and ask me why i'm not eating properly so does my mom but she keeps telling me i'm too skinny, i have to eat...ETC she says i must weigh 119 pounds but that's too much! i don't even look that skinny...my thighs touch and they are huge! she's telling everybody that i am not eating "at all" yet i try to eat specific stuff in front of her so she'll know that i'm fine, it won't help at all, she said i must eat 3000 calories a day, and i actually have to eat around 1600 how do i make my parents know that i'm eating well and i'm not skinny at all?!
Is it okay that my parents keep telling me to shut up?
No it's not right that they do it, unfortunately it's not uncommon. I see parents like that all the time, in fact, giving a child respect and earning theirs isn't really a priority for some parents.. Talking to them about it is all you really can do, the fact that you did shows that you're a good kid (I'm assuming that you did it respectfully). All you really can do is accept that for the way they are, as long as they have taken care of you to the best of their abilities they're still decent parents. Growing up you will learn that there's no such thing as a perfect parent, we still have emotions, and issues with our tempers, and we don't always say the right things at the right times. The important thing for you to do now is step back and really look at the good things they have done for you and sacrifices they have made. I'm not saying that I agree with the way they are towards you, you deserve respect too! But unless you close them out completely (please don't do that) you have to accept the way they are and try to understand that they love you and they make mistakes just like everyone else.
I want to do pageants, but my parents keep saying no!?!?
I really want to start doing beauty pageants but my parents won't let me. I've asked maturally, but I just can't get my way! I've even saved up money to help pay too, and I'd only be doing natural pageants. I researched a nice pageant system not to far from where I live. (Its about 1hr - 1hr & a half away, depending on location) I don't know how to get them to change their minds!! HELP!
What should I do when my parents keep saying "go outside and get some fresh air"?
I used to hear “go outside and get some fresh air around you”It usually meant to stop watching tv and go out and do something or find something to do.Go find some friends to be with. Being outside in the fresh air helps improve your mental health, and your mood. It’s good for your complexion and you will sleep better at night.Most homes don’t have enough natural light in them and the air quality is so much nicer outside.Go be with your friends and go for a walk or run or bike ride.Do some gardening or jump on a trampoline.Kick some leaves about, not just for young kids. Do Pokemon go or similar, or take photos of the things and scenery around you.I have actually started telling my son to “go get some fresh air around you, your leaving a bum print on the chair,He usually isn’t impressed but he goes and finds something to do.Hopefully this answers your question.Sarah
My parents say I'm immature?
Ok, I am 15 years old, a freshmen in high school. I am on the speech and debate team, and have loads of extra curricular activities. However, my parents are constintly yelling at me and calling me immature. Would you say I am immature? -I play tenis, and do speech and debate team -I have friends who come over, and they all get fantastic grades and don't do drugs -I don't do drugs and never drink or party -I get fantastic grades, never lower then a B (and right now, all A's) -I babysit twice a week (I am too young to get another job) and make a pretty good income for a 15 year old. (Around 70 dollars a week) -I do all my homework, and respect adults. My dad thinks that I am super immature. He constantly mocks me about it, and tells me there is no way in hell I am going to get my permit at 15 and a half, because I am too immature to drive. When I tell him I am saving up for things, like an Ipad, he says that I can't get it even if I pay for it all myself, and refuses to let me know the Wifi passwords so that I would not be able to access the internet on it without his permission. He also tells me that if anyone in this family will be getting an iphone, it will be my sister (who is 10) because she shows way more maturity then I do. (Maybe because she is a dancer and is so "committed" to dance, so that makes him proud, where as I have tried to show commitment but he has made me quit the things that I try to be committed to. I was playing tenis earlier this year, but he made me quit because he did not think I was committed to it.) I am wondering what could make him feel I am immature. Because I know many immature kids my age. Some of them are immature because they do drugs and party non stop. Others are immature because they watch starwars all the time and play pokemon. I would not consider myself either of the two. Not at all. My flaws would be: - My sisters and I sometimes fight, but I mean, we are siblings, and its equally all our faults, all siblings fight. - I get into arguments about things, like the Ipad, and my parents don't let me get a word in "this is the last we will speek of it", they say. But I bring it up again. Only because I feel that I am responsible and mature enough to have a discusion civilly with them. Please help me to figure out what I am doing wrong, and how I can get them to not treat me like a 12 year old. Thanks :)
My parents keep asking me what i want for christmas?
i have three siblings. I am the only one how does not make a christmas list because i have everything i could want. My parents keep asking me what i want and i say i don't want anything. They keep saying that i need something great for christmas because of how well i am doing in all my classes in school. (personally i don't think I'm doing that well) They also just got me a laptop like just five months ago for getting into this program at school that looks really good on your resume. And it is not like my parents are super ritch, i don't want them spending money that they don't need to spend, they need to put 4 kids through college, and they are already supporting 2 of them in college already. WHAT SHOULD I DO? should i get a small gift? i am a guy, 15 years old, i am very athletic, and do cross-country, and winter and spring track.
My parents keep on telling me to study and how to do it. I want to study, but I want to do it my way and their nagging puts me off. I'm expected to study for the majority of the day. What should I do?
I completely understand that, because I have gone through the exact situation many times.The first thing is being a student, your foremost duty is to study, doesn't matter whether you like it or not....Let me tell you my story. After 8th I was completely merged into my studies and academic life that I couldn't have quality time with my parents. They didn't bother either because I was going very well with my studies. But when I came to 10th, they started worrying about my studies (obviously, it was supposed to). They wanted to keep track of every activity, like why I was late from tuition or why I spent too much time in computer tuition and etc.. I didn't understand them and thought they were interfering and grew annoyed. All that resulted in a pretty average score of 93% in ICSE, while everyone expected me to easily score above 95.. If only I had listened to them atleast once or tried to talk out the situation to them, it could have been a different scenario.(if you don't know, above 95 and even a mark below it has a huge difference, people judge bright students as above 95s).I am not saying that it is completely your fault, but something has created the misunderstanding. But, all of it can be worked out if you start a healthy discussion with them. ya !! just tell them your plans and goals, let them know what your dreams are, even the stupidest ones, I know it feels like shy especially when you say it to your parents. They may laugh at you, but they ll see the better part you, they ll be proud of you(in their own way), coz they must have had such crazy unfulfilled dreams at your age. Share them your problems, just tell them how you want to read, let them see the smarter you.. yes! if you are smart, let everyone around you know....But, Experience always comes first. If they want you to do something it's got to be important. Think of what they advise you, just don't always take it to your 'ego'. If you can't find it, directly ask them why they want you to do it..And, just stop thinking "my way" n "their way".. you are not parties in the Parliament. Parents always care for you.. they always try to understand you, just help them to do so..... you are going to travel miles and only your parents ll be with you all throughout the journey,, so Understanding is in primary need...----- Be Positive and Good Luck-----
What should you do if your parents say you are ugly?
I don’t think I’m ugly. But I am extremely short and average looking at best. The only place I have felt remotely attractive is at my college where the female to male ratio is 1:8. Yay! Not really. My life is filled with awkward instances where my parents (and extended family as well) have made this fact quite obvious. From my dad suggesting a rhinoplasty to my mom sighing in disbelief every time my picture on facebook gets a like… I’ve endured it all. Once they looked at a bride and said something along the lines ‘She’s ugly… sort of like X (insert my pet name here)’ *facepalm* Over the years, I’ve come to realize that they didn’t mean to hurt my self esteem. They just have a weird sense of humor. So, I’ve come up with some veiled retorts of my own:‘Sometimes I wish ‘WE’ were blessed with better genes.’‘Beauty is not everything! You guys have made it through life, so will I. You guys are my inspiration awwwwwww :’) ’‘And that’s why I need to take extra care of my unfortunate looks. Lets go shopping today!! (Still cheaper than rhinoplasty!)’
How do I get the message through to my parents that I'M NOT GOING TO GRADUATION?
My parents keep going on and on and on about how awesome they think graduation is and how they can't wait to see me walk and get my diploma... except I'm not going. I think the ceremony is a waste of time. My parents keep saying that I "have to go" and that they'll force me; they don't seem to be grasping the fact that I'll be a legal adult by then so there's nothing they can do. If worst comes to worst I'll end up standing them up. How do I get them to understand that I'm NOT GOING?
Am I really giving my parents "attitude"?
Okay, this is getting REALLY aggravating because if I have a skeptical attitude to my parents then they treat it as "giving them attitude". In ALL of these instances I was calm before they got pissed: -My mom interrupted my brother's story by saying "you say like too much". And I said "that was kindof rude". Then she got pissed off and said I was giving attitude. -I answered my dad's question and later he asked the same question except it wasn't that "what was it again?" it was literally like he didn't ask that question. So I responded "I already told you, and he's fro-" Cut off by his raging fit about "giving him attitude". He ironically yelled at me, "I WISH YOU'D JUST ANSWER POSITIVELY AND POLITELY!". Then when I start raising my voice and arguing my dad just tells me "SHUT UP!" and continues b*tching. -My mom will repeat a story that I've heard literally like 3-5 times and then I say "Mom, you already told me that." Then she goes on one of those silent raging fits. I mean literally they both have the same temper level as I do, but I know that I get mad over stupid ****. My parents, on the other hand, have this attitude that they're ALWAYS right, and I'm ALWAYS giving them attitude. We even have a foreign kid coming over the summer and during my dad's recently stated temper tantrum, he said "IF YOU DO THAT WHEN THAT FOREIGN KID COMES OVER, I'LL HIT YOU ASIDE THE HEAD AND THEN TALK TO YOU ABOUT IT LATER." Another thing they do is that they're like the Big Brother, and by that I mean that they reason for their mistakes and they act like they're perfect. The thing that REALLY agitates when we do talk about these things is that act like counselors talking and lecturing me like I'm a 6 year old child.