Had an awkward situation with my sons friend....need help on this please!?
I'm 42 happily married and a mother of 2. Last week my son which is 13 had a few friends over to swim in the pool, I was out back reading a magazine and trying to sun. then one of my sons friends comes by and we start talking..now he says the water was to cold but I doubt it. He was wearing either grey or white trunks and since they were wet you could see everything going on down there. Now what I saw surprised me this was easily the biggest penis i'd ever seen. Definitely didn't expect a 15 year old to have something like that, I mean for goodness sakes hes two years older then my son who I still consider my baby lol. And anyways apparently he noticed me looking. He was laughing when he asked me "what are you looking at"?I felt so embarrassed for looking at one of my sons friends like that. I made up some lie and told him even though he already knew what it was...But now I can't look at look at him like a little boy anymore I don't know what to say should I apologize or what? Should I feel wrong for noticing he had a huge penis? How should I approach him about what happened? I don't want him to tell my son about it. please I need help, and am I in the wrong for noticing something like that in the first place?
How can I help my friend with her abusive home situation?
I'd like to hear an update on your friend. I'm glad to hear she is in therapy, and I agree with others that she should leave the home, but I also want to emphasize that she should be evaluated by a psychiatrist and placed on a good regimen of mental health medication to help her cope with the anxiety and depression that are very likely contributing to her self-harm and suicidal thoughts. This may be another way you can help her from long distance, if you do the research and provide her with a doctor's name and phone number. Too often when family doctors prescribe anti-depressants they are too conservative in the dosage and the patient does not get any benefit from the medicine. But there are many good drugs out there that can help your friend, if she is able to be assessed by a competent psychiatrist.
Please help me and my best friend with this complicated situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
Seriously, she has the best of both worlds right now. You behave like a boyfriend (gifts, always being there for her, etc), yet you are just "friends". Why should she risk losing the best of both worlds by entering into a real relationship with you? She said "no" when you asked her out. Take her word for it that she means it. I think you may need a new best friend.
Please help with my friend's immigration situation?
Hello. Basically, his family members including himself was working on EB3 unskilled worker immigration under his wife name. They were interviewed on last october but unfortunately they were placed on AP (administrative process) and then TP (transfer in progress) which I understand are referring to immigration rejection. My friend is currently MD and has been interested in working in US as medical doctor and applied for residency. He was recently offered an interview from an hospital in US for residency program and needs to come to US for interview. Given his situation where EB3 has been on AP and TP, our understanding is that he is not eligible for ESTA visa which I understand requires no history of applying for any type of immigration, what is his option if any? Can he still apply for B1 or B2 visa? If possible, does he need lawyer to process this? Also, supposing he gets into this residency program which offers J1 visa, will he have problem getting this visa due to his prior record regarding his recent EB3 request being turned down? If he needs lawyer and he gets legal service from an immigration lawyer, how much will be likely fee he needs to be aware of? Thanks.
Best friend's boyfriend is mean to me. Need help with this situation.?
Basically, what went down is that last night me, my best friend, her boyfriend, and some of our mutual guy friends all went to a movie. I have a crazy personality, and my best friend is more of the quiet type and that's why we've been best friends for the longest time - we both offset each others personalities. She's more like my sister. My best friend's bf is like a brother to me - he is so nice to me (usually) and he treats my best friend well so I have no problem with him. Last night, however, before the movie started, he turned to me and told me in a very rude way: "Look, don't talk during the whole movie because there are people here who actually want to watch the movie that they paid for and I'm one of them." I didn't really know what to say so I just kind of looked at him, and he repeated what he said but this time he practically screamed it and said it in an even more rude tone. I'm guessing he was referring to my loud personality but it's not like I can't control myself. I stay quiet during movies. My bff instantly became furious at him for treating me like this and they were both pissed at each other for the rest of the night. It pissed me off so much that I fell asleep in the movie and didn't even watch it. My best friend feels very bad about it and is scared that it will ruin our friendship. I've told her numerous times that it won't, but I honestly don't know what will happen. Her bf apologized to me and I think he genuinely meant it, but he has been acting rude towards me for some time now and it has been getting progressively worse and worse. I honestly don't know how to handle this situation. Any advice/input is greatly appreciated.
A friend is in a terrible situation. I could help them, but it is very risky for me. What should I do?
I don't know your friend's unique situation, but I do know this, true friends don't emotionally black mail each other. Since I don't know what else to say, here's a little story I think might help. I once had a friend who told me her parents were going to kill her. "Hold on! I'm going to come over!" I screamed via text, all caps, and ran down my staircase to find my mom. "Mom! We need to call the police! My friend's parents are going to kill her!" *stares blankly* "Why?" "I don't know! That's what she said!""We're not going to do anything. It's none of our business." "MOM!" I fumed. I shouted. I wanted desperately to do something to save my friend from the wrath of her evil parents.This was 10 years ago. I was 15, and so was she. She had a fight with her parents and was being dramatic. Let's say for instance though, she was going to get killed by her parents. 1. She would have called the police already and not spent 30 minutes talking to me about it before she mentioned that.2. She would probably already be dead, if her parents really wanted that.3. What exactly was I supposed to do? What fantasy movie world did I think I lived in? Real life doesn't have crystal clear good / evil dynamics and witty dialogue, it's a cluster cuss of grey area and ambiguity. In essence, my involvement would have made things worse, on me and her, because I didn't have full context of the situation. She was 15 years old and was trying to involve me in her drama to take personal responsibility off of herself. I don't know your friends situation, again, but it sounds like this is something that would really hurt you to get involved with. Is this something you're even qualified to handle? I would suggest helping your friend brainstorm other people to talk to who might actually be able to assist them in their situation better than you could. Friends are great! But we don't know everything. Sometimes the only thing we can do is be a cheerleader and biggest fan. ***EDIT***As others have astutely pointed out someone who is emotionally blackmailing you is probably out for themselves and doesn't care about what happens to you. True friends care about each other, and would never intentionally put their friends in dire straits on account of their own actions.
My friends are such cowards i need help?
It's a really enviable characteristic to be able to deal with those tough situations like you do. But every time that a problem arises and your friends runaway, taking care of it yourself just reinforces their behavior. They learn that you'll take care of the situation and they won't have to. An obvious problem arises: if you don't deal with the situation and they don't either, then bigger problems can develop. First, if you haven't already, you should talk to your roommates about how it's not fair for you to have to deal with all of these awful situations and that they aren't doing their fair share. If they persist in running away from every problem, then you should try offering a reward for taking care of situations. Like in the party situation, you could have told your roommates that you'll buy drinks (or whatever) for whoever gets them out of the house. While it's not ideal to bribe them for something they should already be doing, it may help, and each time they take action, it'll become easier for them to take action again next time. If none of that works and you feel strongly about this issue, then I suggest resorting to threatening to move out (but only if you really mean it). You deserve to have roommates that will shoulder some of the load.
Need help with situation with 2 girls that's giving me anxiety.?
I'm a male mid 20's, and I'll be talking about 2 females in their early 20's--both friends I made at work, but one is a self-proclaimed lesbian (we'll call her K) and the other is a girl I really really like (maybe even love) but I'm not as close to her as I want to be (let's call her H). I worked with K first, and H started the job right before K moved out of state, so supposedly friends, but I'm not entirely sure. K came to visit, and I said if she needed a roommate (to move back) to just let me know and I'd help her out. I have no romantic intentions with K at all, I see her more like a dude, and just a friend. However, K would likely be returning to the same job where it's just me and H working. I barely get to see H at work, we have different shifts, and my biggest fear is that she'll find out K is my roommate, and get the wrong idea. I've tried so hard to get closer to H, and if I had to choose which one I want in my life, I choose H. I was thinking I could talk to H about it, but the rarity we see each other, it'd be too awkward. She would also get mad because K never tells her these things, and doesn't come off as a good friend. I can't tell K that I like H because there is always the chance that K likes me, and could sabotage my relationship with H. What do I do? My main priority is keeping H in my life. If I move in with K, I could find a place close to work, and closer to H, so there might be possibility for harmony, but I just don't know how they'll react.