My step dad tells me inappropriate things? Please read?
My step dad has a tendency of telling me inappropriate things almost everyday.Today he came from work and didn't talk to me much until awhile later. Before he got home i was helping my mom with her new phone that he bought for her. So Everything was fine. Then he arrived from work and then he started to help her with the phone as well. My mom then asked if i could give her some ice cream and i said ok and even offered some to my step dad. Out of nowhere he starts to hug my head and he did it so hard that my ear started to hurt so i told him to stop. hes like "oh come on you are tougher then that lol don't be such a wimp lol".He usually plays like that with me so i brushed it off even though my ear was hurting. he then noticed my pants were kinda falling ( i was wearing sweat pants) and he says "haha look at that your pants are falling i'm gonna buy you some tight pants. so i can see everything you have". I got upset because the comment was unnecessary and perverted. it's not the first time he has told me that. I even told my mom in Spanish because he tends to say those things in English and she says "hey don't say that because she does not like it". How can he say those things out loud? I told him what a pervert he was for saying that and he says "ahh please your probably a bigger pervert than me". I told him that i don't say comments that are out of line and perverted like you do.he says "hey there's no act so". idk if he is serious or not but those comments that he said really hurt me. I told him to keep his comments to himself. After a few minutes later i went to my room and just started to cry. usually i don't cry over it cause i become mostly angry,but i needed to let out some pain. It just hurts me because i felt disrespected. I just want a decent relationship with this person because i couldn't get that with my own father. my step dad has raised me since i was two years old. So i just want a decent relationship with someone that respects me as an adult of 22 years without getting usual comments such as those. But i don't see that happening any time soon. i'm just tried of the comments and being disrespected. What do you guys think of this?
Step dad touching me, what do i do?
Okay a few weeks ago, my step dad came home and asked if he could sleep in my bed with me, and i told him no, but he could sleep in my bed but i would go down stairs, and he said no neverming. Then like a week ago, i was wearing shorts and they were alittle short and i walked past my step dad he touched the upper part of my leg and was like those are really short shorts, and i walked away to shut off my little brothers toy, and had to walk past him again to get to the couch....and he touched me again.....well later that night he came over to the couch i was laying on and layed down next to me...and started rubbing my legs, and then was rubbing under my sleeve on my tank top....and last night, he came over on the couch and layed down, and put his hand in my pants, but i pretended to be asleep and started moving pretending i was having a bad dream and went upstairs untill he went to be then ran away to my friends house...he only does this when my mom goes to bed... What do i do?
HELP!! my step sister spying on me in bathroom!!!!!!!!?
sry so long but i need HELPPPPPPPP!! plz read all!! So i live with my step mom and step sister because my dad went to prison 1 year ago because he killed his best friend while they were drunk driving(dad was driving). so my step sister told me some guy felt her up at school and she felt violated so i went to her school the next day and she pointed out the lil prick that touched her and literally knocked him out cold 2 hits me hitting him him hitting the ground Im 21by the way shes 17. after i knocked him out we walked back to my truck and she leaned over and kissed me on the lips I shrugged it off as Adrenalin ( she never kissed me on the lips before). but then for the next couple of days shes calling me her savior,and walking around in lil booty shorts kinda weird but whatever. but it gets worse!!! im passed out on the couch (Im bipolar so i take xanex and sleeping aids and a bunch of other pills) and i wake up no big deal, but feel some1 laying on me, me being me i think its my gf and i squeeze her azz but shes only wearing booty shorts (my gf wouldnt be wearing those in the living room) so i open my eyes and its my step sister smiling at me!!!! i immediately get up and dont know what to do... so i just leave the room. i dont know what to say to her. IT GETS WORSE so i am going to get in the bath tub and i figure ill shut off the lights and take a nap in the warm tub with not much water so if i fall asleep i cant drown, but when i shut off the lights i see that there is lil light circles of light coming from where i accidentally ripped the towel hanger thing off the wall. I look closer and my step sisters light is on in her room and she has lil pencil size holes in her wall in the same place where I ripped the towel rack off in the bathroom!!!!! I think she has been watching me in the bathroom!!! im pretty freaked out now!! how am i suppose to tell my step mom that i think her daughter has a crush on me and has been spying on me? i have no place to go if she gets mad and calls me a liar and tells me to leave!!! plus i dont need any more drama in this house! then i start to notice things in my room have been moved and some1 has gone threw my dresser!!! what the hell should I do!!!! real advice only plz!!
How can me a 19 move out? My stepdad touched me inappropriately and my mom, brother, and sister don't believe me. They even go out to eat with him like nothing happened. What careers will allow me to leave my home quickly?
Wow. You dont deserve that. Seriously, I would look into getting a job in Alaska. I was in Denali, Alaska a couple of years ago at the Salmon Bake Restaurant. The manager there said they hire lots of help from the lower 48 for the summer. There is a free 24 hour shuttle there, so you don't need a car. They have rooms that you can rent pretty cheap through the restaurant and, the server said that you get two free meals on the days you work. Planes fly into Anchorage. You would take the train from Anchorage straight to Denali. She said it was long hours, but good otherwise.Another option is to go away to college, live in the dorm and sign up for the meal plan. (Most students do dorms and meals). Check into tuition free schools like Berea College in Kentucky if money is tight.Two other job options are the military and cruise lines. Also, the Peace Corps.An abuse shelter may be able to help you if you need to move right now. They can help you formulate a long term plan. I would strongly encourage you toward an education, because it will put you in a position to be fully financially independent from anyone.Sometimes parents and step-parents will tell the person being hurt that they can't do these things. That's not true. You can. Don't buy into anyone who says differently. You can have a good future. Even more, you deserve it.
Is my step dad flirting with me?
I'm fourteen years old and my step dad has been living with us since I was eleven. He's a fairly nice guy, not one of those assholes that some people pick up off the street after a breakup but a genuinely nice guy. Which is why I'm kind of dubious as to whether or not he's just being nice or flirting with me. Recently, within the last few months, he has began to give me more and more compliments. Once I was wearing a strapless, short dress, and he told me I was 'looking hot'. He calls me 'cute' just about every day and often times more than three times a day. He tries to hug and hold my hand all the time, and just have general contact with me. Honestly, it makes me feel really uncomfortable because it seems that nowadays he gives me more attention than he gives my mom. I'm only fourteen and he's fifty and I really do /not/ want to go there. Is he flirting with me or am I just overreacting?
My stepdad has started looking at me weird..?
You are probably right, in the first place. Every man sees every womanly female in a sexual way. Doesn't matter if the female is a stranger, a co-worker, a wife, a daughter or a step-daughter. The GOOD men keep it to themselves. They keep their hands off you and they do not make suggestive comments. Yes, it is an uneasy situation. As LONG as he keep it just to staring, he will eventually work it out in his own mind. He KNOWS you should be "off-limits" and given a couple of years, he will make his peace with your blooming womanly body and will stop staring. IF he is a good man. If he makes any sexual comments to you, look him in the eye and firmly tell him you are NOT comfortable with those kinds of comments, and to stop it. Not "please stop it" ... STOP it. This is your right, and you need to take that right into your own hands. If he does it a second time, you tell your a relative. Hard to tell your mom because she may not want to admit it is happening .. she likely WANTS he relationship and doesn't want to have to face problems. Sometimes the mom doesn't believe her daughter and thinks the daughter is just trying to cause trouble. So be careful. But you COULD try telling your mom .. just saying, "Dad is saying things I'm not comfortable with and I don't know how to handle the situation. What should I do?" If he touches you .. one warning. Then you go tell someone. Most likely, your good step-father will DO or SAY nothing. And that is just fine. You have to learn to deal with men staring at your body. They will do it until you grow old enough that you are no longer sexually appealing to them. All men.