How do you deal with people who mock you?
People always mock because of weakness. Think about it… if you are ok, what need do you have to mock anyone ?So when they do it, they are trying to divert attention to you. But they are doing it for a reason… the reason is that the thing that they are mocking you for is something that they, very privately, have some insecurities with, and they would rather people “saw” those insecurities in you, not them.I don’t recommend meeting aggression with aggression. And mocking is really a type of aggression. So another option for you is to say that you understand. That you understand what the person is saying. That you get it. You acknowledge it.What are you saying with that ? You are not saying that it’s true. You are saying that you understand “it”. But what is “It” ? Is it that you are actually ugly/small/a failure ….. ? Or is it that you understand his/her insecurity ?The response is ambiguous, and not aggressive. It does not publicly accept what the mocker is saying, nor does it challenge the mocker to escalate. But it does allow him/her to maybe think that you somehow have spotted their insecurity. And the fear of that being exposed may make him/her think twice before reoffending.
Why is it wrong to mock people with disabilities?
Sigh. I will assume this question is sincere.Mocking people with disabilities is wrong because:You may not know whether that person has someone like Dwayne Johnson as a relative who may not take kindly to any abuse of their loved one.You may be mocking someone who got those disabilities from combat after volunteering to serve their country. That person has more courage in his/her pinky finger than the person doing the mocking.“ You laugh. You think you’re immune. Go look at your eyes; they’re full of moon.” Joni Mitchell was describing romantic love in this song called “The Last Time I Saw Richard”, but it fits here too. Do you think you are better than someone with a disability? Really? Well, you aren’t. You are a car crash, a virus, or a botched surgery away from all sorts of disabilities. “Accidents Will Happen”, said Elvis Costello, and he wasn’t fooling around. You go ahead and mock that person trying to cross the street with a walker. Who will give a holy damn about you when the speeder staring at their phone crashes into you, and you end up with paralysis from the waist down? Yes, it could happen to you. Get your polio vaccine, while you are at it. One of the most memorable presidents of the United States didn’t have access to a polio vaccine, so he ended up with polio and paralysis. I know that becoming a US president doesn’t have the charm that it once did, but making it in politics while dealing with paralysis is not easy.There are people who don’t look disabled, but they are disabled. They have a hidden disability. You may end up offending someone who looks like the spitting image of able, but is not. You may find yourself in an unpleasant situation.Other people have covered that it is mean to do such a thing. You are forgetting your own humanity when you mock someone for a disability. When you get right down to it, disability is no different from many other things in life: it is beyond one’s control. So I suggest you respect the power, whatever it is, that makes one child grow up with Down syndrome while you got lucky. That is all that happened to you—chance left you alone at birth. It may not do that again. You never know what life is going to hand you.Anyone who mocks another with disabilities is lower than the scum within your bathroom faucet. And yes, I’m referring to Donald Trump who did that on the campaign trail.
Can someone teach me how to be a player?
players only get a girl because they are loud and obnoxious and they dress like a gangster, they talk back to teachers and all the girls feel it's okay to openly admit they like them. Trust me, girls like all types of guys at my school, but the ones that like a player openly admit that they him because everyone likes a player and it's okay and they won't get judged. Get what i mean? So if you still wanna be a player after all that, here's how. 1.) Know that girls are easily replaceable and act like a huge dick to everyone not caring about their feelings, y'know just make racist jokes and make fun of someone to their face and people will laugh along. 2.) Dress like all the other players at the school and mouth off the the teachers in your class. for example Teacher: DENNIS YOU DIDN'T DO YOUR MATH HOMEWORK AGAIN? Player: Stfu b*tch, i'll do what i want. 3.) Slap the girls butts, basically having no respect for personal space and privacy. Act like all the girls are your barbie dolls for you to play with. 4.) ask girls out, acting like you don't care whether they say yes or no, if they say yes, cheat on them with their best friend the next week. If they say no, go ask her best friend out anyways. YOU NEED: a ridiculous amount of self confidence sense of style popularity other players to back you up and alot of girls gossiping about you (good or bad, it doesn't matter)
Why do people make fun of me for trying something new but do not try it themselves?
Great answers here already. When my kids were tiny I noticed how people laughed at them all the time - for anything and everything they did they were laughed at. After my first child got to 3 years of age, I talked to him about it and found out that he was mightily pissed off with it.So I set out to put a stop to it.I challenged everyone not to laugh at my kids when they tried things - like imitating adults to find out whether or not it fitted their own emerging sense of self, like singing out loud and freely, dancing in public, painting, asking questions of people - anything and everything, things they said that were remarkable in their observation, and challenging to our adult ways of seeing things.People laughed and I had to work really hard to get them to stop. They almost considered it their right to laugh at my children. SO I had to put them right EVERY time, not by attacking them, but by pointing it out, and asking how they felt when people laughed at them for trying something new out. I asked them whether they thought they would try something they were laughed at twice. I asked them how many talents and skills they had failed to develop because they ad been laughed at - like SINGING. How many people say “Oh I can’t sing - people cover their ears and make jokes when I sing”. Everyone can sing, they simply get trained NOT TO.My elder daughter is an actor - a fantastic actor, truthful and powerful in her integrity and authenticity. My 16 year old is a musician - truthful and authentic, insightful and life changing stuff she produces. They both dance in public and get their voices heard.So I feel you - you have been laughed at - and that is like an emotional cancer. It stops kids and adults from fully exploring who they could be in this great laboratory called life. So, excuse my language here but I think it is warranted, say “F**k you” to those who laugh at you because really they laugh only to belittle you as you shame them for their own inhibitions. They are repeating the way they were brought up - and their laughter is evidence that you are alive, and well, and developing, and becoming a master by making mistakes and errors and learning from hem to become better and better at whatever it is they are laughing at you for.Be brave, be bold, be everything you can become that attracts you and improves the world.Power TO YOU.
Why do people hate on loners?
It's just that this generation puts heavy emphasis on social interactions than it ever did before. And of course, it means the characteristic of being introvert is statistically abnormal (uncommon). Why people hate? Simply human nature to be judgmental and distance themselves from others that are different. Just ignore their ignorance and it isn't weird.. Assholes will always find their ways to be assholes.
How does skinny-shaming affect people? Do they start seeing them being thin as a problem or something they don't like about themselves?
Skinny shaming has never ended for me. I just learnt to deal with it somehow.I have always been underweight. My height is 170 cm and my current weight is 47 kg. I have never weighted more than 50 kg. I am naturally skinny. I am reminded of that regularly. A new acquaintance within a few hours of talking to me: “Oh you are so thin!” EVERY parent of every friend of mine when I come to their house: “Oh you are so thin!” Relatives seeing me after long time: “Oh you are so thin!”Sometimes these comments are said in disgusted voice, sometimes with envy, sometimes with care (“You will look healthier if you put on some weight!”). In the end of the day they all freak me out because they point out my body as if it is thing, something everybody can discuss freely. I am so much more than my body. And I really do not think that my humble figure deserves that much concern. I am healthy, I eat and exercise properly. I am OK!It took me long time to distance myself and my own self awareness from what is being said about my body. As a teenager I felt constant need to apologize as if my thinness was a disease threatening people. It is a hurting discovery that, despite the fact that I feel so good and comfortable in my body, people are willing to point out how wrong my body is. This shame of my own body tortured me for many years and I am still over coming it in some or other way.What helps? Exercise certainly does. When you see how you become stronger, more flexible and active, you care so much less what others say. You see your beauty with your own eyes, anything else hardly matters. I also filter my friend circle. If, for whatever reason, somebody cannot stop talking about my weight, I distance myself from them. Mature and polite people do not behave like those. I want to be with friends who love and appreciate me. Anyone else may leave.As a thin person for long time I thought that other people had some right to discuss my body. I thought if I looked so weird, of course, it was okay for others to mention it. I realized it is wrong. Nobody has a right to judge my face, my weight, my body. I am the one who decides what is good for me, not they. Since I understood this simple truth it’s been much easier to reduce skinny shaming in my life.
Why do people pretend to be your friend when they really don't care about you and secretly make fun of you?
There are people good, bad and the ugly. It's human nature.You will witness all these people in your life, choosing the right ones to be your friend is the real deal.Moreover, friends don't pretend to be so, they do care and mock you on your face!In fact for the “why” part;“People pretend to be your friend” because that's the way it is. They aren't interested to be friends with you. They just need you to fulfill their agendas, they won't reveal it, would they?“They really don't care” well because they have their (selfish) motives, that is why they approached you at the first place. They aren't your friends, that doesn't makes them inhuman or anything. It's just they don't care about you “as a friend”.They “secretly make fun of you” because you are their facebook friend or just another peer. They are hanging out with those people who really mean something for them. Anyone or anything outside their circle is bound to get mocked if it deserves to be made fun of. Period.Well, i have had people in my life who did all the three to me, many of them are not in my life anymore and i don't bother to contact them now. Only thing i made sure was not allowing them to exploit me.But at the same time i have earned a “few good friends” as well.There are two sides of a coin. Remember.
Why do people hate furries?
Largely, it boils down to the porn. See, the Furry Fandom as a whole is a group largely consistant of people who feel unaccepted and unappreciated (hence the large gay/bi population). So, ALL things are generally accepted among furries, particularly the belief that one is actually a cartoon animal "trapped in an uneducated human shell" or what have you....along with assorted sexual fetishes. You know, the sick, twisted, deviant stuff that even a girl on the docks of Boston late at night would dry-heave to think about. So, not only does this get accepted, but by the magic of roleplay this sort of thing tends to get shared, spread, even GLORIFIED in some cases. Then it gets artwork, rather EXTENSIVE artwork, and pasted all over the place. Then, if somewhere like say, DeviantArt, says "No, we do NOT want midgit rape tentacle hermaphrodite scat taur vore bestiality pedophile porn on our site", they tend to cry up a storm as loudly as possible about how others are "oppressing" them and their lifestyle. Even though most websites can get the federal axe for alowing the last two things in that list, what with them being illegal....well....EVERYWHERE. Then there's the anthro artists, who don't want to be assosciated with this sorta' thing. People who just like drawing fuzzy people because they're more fun to draw than humans, on average. Folks who don't wear fursuits, or if they do it's more for fun and cute, than something perverse. Because of the actions of the crazies, some artists get lumped in with more or less unprosecuted sex offenders, because that's all outsiders tend to SEE. Then there's idiots who think Bugs Bunny needs to put pants on. And that drawing a duck that talks is an affront to God. They pretty much hate everything, really, and the furries are just a big, glowing red target that's screaming showtunes at the top of its lungs and doing a booty dance.
How to tell someone you don't want to be friends with them nicely.?
Okay so Im friends with this girl and she's really annoying. her names andrea. So Andrea is really irritating me. she always stutters and doesnt make sense. She lies alot too and makes disgusting comments that dont even go with our conversations. No of my friends and I like her but we feel bad because she has no friends. (btw where in 8 th grade) Andrea is obsessed with the movies rise of the guardians and peter pan. which i think is kinda awkward when me and my friends talk about one direction, justin bieber, josh hutcherson, liam hemsworth, etc.. and she talks about peter pan. She always lies about things once she told me she went to a justin bieber concert and i asked her to send me the pix and she admited she lied to me. also she just agrees with everybody even if she doesnt think their right. she rights me wierd letters too. the wierdest one was "i know we only met last year but i know our realtionship is strong. I wanna be with you forevea and eva" i got kinda wierded out by this because i am not a lesbian. also she always says i know im wierd please dont be mad at me. i feel kinda bad fir her but when she told me this it was the last straw... so in science on Friday there was a thermometer on the table and she picked it up and said "oh a thermometer hey Krista (me) im gonna put it up ur butt" i was just staring at her like da fuq u just say *****. i just said "thats disgusting" and then Andrea said "oh i dont mean it" and im just sitting there with a disgusted look on my face thinking then why the fuq would u say that!! I dont know a nice way to tell her i dont want to be her friend. i always start but then i dont finish because im scared shes gonna cry. also she tells me im her best friend which makes it even worse! what do i do?? i need answers fast please thanks!