What should one do in their 20s to avoid regrets in their 30s and 40s?
Noticed something funny?People in their 30’s purchase a house on a massive loan.Why?So that when they do become old, they can live in it.So what they do is buy a house for a 30 year mortgage or loan and work their ass off for the next 30 years to pay for the loan.Funny thing is - they are working like a dog - spending their entire youth chasing, running and making - so that they can live in a house during their old age.Funny right?And they do not even think of the possibility that - maybe, just maybe - they may die before hand or that something may happen before that - which can change the entire course of their lives.So what these people and many others like them do is - live for the future.First and foremost - How do you know you will live until the age of 40? or 30?How do you know you may not die within 1 year? Next month? Next week?How do you know?The fact is - no one knows!Everyone likes to assume or believe they will live until the ripe old age of 75 or 100. It is nice to have an Optimism Bias but it is better to be practical and realistic.No one knows if you or I will live until the age of 30 or 40.And whatever advice I may give you today - may not be applicable in another few years.Why?Because you have changed, people have changed, the environment has changed and our world has changed.Given a planet where the technology changes every few weeks - you seriously want someone to give you advice for the next 10 years?Well - if you really want something worthwhile to keep in mind and heart….here would be the advice I would give.Live everyday as if it were your last day on the planet.Do everything that needs to be done - so that if you were to die tomorrow - you would live your life knowing - you have no regrets.That doesn’t mean live it recklessly or take a credit card and blow it out it completely. What I mean is - do those things money cannot buy and those things that do not hurt others. And live in a manner that is true to your value system. And where ‘living for the future goes’ - cross that bridge when it arrives.Remember - do not waste what you have right now - for hopes and anticipation for a future you have not seen and do not know if it will ever come.That is why what you have right now - is called “The Present”.Loy Machedo
How does it feel to have a mental illness put a damper on all (or some) of your dreams?
I really don't mean to throw a pity party for myself, but it's awful.I have severe clinical depression. Actually, it might be bipolar II - my psychiatrist prescribes me lithium and an SSRI but has always referred to it as depression. My illness, combined with general incompetence unrelated to the illness, cost me most of my high school and college years in the form of vicious cycles: I would have horrible depressive episodes (the illness part), fail to pick up the pieces afterward (the general incompetence part), and then start all over again. After floundering during my first year of university, I was forced to "withdraw" (read: drop out) and have not managed to successfully petition to return.Growing up, I did well at school and in extracurriculars. Asian parents love to compare children, and I was always the gold standard to which my cousins were compared. Fast forward 10 years. My family members who were previously described as lazy, scatterbrained, or slow are now founding startups, running businesses, and serving in federal government offices, while I am an unstable college dropout who can't even land a food service job* and is an utter embarrassment to my parents. Oops!There are too many things I want to do, and most of them require a BA to get in the door. Only I can't focus on getting a BA; I have to focus on getting well enough and proving to my school that I'm ready to come back for a BA. Honestly, it feels like an obstacle, and the more time that goes by, the more I struggle, the older I get, the more I run out of time. It's a race against the clock, a near-adversarial relationship with my therapist, and ultimately a fight against myself. I know that I'm ill, but I'm frightened that, ultimately, everything is my own fault. That if I'd sucked it up instead of wandering around aimlessly in a catatonic depressive stupor all those times, I'd still be in school, making the dean's list. That if I'd just stayed in contact with this person instead of letting the friendship die out, I'd be involved in some awesome organization instead of floating adrift and networkless on my own. That if I'd just done one single thing differently, I wouldn't be where I am right now. In short: it's awful.*No, I'm not implying that there's anything wrong with working food service. I can't tell you how many times I've had to clarify that to people...
What are some examples of bad design?
There are two types of bad design :First, you have design fails that are just the product of bad luck or wrong timing :That’s as wrong as can be …That’s actually a picture for a pie eating contest.And then we praise Christian Bale for his physical transformations.A few hidden milimeters is all that is needed.I feel like no matter what you put on those kinds of vans, it will come out wrong.2015 sure was a wild year.I can understand how this doesn’t come to mind at first sight, but it still quite funny once you think it through.Those models are attributed their shirts by a bot after the shooting. Maybe they should double-check from time to time …And then you have outstanding design fails that should have been noticed instantly :Donut try to get fancy with such an important message.Thanks, I’ve been working my whole life for this.This was an official submission for the EU flag (2002). We can see the concept, we can’t see how it was approved.This is just giving me uncontrolable anxiety. Some numbers are even missing. HOW.Safety first, good thing they have helmets.Mah rizza.I’ll pass, thanks.This is actually perfect if you dislike your aunt.I still can’t wrap my head around the fact that most of those did go through some tests and double-checks, but remained undetected somehow.Sources :[1] : The 31 Worst Things That Have Ever Happened To Design[2] : COMIC SANS GALORE • r/CrappyDesign[3] : Google Images