My mom hates my sister, what do I do!?
It sounds like your mother is Bipolar (Mood swing disorder) Or her uncooperative nature could be her way to let everyone know she is having a hard time letting her "baby" go.... Sometimes mothers can throw the worst temper tantrums when their children leave the nest, but it is not because they hate their kids, it is because they LOVE them! It is an aged old story; Mothers have given birth, (No easy feat), raised their kids, sacrificed for them and now, they are leaving the nest. I find it hard to believe your mother could hate her child. What she may be trying to say is, "I hate that my baby is leaving me"... Regardless, don't get angry with her. Have your sister sit down with your mom and ask mom what mom would like to do to help with the wedding. If she says nothing, then tell her if she changes her mind, to please let you know. Mom holds the utmost important position as "Mother of The Bride". When mom comes around and is ready, then accept her help. Plan the wedding and keep her in the loop and let the wedding go on as planned. Don't worry about Mom, she will be alright especially when the new "grandbaby" comes along!
Why does everybody like my older sister more?
I have a sister that is just a year older then I, but everyone seems to gravitate more towards her than me. Sometimes, with both friends and family, I feel awfully left out. Most of my friends that we share tend to tell her secrets rather than I. And they also judge our maturity levels by our ages (which isn't accurate) and she always gets more attention and gets the first hugs. With my family, I think my patents are great, but they just naturally give my sister more attention. For example, I might come home from school and get a "How was your day?" and that's about it. For my sister, they want to hear all about her and discuss things. Also, I know that they made it this huge deal that she moved on to high school, but I know it will not be so important for me. Not even close. So yes, our personalities are similar buy differ a little bit. She is very passionate, likes to look pretty, is a leader, and is very talkitive and outgoing. She also has some good friends but has some drama. For me, I am more down to earth and not as talkative but I have great friends who never fight, which I wouldn't trade for the world. I, my whole life, have never been very talkative because I always stepped into the background and let her take center stage, if you will. We both get very good grades and are equally pretty (accoring to a lot of people, who mistake us for twins sometimes). So yeah, if anyone out there has a similar situation, please tell me about it. You're not alone! Also, I really love my life and friends so much and I am so blessed to have these things, but at the end of the day, being a third-wheel is what usually brings me down. Thanks for reading all that! I know it was long but I think it might help. Thank you!
Everyday I always help my mom to do the housework. My sister only sometimes helps my mom. Does anyone know what I should do to get my sister to help my mom with the housework more often?
Nothing. Honestly, you can't do anything but be your own person. My younger brother is about as lazy as they come. When we were both living with our parents, he would do the bare minimum to get by on chores while I was usually pretty diligent about them. So I feel your pain.At the time, I felt like my mom wasn't being fair because she didn't always enforce him doing an equal share, but now I realize that I think that was mostly because she was SO TIRED of having to ride him to get him to do anything, then get on his case again and again to get him to do it right. Parents are people, too, and they're not perfect. So sometimes what looks like favoritism really is kind of the opposite, since having to nag someone to do the slightest thing doesn't really endear them to you.So what can you do, knowing that you can't change your sister's behavior? -- Help your mom for the sake of being a good person who is honoring to her parents and learning diligence and integrity. Don't complain about what your sister does and doesn't do and don't keep score. You are doing this for you and your mom, not for your sister. If you keep score that will only build resentment.-- Appreciate where you are and look forward to when you move out. My brother and I shared a bathroom which he never, ever cleaned. Never. Sometimes I would let it get really dirty in the hopes that he would get fed up and clean it, but he was perfectly willing to live in filth until I cleaned it. He was like that. Finally, I figured I could resent him and/or bug mom about making him clean the bathroom once in awhile, or I could just realize that this was a temporary situation and that the price of living at home while in college was having him as my roommate. When I got my own place, it was satisfying to really keep it clean and be proud of my efforts. His apartments have ever been disgusting. -- Take this as a life lesson. Not everyone in your life is going to pull their weight, from the classmate who says they'll make the poster for the group project to the roommate who'll definitely pay their rent soon to the coworker who does a horrible job on the report they don't feel like writing. Learning what you can and can't control and learning what to fight and what to let go is a big lesson that a lot of people don't learn. You get to start early! I hope this is encouraging to you. You're doing the right thing! Hang in there!
Everyone says my mom looks like my sister and I hate it!?
I am 22 years old and my mom is 47. She looks fairly good for her age maybe 40ish. She's always been skinny, tall, and has blonde hair. I on the other hand have dark hair, very short (5 feet 2 inches) and not THAT skinny but I am not fat either, lol. Anyways, whenever we are together everyone says "oh my gosh that's not your mom! She can't be, she's too young" They also like to say "She could be your older sister" I even had one jerk say "She could be your younger sister". It drives me absolutely nuts and my mom loves the attention. I never know what to say to people when they say crap like that but It just drives me crazy. It makes me feel old and ugly and my mom thrives on it.
How do I get get over the fact that my sister hates me?
I know exactly how you feel. My sis is 2 yrs older and she has hated me (SERIOUSLY) since i was born. As a child i wanted to love her and talk to her but she never once wanted anything to do with me. Always negative comments and telling evryone my embarrasing moments to try to humiliate me and bring me down. And now we are both in our 30s and she still brings up past things to judge me as if what i did was tge worst thing ever. She tells people she was good and i wasnt. She lies about me all the time to try to get people to not like me. And all i ever wanted was to give her my love. So i have come to realise, the problem is her, not me. I have my own life and im very happy and alot of other people love me. I dont need her, and i have grown to not want her anymore. Blood is blood, yes, but when blood hates you for no reason, then i have no reason to stress over it. You should forget her and move on from wanting her. She will always be who she is, and who she is doesnt love you. You deserve love and plus it will make her hate you more when she sees you so happy. So, you win
I feel like my mom loves my sister more than me. How do I deal with that?
I sometimes feel the same way about my mother and sister, so I know what you are feeling very well.There are two things that happen in this case.It is possible that you are just guessing things and that your mother loves you both equally. In this case, try to talk to her that you feel this way. Talking helps. This way you'll understand what's the truth. If you usually don't share feelings with your mum and you feel uncomfortable talking about this, (I do), try to be stronger and try asking her. Or try talking to your sister.It is really that your mother loves your sister more. In this case, first comes acceptance. You have to accept the fact that she loves her more, and you have to understand that it's neither your, your mother's or your sister's fault. They can't choose who they like more. Also, understand that she loves you anyway. And that's what matters.I have a question for you.If there is a boat with your mum inside it and both you and your sister were drowning. Your mum can save only one person. Who will she save?You'd say, obviously, my sister. But that's the wrong answer. Here is what she will do. She will first put one of you on the boat and then ask you to help other one on the boat and she'll jump into the water, so that she can save you both. This is her love for her children.Usually, like 90% of times, parents love their children more than their lives. And maybe sometimes they love one child more than the other. They still love both unconditionally.I don't know if I am using the right words and example, but I hope you understand.Cheers! :)
My little sister hates me for some reason?!?
I seriously don't understand it. I am 16 and she is 13 and I can't stand her anymore. She hates me and acts like I am the most terrible person in the world even when I don't do anything. She is a brat to everyone in the house, and she always screams at our mom for no reason at all, and I usually try not to get involved, but sometimes she is just talking so nasty I have to call her out on it, and immediately she is like "omg Julia SHUT UP no one cares what you have to say! You are OBVIOUSLY just trying to get me mad!!" Even though she was already mad and I was just trying to tell her to talk in a nicer tone, she always has to play the victim. Also, she is no fun at all. Whenever I try to have fun she always shoots me down and just focuses on the negative and if I try to joke with her she just gives me this dead serious face and doesn't respond, and she claims its because I "deserve" it.. Like WTF. I can't just let lose around her and be myself. I have to be this statue. And then whenever she is with her friends she becomes ms sunshine and is so fake and does everything to please them even though she has come to me and told me countless times how much she hates them.. fake! And then she gets upset when I try to avoid her and calls ME mean and a terrible person, when really I avoid her because she is a mean nasty fake ***** who is always looking for what's wrong with me so of course I wouldn't want to be around that. How do I deal with this girl bc I can't take it anymore?!!
Why does everyone love my little sister so much better than me?:(?
It may have to do with her being youngest of your family. People tend to nurture the younger one longer. I had the same issues with my little sister and I. Now that we're 22 and 24, people like her more because she is more outgoing where I don't care to waste my breath on maintaining a pointless, awkward, boring conversation. She also likes to party and have a good time where I would rather watch TV and movies in a cozy bed. Who knows. Your parents and siblings probably don't even know they're doing it! You're just more attentive and realize these things where they are oblivious that they are negatively affecting you.
My sister never does her share of the chores?
I am curious, does school come easy for you? It sounds as if school is difficult for your sister and she is struggling or your parents would not be doing her chores and having you do her chores. Why not help your sister out and be a family member instead of the maid. You put yourself in that position.