My stepdad hates me what should i do?
Hi im 15 and my step dad hates me what should i do. he moved in with us about 3 years ago and it was really hard because one day we were living with my dad then that night mum woke us up and said pack your bag were leaving. the next day we were at his house. anyway my mum and step dad have had a baby. shes very cute and i love her. but my step dad im not going to say everything he has done it will take to long, but the thing is i cant remember the last time he has done something nice for me, when we moved in with him i had a cat and i loved him SO much he was the best. but the cat peed on the floor and my step dad kicked him outside for a day. the next day he came back inside and my step dad hit the cat over and over again SO hard and my cat ran away :( ive never seen him since. and my little sister who was 8 started crying and he hit her so much to over and over again and i was in the lounge with my mum and we could hear him hitting her i was sooo scared so when he came in i yelled at him to never touch my cat or here again and i told him i hated him. my mum got mad and yelled at me to go to my room. today i was making a hot milo and i asked him if he wanted one, he never anwerd so 5 minutes later he made himself some..we were both in the kitchen when he yells out STOP BEING SMART and i just get so mad i start screaming at him WHAT DID I DO!! now my mum is mad at me and she hasn't spoken to me since. im so sad i havent cryed so much in a long time. im not going to say any other stories because it would take forever but he always lies saying i said stuff and did stuff when i didn't. hes never said anything more than hi to me for as long as i can remember? whats wrong with me? why does he hate me?
I Hate My Stepdad!!!?
I really hate my stepdad!! I guess I'm jealous because my mom is always with him and not me!! Everyday as soon as he comes home from work it is all about him. What makes me even madder is that she knows I don't like him and she is still with him. She tells everyone yeah if she didn't like him I wouldn't be with him yet like I said she does know. He isn't mean to me or anything like that I guess I just want my mom and dad back together. My dad was put into prison for killing somebody and for doing drugs about 2 or 3 months ago. I am going into the peace corps as soon as I go into college so I can get away from here. I know that my mom is in love but it just seems like to me she would at least want to spend time with me afterall I'm not going to be living with her much longer. Another thing that really bothers me is that they are always having sex. To me that shows alot of disrespect to anyone else in the house they even did it on a family vacation. Please help me I want to kill myself.
I hate my step dad. What should I do?
Short answer: There's nothing you can do.Long answer: Dealing with parents can be extremely hard. Personally, I lost my father two years ago and my mom almost instantly (two months later) met another man online. My father died in April, my mother met my stepdad in late May, and he lived with us by September. My mother abandoned me for two months with my brother to go stay with my stepdad in Arizona, while I was still grieving. Basically, I have a lot of anger and resentment left over from this. Either way, my new soon-to-be stepdad isn't the best person, to say the least. He treats me much differently (worse) than he treats his own daughter, and says very cruel things to win an argument. He constantly blames me for things I haven't done and my mom believes him, and it's extremely frustrating. Because I broke my phone last month, and currently am unable to pay for my own (my mother is also unable to pay for a nice phone for me), my stepdad pays for it, which is kind, but he uses it as leverage against me. Anything I say wrong turns into me losing my phone for however long he’d like. Usually a few hours. He once gave me a list of things to do in order to get my phone back, so I completed the list and he still wouldn't give it back because he “"doesn't make deals with children.”Our relationship is awful, and he thinks that I like him more than I would admit. I don't, and likely never will.I’m explaining all of this to easily answer your question. No matter how much you hate someone, there is likely no quick, rational solution besides waiting it out. Unless your mother decides to leave him, you'll always be stuck with him. Just try to cope for now.
I feel like my stepdad hates me.... :_( ?
sorry i need to vent a little. So a little about me: I'm 19, have lived with my mom my entire life and am all to used to men walking out on me. My dad left when I was a baby, every boyfriend I have ever had have left me, I have been physically and emotionally abused in two past relationships, majority of the guys I have gotten close to in my family have died. My mom got married this last winter to a cop. I thought he was ok. I only went along with it because he made mom happy. We moved and that's when it all changed. I started working on our farm for him and found out how short of a temper he has. He hardly speaks to me and when he does its because mom is around, he's yelling at me for something or when he's drunk and happy. He makes it so hard to come to him about anything because I either get blown off, yelled at or ignored. Like not to long ago he yelled at me for feeding the pigs on the ground and said not to do it again, well today it was so wet and rainey that I would have fallen and hit the eletric fence. So I fed it on the ground because it was way to slippery thinking he wouldn't mind because of rain. He found out and questioned me about it. I tried to cover it up because I was affraid of him getting mad. I then finnaly confessed to it and told him why. He then told me how worthless and unappreciative I am. How I am the one making it hard for him to be my boss, how I am causing problems. So I stood up to him and said "maybe I don't want a boss. Maybe I want a stepdad who cares, doesn't blow me off, yell or is fake to me. I hate you." He then walks tapers the door and I'm like "see you are just like the others who walked out on me. God and to think I thought you would be diffrent" I feel like crap and it makes me cry. One other time was when we were supposed to clean barn as like a bonding thing well he didnt want to do it and tried to pay me off so i would have to do it all. Well when i stood my ground and was like no either both or none of us do it, he
WHY DOES MY STEPDAD HATE ME?
live with my mom whom im very close to and my adopted dad. i have a real dad that i talk to sometimes but he moved to virginia and my mom had full custody when i was smaller..so thats why my stepdad adopted me. hes very mean to me somtimes. dont get me wrong he says he loves me and stuff but then some days hes very mean. today my mom tried to get me up but i didnt get up so he comes in and screams at me to get out of bed or he'll push me out of bed in a very mean voice and didnt talk to me the rest of the day. then he was talking to my mom about how he doesnt want to go on vacation with us(my two friends and my aunt) bc its not going to be fun and that she cateers to me too much. so i feel like my dad tries to get my mom to hate me somtimes. what can i do for him to not hate me? ive been upset bc of it. i flipped out on my bf who i really liked and who was sweet..could this be why? could this be why i have boy troubles. how can i fix this?
Why does my stepdad hate me so much?
I have lived with him for about seven years now, and I am to the point where I just want to run away from here. All he does is insult me and my family, make fun of our weight ( even my mom sometimes ) , call us rats and pigs, blame us for almost every bad thing, and looks for reasons to yell at us and make us clean. He treats us like slaves, in fact sometimes he even calls me and my sisters " his little slaves " or "workers". Sometimes when he's mad he makes me get on my hands and knees and vaccuum , and clean , clean, clean. He only makes me and my sisters do work though, rarely his kids. And he treats my mom like crap too. One time, he even put her in a chokehold, still I don't know why she didn't divorce him, but anyways... He always complains that he is the only that does work around the house, and he is the only one bringing in money and paying for bills, even though my mom tries her best and works ALL THE TIME! He just throws that in my mom's face and calls her things like stupid. And he always over rules my mom. Everytime my mom makes a decision that he doesn't agree with, he over rules her. He never lets her make her own decisions or do anything on her own. They usually go everywhere together. My mom can't go anywhere or buy anything or do anything without his permission. If my mom wants to go to the grocery store, but he doesn't want her to, he won't let her go. And yet I still don't see why my mom doesn't do much about this.......... I feel like he's pushing me away from my mom. :( I don't know why he treats me and my family like crap. What should I do?? Advice?
Why does my stepdad hate me?
1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you better or help- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also. There are many types of abusive people/parents. Some ignore you. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great by being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. People tear you down to build themselves up. Its their problem. They do have problems. Remember- Abuse always involves some deception mixed in. Abuse causes pain mistaken as mental problems- Cutting, OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud in that all disorders are only emotions. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. You dont have what shrinks say you have. Dont tell anyone about any so called disorders. They will only drug you. Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them. Call or I can- Child Protective Services- Transitional housing to age 21- tell your teacher. Dont tell your parents they wont listen. Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies". I have some questions for you if want to talk about it. http://www.googobits.com/articles/2446-inside-the-mind-of-an-abuser-what-you-need-to-know.html
My step dad hates me for no reason?
Ok first off I want to say sorry if I come off as a whiny brat, I am well aware that some people have it much much worse than I do. Well my step dad hates me. He treats me like **** and constantly insults me behind my back. He says I'm no one in this house and that I should go back to my real dads house because I would not be missed. I've heard him say I'm so fat and useless and am always locked up in my room to my little half sisters. I find this ridiculous since I'm not even fat and the reason I'm locked up in my room is because he makes me so uncomfortable with his death glares that I don't want to go outside, much less clean the house and such so I only come out once he's at work. He's aggressive, one time he kicked down my door because I didn't open the door for my little sisters ( I was changing clothes and was about to open the door) I had an argument with him and told him that if he dares hit me I will tell my dad and he said he's not afraid of my father and can hit me any time. My mom defends me whenever he stops being a coward and dares say **** to my face, but she still continues to be with this piece of **** of a man. Today he was telling me I'm a worthless piece of **** and my mom over heard and told him to never talk to me like that and pushed him and he said to not push him or else he'll hit her and she said hit me and I call the police and he said i'll hit you right now, I don't care if you're pregnant. Horrible man right? I didn't even know my mom was pregnant......but I know he said that intentionally to hurt me. I mean he always gloats about how my mom loves my little half sisters more and she's replaced me amd my brother and sister. I want to tell my mom to just leave him but it's just extremely selfish since at the end of the day, he is the father of my little half sisters and they love him and I don't want to be the reason they're seperated from him. I just need some insight....some advise..please
I hate my stepdad but my mom thinks he’s the greatest person ever. What should I do?
hiHave an appropriate relationship with him. He is not your biological parent and it is your mom who has an emotional relationship with him. You do not give your age but there is little you can do except acknowledge him as a man in your mom’s life and presumably house. It is appropriate for you to be polite to him, out of respect for your mother, but otherwise withdraw I suppose. Maybe he is not hateful really as your Mom thinks him great. You can learn from the situation at least. Try and see his good points. You do not have to love him like a father as he is a step dad.Best wishes:)