How can I stop my son from finger sucking?
He already has discovered his built in pacifier. Too late, he's carrying it with him where ever he goes and it is always ready. It will be harder but start working on switching to a mechanical kind. You might have to experiment and cheat by flavoring it a bit at first. That binky can be lost later a lot easer than those fingers. This is a self-soothing dynamic so you can shape it but many parents really set up later problems by not letting it basically cycle through. 2 years is nothing. This is about baseline security in a child. The more they feel competant, the less external blankets work.You can force him to stop early but remember it is for you and what it appears, it isn't really in the interest of the child. Pacifiers drop out pretty naturally when life is safe. You make alternatives and get the other stuff in place and that will be a forgotten stage in their life.
How Can I Get My Son to Stop Throwing his Life Away and Become a Decent Man? he is ruining his life?
Shoot him - metaphorically speaking, people like him are what is wrong with this country let alone world. You failed in some way, and he failed in others. He is now dead to you and you never had him, it is easier to forget him then it is for him to become something. What you should've done when he hit high school and beat him when he started acting up, but you pussy footed around and now look at where he is. I'm a 21 year old man, I ****** up in high school and had a coming to Jesus talk with my family which end with me a bloody nose and knowing not to **** up again, Now i'm an engineering student at Purdue with a 3.3gpa. You try and tell me my father did wrong.
Can you stop loving your son?
This is coming from someone who has had a negative attitude towards their father for no reason. Trust me you are going to love your child no matter what. It's a time and a place in everyones life to realize that your life, marriage, and emotional health is as important as anyone else. Let your wife know that your son will be fine if he goes on his out on his own. He's a young man now and I'm pretty sure you have done all you could as a father and that your just not going to abandon him. You deserve happiness and let everyone else understand that.
How do I stop my sister from ruining her life?
You cannot live another's life for them. It would be unseemly to even try. I point this out by way of communicating to you the fact that it is not she you should be worried about -- it is you who should be the matter of a greater concern. Would you really be able to live with yourself if you apathetically stood by and watched her destroy her life by compromising the quality of her entire future in such a manner while doing nothing to proactively prevent it? You would forever regret not having done more when you had the opportunity. By all means, share your feelings, first with her; then, with your parents. The trouble she will experience from your parents will be as nothing when compared to the trouble she will encounter if allowed to charge blindly into the future she has threatened to make for herself. You do not have to live with her for the rest of your respective lives but you do have to live the entirety of your life with you. There is no getting around that. If she hates you because you intervened, so be it. At least you and your parents will know you did the right thing when it could do the most good for her long range best interest -- even if she does not. It's her party and she can cry if she wants to. But that doesn't mean your non-participation needs to be a contributing factor to her downfall. Point a finger now so you will be able to lend a hand later when she is ready to be steadied in her thinking. As difficult as it is to do, rise to a state of saintly and loving sisterhood that can be lived with in support of a clearer conscience for all involved. I speak here on behalf of the child who could be born into an almost certain life of too much soap and not enough opera if her plan is allowed to come to fruition. It is that child who would have to bear the brunt of her foolhardy decision so early in her young life. Could you, as that child's aunt, not have a qualm of guilty conscience each time you saw either the child or its mother knowing you could have done something to prevent such a sorry state of affairs but didn't?
My step-son is ruining my marriage ?
So , My step-son is 20 now, can't hold a job, can't finish school , can't keep an appartment of his own. My wife recently invited him to move back (this boy is from another father) into our home and I cannot stand him. We constantly argue, he wont listen to my advice and he is a straight up punk. My wife keeps giving him everything, all of our money , buys him everything, the boy is 20! She is always telling me to stop arguing with the boy but I cannot, I don't believe in her style of spoiling him and I really cannot stand the way he behaves. Lazy and no good. What can I do to avoid divorce over this? We are already in counceling , and trust me, it is not helping. No matter what some uppidy phychaitrist says , I will NEVER believe spoiling a 20 year old is the right way to raise a child. He is using his mother and she is on her son's side.
Theres this annoying autistic kid that follows me and my friends. How do we kindly get him to stop followingus?
Ok this might sound mean, but lets call him Jerry. I'd known jerry being he was in my grade but id never really talked to him until once last year he randomly found my house (i dont know how...i think he followed me home or something O.O). so i knew he was autistic and stuff so i wasnt going to be mean and hung out with him for a little while, then told him i had to "go somewhere". he left, and he kept badgering me at school the next couple days to hang out with him. so one day my friend sam and i decided we'd hang out with him for like 15 minutes. that was a very bad mistake. he hasn't stopped following us since. i recieve 10+ calls from Jerry a day. he's very annoying when we do hang out with him, being he doesn't want to leave and he plays annoying music to piss us off and stuff, acts annoying and stuff. he bikes over to me and my friends houses multiple times a day, (my friend kyle lives a block away. if Jerry goes to my house, and im not there or cant hang out, he bikes to kyles. if its the same situation at kyles, he comes back to my house. then if i still am busy he'll go back to kyles, and so on and so on.) he even found my friend andy's house (all the way on the other side of town) by FOLLOWING THE MAILMAN'S TRUCK FOR LIKE 15 blocks. one day when me and kyle and andy were working out in kyles weight room, jerry came to the door. we didnt here him because we had music on but it turns out he waited outside kyles front door for 15 minutes before preceding to come around to every low-enough leveled window in the house, peeked through it and knocked on it. we STILL didnt hear. i went upstairs to go get a drink of water and from a small opened window i hear "NIIIIIIICKKKKK" in the background. he was yelling from the backyard looking for me. HOW DO I GET THIS CHILDTO STOP FOLLOWING US WITHOUT BEING A DOUCHE TO HIM?!?! its so hard! I cant be mean to him because remember he has autism! I mean its not his fault so we try to be nice to him but how can you handle something like that? Is there a way out or are we screwed?
I have a phobia that's ruining my life.?
Ever since I can remember I have had a phobia of cats, its called Ailurophobia. I have dealt with it until now because none of our neighbor's had cats. Recently we had some new people move in across the street, they have a cat but it didn't bother me as it never came over to us. One day, however me, my mum, my dad and my brother were getting in the car to go to Manchester and my brother left his car door open and suddenly the cat jumped in next to me. I was completely terrified and refused to move, my mother tried to shew it away and my brother ended up picking it up to get it out of the car but my dad was shouting at me to stop being a baby and that the cat was fine, I know he was right but I cant help it, they terrify me. Anyhow it turns out the cat had been at our house because my dad had been feeding it for a few months, I had just never seen it. I got in a fight with my dad and told him how they terrified me so much but he didn't care. He used to have a cat as a child but when he married my mum and had my brother they weren't keen on getting one so when they saw I was afraid of them they definitly couldn't get one. I asked him to at least stop feeding it because it keeps coming over but he shouted at me and said no.Now I am afraid to walk out the door incase it is there. I am sick of people telling me its a stupid thing to be afraid of but I honestly can't help it. What do I do?