My ex is confused about his feelings for me?
My ex had broken up with me around 3 weeks ago. It was the hardest thing I had to go through, knowing the person you love doesn't want you anymore. His reason was that he just lost the feelings and the spark and think it was better off that we were friends. And somehow I managed to be fine now. But after 2 weeks he had started texting me nonstop. And when I try to drop the convo he brings another one back up. He even asked to hang out and we did. Which was a bad idea to begin with since I still love him. We were just like before we became official, always joking around. That just made me more sad that I don't have him. Suddenly he started being strange and calls me at night asking if im truly okay and over him. I am okay but im definitely not over him. Than he finally fessed up with what he's been thinking, he said that time when I broke up with you I was fine cause all I focused on was my exams (college kid btw) and well now with the break I've had time to think about things. And im just confused on whether I just miss you or i still have feelings for you. Even though it kills me inside i told him we shouldn't have anymore contact from now on to let him clear his head be sure of what he wants and feels.Even though i don't believe in confused feelings a person should know right off the bat. And i don't know if i did the right thing? I know I will miss him terribly within the absence of no contact at all. But I already have my mind set at zero hopes on him coming back to me. I know to well that having hopes is foolish. Im just wondering is he just a lost cause and should i just let him go to prevent further hurt to come?
My boyfriend is confused and I can't seem to move on. Advice?
Sounds complicated and a repetition of old unconscious patterns. There is one single fact that can be about the events of our lives and why they happen to us. Our response is 100% responsible for the outcomes of our lives. Here is a basic equation. Event + response = outcome. Events we can not control. But our responses can be controlled. And the outcome can be changed which will lead to better future events. Do you see how this might apply to your situation. I feel you need to tell this person to F off. And do some work on your self. Look into understanding your own unconscious patterns and begin to take responsibility for what's happening in your life. Then start envisioning the life that YOU want. And start working towards that. If you do not do this, your life will continue to be at the whim of others, you will have no free will or control. Yet, there is no one to blame for the lack of freedom, because you have not choosen to take control. That said, this guy is not the one for you. His bouncing back and forth indicates he is unstable. There is little to no chance of him ever changing. And you were in a relationship of abdication, letting someone else dictate the events of your life. You got out of one bad relationship, don't land in another. Start by taking time for yourself. You need to discover who you are as an individual. Think of acquaintances you admire and ask to hang out with them. Learn from them by being around them. Offer to participate and help with whatever they are doing. This way you begin to get healthy. You will develop yourself. Put some distance between your past and this bad relationship. Find some sort of meditative activity, running, yoga, knitting, meditation, cycling, this will have positive effects on your ability to respond to events in a more calm and thoughtful way, rather than unconscious knee jerk reactions. I hope this helps. It's hard to answer things on quora of this nature because there is no feedback of a face to face or even phone call. But take it for what it's worth. Best of luck!
I am so hurt, i've never felt so confused. really need advice?
Me and my ex had a bad relationship. he treated me horrible. he'd constantly look at other girls, called me fat, ugly. you name it. but he always said sorry so i forgave him and took him back everytime. i got pregnant, like a dumb a s s i love my baby to death, she is due anytime now :) so anyway, he pushed me into a dresser when i was three months pregnant. he would get high behind my back, and he would scream in my face. once he pinched me and i had a huge bruise for a week. he treated me terrible. so eventually i had to kick him out because he just kept doing drugs. i dont want him by my baby or me. i cant share her, i dont want someone like that in my life. now he has a new girlfriend and im still pregnant and we've only been broken up a month and he's already saying he loves her and he even quit smoking weed for her. i cant believe he would quit for her but not me and the baby. ive never been so hurt in my entire life. i have a horrible pain in my chest. i want to keep the baby from him, but is this wrong to do?
Forgetfulness and confusion please I need advice.?
I’m 18. No drugs or alcohol or medicine. In June 2018 I started getting migraines and lashing out in anger. It got worse over time and in about September I started forgetting things and getting confused. Ex. I forget to eat or drink, and I’ve gotten confused and forgot my way home. I’m forget everything, and I also have trouble comprehending things now. I struggle taking tests now (in college) because I can’t remember even if I studied for days before hand. I’m exhausted all the time. I’ve actually lost weight from forgetting to eat and it scares me. My boyfriend has to remind me to eat. But even if I’m hungry nothing sounds good. So I’ll force myself to eat and after two bites I’m ready to throw up. Not all the time but most of the time. I really need help. I sleep all night and take naps and I still do not feel rested. I forget everything and it’s to the point where I hardly drive anymore because I’m afraid. Please help. I have no idea what it could be.
Mixed signals from ex?! need advice please!?
ok sooo. my ex and i dont really talk often, only from time to time. we broke up few months ago, and he hasnt gotten a new gf but he is sorttaa talking to a girl but not with her (she might be a rebound) and i am not with anyone. he has texted me telling me he misses me, he lives in a different state and we broke up because of the long distance issues. so he said the only way he sees us together is if he moves close to me.......lately hes been saying how he wants to move near me for college..so im pretty excited but i dunno if he wants to be with me again because hes still talking to this girl but i dont think theyre anything serious. ...i am going to see him in a few days cuz hes gonna visit the college and he wants to hangout wit me and my friends. how should i act??? it bothers me hes talking to another girl but wants to see me...? i still have feelings for him but i still want to play hard to get? and i def need to look super hot haha. any advice would be great!!!!
My ex boyfriend is confusing me?
I was dating a guy from 16-20 years old. I broke up with him 6 months ago even though i cared for him tremendously and was very very attached, i had to sacrifice the comfort of the relationship because I knew someone else would love him the way he deserved to be loved. I wasn't doing him any favors by stringing him on and pretending i was IN LOVE. It wasn't his fault, we just grew to be different over the years. Your boyfriend does not want to be with you romantically, and hes afraid to let you go because you're familiar and became the majority of his life and he DOES care for you so much, but theres no fire to it anymore and its not his fault or any fault of yours. If you think deep down you'll recognize you really don't feel a fire to him either, its all the attachment and that you THOUGHT you'd be together longer or even forever, you're dissapointed and have to start over with somenoe else eventually. Take this as a blessing because one day you'll meet someone who blows you away. don't ask him what if's... it makes it awkward and harder... if you want to be happy, tell him that you will miss him but that you cannot be around him until you're healed. It's whats best for both of you in all honesty, i would know... please trust me. If you leave the picture he might even realize how much he misses you, and he will have those moments SO LONG AS YOU ARENT AVAILIABLE TO HIM... and he might call or come by and say he wants to get back together. But you will NOT take him back you will say "look, you wanted to break up... you need to leave me alone for awhile." if it wasnt impulsive missing the attachment yall had and he really does miss YOU for You... he'll keep trying and maybe by the 10th try you can tell him you'll consider it. =) play the game, but honestly... move on at the same time.
This girl is confusing me. HELP??????????
My name is Jeffrey and I'm in a very confusing situation. Theres this girl Maria that I like and we began going out early this year. But all the sudden she ended things between us back in March because she needed to focus on herself. Recently My besfriend told me that her ex boyfriend used to physically abuse her while she was pregnant for months. so now shes scared of getting in a relationship. Me and Maria continue being friends but sometimes i feel like she acts really awkward with me, it's like she feels uncomfortable being around me And other days she gives me a big smile. 2 weeks ago we all went out for drinks, and Maria told my bestfriend that she likes me but everything in her life is complicated right now and just needs to focus on her son. That same night i expressed my feelings towards her, but she told me she cares about me and wants to be friends. I always catch her staring at me and stuff soo I dont know what to think about all this?????????? Any advice????????????
My ex boyfriend is confusing me, what should I do?
Learn the art of confusion talk. When you talking about something. Link the strangest thing/aspect to what u saying. And change the subject to that. Then link something else.illogical explanations.. And be serious about This. Like you KNOW what I'm taking about… This type of talk. You gotta leave practicality and common sense. Straightforwardness and logical . All these you gotta leave at the door.NOW you can confuse the sh** out of him.
My ex is confusing me with things he says, what's his deal?
Looking Beyond the SurfaceLook at your friend objectively.Be careful, though! You might be inclined to see only what you want to see. So take your time. Try to perceive your friend’s true nature. This will take effort on your part.But that’s only to be expected.To illustrate: Imagine thatyou want to purchase a car. How thoroughly would you research it? Would you be concerned only about the outer appearance? Wouldn’t it make sense to look deeper—perhaps learning as much as you could about the condition of the engine?This maby help you to see that in another perspective. Please dear friend. Take care of yourself. Can make you very ill psychically if you just want to take your own way alone. Maybe he is not the right person for you. It can destroy you very hard. If the person not show the right attitude now, how bllir it later in life?Being older and lose you dream life friend. Maybe even the person being unfaithful to you. Would you like to have it so? Think with your heart as well.So consider carefully! You may don’t state thinks not clear-sighted. Everything is pink shimmer for you. I myself have made the stupid mistake. Wasted 18 years of my life with wrong person for me. DON’T MAKE THE SAME STUPID MISTAKE. PLEASE!Think and ponder carefully first. Think of the consequences that may occur later in your life.Questions Young People Ask—Answers that work for you also. [Download the book Free and look if you get some wise word there.]