I caught my friend talking about me behind my back. How should I confront her about it?
I was walking around our neighborhood with one of my best friends and she suggested that we go over to Anne's house. I've never been close to Anne, but I don't mind her, so I agreed. When we got there, we all sat on the couch and were watching tv. Anne was in the kitchen getting us something to drink when I noticed her phone light up. I just peered over my shoulder at it absent-mindedly. I was not intending to snoop, but I saw that it was a Facebook notification saying that my friend Lily had sent her a message. I found this extremely worrying since we were all in the same room. Why weren't those two talking face to face? Lily was also holding her iPad on an angle almost as if she was hiding the screen from me. So I looked at the phone for a little longer. All I saw was, "Sorry, she followed me here :( couldn't stop her." and from there, I knew 100% that it was about me. My first emotion was anger at her portraying me as some needy kid who tags along behind her when most of the time, she acts like the submissive one. What hurt the most though is that I have helped Lily through years of being bullied at school, and now she has demonstrated the same sort of bullying behavior to me. Someone who she called her best friend. After I saw the message, I literally just got up and left the house without saying anything, even though I was fuming inside. Now I'm sitting at home and I have no idea how I should act around her now. I just finished talking to her sister and brother about it, but all they could do was give a listening ear. My only hope is that since Lily has always struggled for acceptance, she only said it because she wanted Anne to like her. I don't give a **** about Anne's feelings towards me, it's just the betrayal of a best friend that has me crying. How do you guys suggest I approach this situation? Should I talk to Lily about it, or just let it go? I don't want to lose a fifteen year friendship.
Should you care, when so called friends, talk bad about you behind your back?
I wouldn't care what they said about me! Why? Because I don't have “so called” friends! I have REAL friends. Even if my real friends talked about me behind my back, the only way it would bother me, is if they were telling LIES about me. If it was the truth…it wouldn't bother me, because I am an open book with my friends and I don't hide things from them.A so called friend would not bother me at all. They could say whatever they want, because my real friends would know better! Because they know the REAL ME!
My so called friend has been talking about me behind my back. What should I do?
Okay so, people have been telling me that my "friend" Myka has been saying a lot of stuff about me. My other friend was saying that during lunch (we have different lunches) Myka was calling me bipolar and dramatic and that all I talk about is my boyfriend. (I rarely do because a lot of my friends are single and don't like rubbing it their faces) Basically she always brings my boyfriend up into her rants. She called me a slut because I apparently had oral sex with him which I would never do that. Him and I have been together exactly a year and a half and I believe it's too early to have sex, we're not the type to wait until marriage but still, we would do it when we're like 17-18 but at the moment, absolutely not because we don't know much about sex (one time we almost did it but we learned to control ourselves lol) . We have been together that long with NO arguments whatsoever. We trust each other so we see no point in arguing. All my friends think she's jealous of my relationship. Myka has never had a boyfriend, and every guy she's liked, never liked her back. Do you think she's jealous? My friend Ellie said "Every single time she talks about you, she always brings up your relationship and how it should end already. I remember one time she said she wanted a relationship like yours". I'm just hurt. I want to confront her but I'm not the fighting type and she is. I'm a freshman in high school, I don't want anything dirty on my permanent record. I'm an A & B student and take a few honors classes so I actually plan on getting somewhere. What do you guys think I should do? By the way, she had a crush on my boyfriend before in 7th grade but obviously he didn't like her back. It's not that she's ugly, she just has an atrocious personality. That is all.
My "friend" called me annoying and weird behind my back?
I don't even know why I'm asking this but I'm feeling terrible and need some advice. I'm a freshmen in college and I've made a small, close knit group of friends (there are 5 of us). Today my friend and I were talking to my friend, lets call him Fred, about how he and my other friend, lets say Tim, had talked about me behind my back. He told us that Tim had said I'm "f***ing annoying and weird". Keep in mind, Fred liked me when we first met and I rejected him so he constantly brings this stuff up to try to hurt me or get a reaction because I think he's secretly bitter. Anyway I don't know I always assumed Tim and I were friends, and although sometimes he called me obnoxious and annoying to my face (which I tend to be), I thought he still liked me as a person. This is so high school and now that I'm in college I expected this sh** to be over and done with but now I'm sitting here more hurt than I thought I'd be thinking that some guy who I thought was a close friend of mine actually has hated me this whole time. Any advice? Sorry for the rant and the drama :(
Why do friends talk behind your back, and what do you do when they do it?
First I will answer to “why”I believe certain expectations build-up in friendship. If you really consider someone as a friend you have some expectations from that person. So if they don't match up to your expectations you feel bad about it but can't really do anything about it cause you never actually went and told your friend what you want.This is when you talk behind your friends' back to get your frustration out but not hurting the person directly.Now if you hear that your friend has talked behind your back, I think the most logical solution is to go straight to that person and sort it out. Ask why he/she said that and try your best to solve the matter if u want your friend back.Obviously there are some people who are not your true friends but everyone deserves a last chance before breaking it off. Don't let misunderstandings take a 'potential' true friend away from you. Give them a fair chance to justify their actions before jumping to conclusions.
My friend called me fat behind my back! What do I do?
If you have always hated her, as you say, why do you call her your friend. A true friend would not do that, so ignore her and move on. Do not continue to associate with her. Hang out with others who make you feel good about yourself.
Y do friends talk behind each others back?
lately my so called friends talked behind my back and told veryone they knew I was gay ( which I am not). well its not the first time they done this. they tell stuff to each other but doesnt tell the person who they talk about to their face. y do they do that.
Why do my friends tease me and talk about me behind my back?
For the longest time my friends talk about me begin my back and make fun of me. We joke around sometimes and right when I think my friends are nice again they just start teasing me and calling me names . When I try to joke back they just tell me to shut up and it really hurts my feelings. I get mad and want to say something but whenever I get mad they'll just be like " he's mad hahaha!" Then i try to tell one of my friends wrong they all are against me and no one is on my side. And they also call me rich because I live in a big house and every time I get something new they start calling me rich and laugh at me.they also made a fake instagram page of me saying things that are hurtful. This weekend I'm having a birthday party at a hotel at the beach and I invited them and two friends who arent mean but i really dont want to take them but if I don't they'll call me fake and I probably won't have any friends. So should i take them or should i take my two nice friends .I can't take it anymore what should I do?