No Social Life. Need Help?
I STRONGLY advise you go to therapy. You will learn techniques for coping with your anxiety and how to make new friends; even how to hold a conversation with a stranger. Everyone has dysfluencies from time to time, even those with "normal" speech. Ditto for awkward silences. You probably aren't on the right medication, or on the wrong dose for your needs. I'd see a psychiatrist rather than relying on a family doc for management of your anxiety. If you want to work on your stuttering, try stuttering.org or stutteringhelp.com.
Can a person live happy life unsocially?
Define unsocially.Is it a complete obscure from everyone, not having a family or even a single friend?Or is it a life dedicated just to your family/ a handful friends?If it is the former case, then at some point of life, you’ll start missing on the things. A strange loneliness will surround you. No matter how rich you are/ lavishing life you lead, the emptiness of not having a dear one for whom you live, will haunt you. In such a case, maybe you can adopt a child/ grandparents; visit orphanage/ old age homes or even having a pet can help you do away with that loneliness. The fact that you have someone waiting for you at home when you return in the evening is enough to give you happiness.If it is the latter case, you are blessed in a unique way. No drama, no formalities, no unwilling visits to people just to conform to society norms. Although you will miss on a lot of things but such kind of life too has no less advantages. It all depends on the kind of person you are - introvert or extrovert. It is very much possible to lead a happy life if you are this kind of unsocial!
I become anti-social as soon as i start smoking weed?
When i am sober i am a fun, friendly outgoing person. Im not loud but i talk with everyone and i make jokes and just laugh. As soon as i smoke weed and get high, i get in my own world, and think about how everyone else is feeling. I love the feeling i get of being high, but ithink and over analyze things. I always end up telling myself im just over analyzing things and thinking because im high. Even in front of my best friends i become so quiet like if they say somethin i jus smile and i think about how im jus smiling and being fake and i dont listen to what they say at all. I think im going to quit but what could i do to have a better time being high? thanks
I think I have social anxiety disorder?
I hate meeting new people, especially if its anticipated. It doesn't matter who it is. I hate eating in from of people, because I always feel like I got something on my mouth, or shirt. I hate public speaking, I hate reading in front of people, I hate preforming in front of someone. I hate when other people take my picture, I can take my own picture, but Like I've skipped school just because it was picture day. I do not like trying something or doing something that I've never done before in front of others. Like bowling for example. I hate going to social group setting, like parties or gatherings. I just feel out of place. But I can go to like concerts and stuff because the attention isn't on me. I really don't like talking on the phone, especially if I don't really know that person. I don't really like touching other people's hands, or when they touch me. I don't like when people give me gifts, because I feel like now I have to immediately get them something. And it just feels awkward. I do not dance, at all. I've skipped school over that also. Ive also skipped school over music concert. I procrastination way too much. Over all I've just stop desiring to be social. All these symptoms started around 13-14 years old. And its beginning to get to the point where its ruined my life. Ive never been to a psychiatrist because the thought of paying someone to talk to, and then sharing all of these things and thoughts with a complete stranger seems...well, really agonizing. So I was wondering, Anyone out there have social anxiety disorder? Do you take medications for it? Have the medications helped?
How to change a very unsocial life?
Sorry about the lenght, I was wondering if anyone was like a shy ugly duckling that suddenly gained confidence. The thing is I've never had a close circle of friends cos my parents moved around a lot and I guess it was always easier to make friends when you're young but now at college I have so much trouble socializing it's like I'm inexperienced at being a friend and making friends and when I make them I fear they might abandon me. My self-esteem is low. The friends I had in high-school have separated and moved on and have great lives. I feel lonely in a way that I can't get a good social life. I suffer inside. I've never had a gf never went to holidays with my friends. People I recently soon find out my shyness and unsocial life. If I kind of like a girl I fear she will be repulsed by my unsocial life.If I don't change my life i fear it will be like that all my life.What should I do?
Can being brought up by a quiet, introverted and kinda unsociable parent affect you?
Hi :) lol, basically Im trying to figure life and myself out and I'm confused I'm trying to figure out if it is low self confidence I have or if I am a bit unsociable due to being brought up by someone like that in my early years (as my teacher once said that the younger years in someones life is the most important as it determines what kind of person they will be when they are older) I do talk to people and enjoy talking to people but sometimes it just doesn't seem natural or come naturally and I'm not a stupid person (lol, honest) but sometimes I say stupid things that I wouldn't normally say, so whats my problem? Lol, sorry if this is confusing, thanks for reading my muddled thoughts,
Is it possible to be a good looking guy and have no idea? I lived a lonely and unsocial life on the countryside with no dad and I'm completely unconfident and insecure. I have no one to talk to about this and I can't believe my thoughts.
I think it is possible. A young woman I know saw a 30 year old videotape of a meeting I was in. I’m 70 now and she remarked on how good looking I had been at 40. Somehow, the way she said it made me see myself though her eyes and it was as if I realized for the first time how much better looking I had been than I realized. I regretted a little that I had probably missed out on some opportunities with attractive women because I didn’t realize what I had to offer.So, if all that was not just a young person trying to make an older person feel better, I guess it is possible to be a good looking guy and have no idea.